My husband earned more than 1 million a year and had no affair, but his parents advised me to divorce. The saddest thing in life is that I can’t make the decision in my life, but my parents have the final say.
The serious behavior of my parents' cross-border has made me feel depressed because I can't find the meaning of life.
Xiaoyi, 36 years old this year, studied for her parents in college, her husband was chosen for her parents, and her children were born for her parents. My whole life was for them.
My parents are teachers and have been very strict with me since childhood. In terms of study, they never give me excuses to be relaxed or lazy. They usually have no other entertainment except for their studies. Even reading novels that have nothing to do with study is disrespect and blasphemy to life. When filling out the application form for the college entrance examination, I wanted to study art, but my parents said that this major is not easy to find a job after graduation in the future, so I had to fill in some hard-to-find majors that are easy to find, such as studying medicine, teachers or finance. In the end, my father forced me to fill out the application form for the financial application.
I am disgusted with my parents' interference, but I am unable to push it away. They always say, "No parents will harm their children. We are all for your own good."
They are not harming me, they are just devouring me, wishing they could live in my body and take charge of my life for me.
I was very decadent throughout my college years. This university was not what I wanted to study, but for my parents. After graduating from
, they used their relationship to arrange me to be a teller in a bank.
's constantly monotonous and boring work has driven me crazy. I can even see my life at a glance, watch myself grow old slowly, and sit at that counter waiting for retirement.
But I still don’t have the courage to resist my parents and quit my job. A few years later, I became depressed, couldn't be interested in anything, and I also had insomnia all day long.
My parents thought that maybe my interpersonal relationship was too narrow, so I just wanted to go out to make friends and talk to each other, so they took the initiative to arrange a blind date for me and introduce my boyfriend.
Zhang Heng appeared in my life at this time. He was three years older than me, not tall, but he achieved little success in his career. He opened a small company with an annual income of more than 1 million yuan, but he is relatively dull.
I married Zhang Heng. On the one hand, I think he is a reliable person, and on the other hand, my parents are very satisfied with him, but it has nothing to do with love.
For me, as long as I don’t hate it.
After getting married, I thought I could escape from my parents, but they still didn't spare me. Who made me their only daughter? My marriage is less than a year, and my parents keep urging me to have children. After I gave birth to my eldest child, they felt that one child was too lonely. I hugged two in three years and welcomed the second child.
I only realized afterwards that they urged me to have a child to have an excuse to live in my house openly, and naturally help me take care of the child. My two daughters were like they were born. Seeing them busy surrounding the children, I felt like I was back before getting married, but this time, I was no longer an only child, but I seemed to have two more sisters.
I don’t know if it was postpartum depression or my parents made me depressed, my mental state was even worse, and Zhang Heng became my punching bag, fortunately he had a good temper. I always hide from me and stay in the company and get off work very late. Unexpectedly, his hiding became the point of my parents' performance. They often make a big fuss in front of me and start complaining about his fault.
said that he changed after getting married, and now he is not as respectful as before. He said that he ignores his family, does not care about his children, and does not care about me. The money earned by the company was not handed over to me for management, and kept reminding me to beware of him.
In their eyes, Zhang Heng's previous advantages became shortcomings. They all had negative hypnosis in my ears every day, and what they wanted to express was one meaning. This son-in-law was not good, and they were wrong at the time. I don’t let them down. I originally didn’t have much affection for Zhang Heng. The couple’s life between us has always been cold and I just handled the homework. I never had the orgasm of love between men and women.
Under the nagging of my parents, I also disliked Zhang Heng in all kinds of dislikes. At the beginning, this husband chose for his parents, but now they are not satisfied, so I don’t need to provide for it. During a big quarrel, Zhang Heng filed for divorce with me angrily, because he couldn't stand my parents' pickyness towards him and my coldness towards him. After hearing this, my parents sneered, "It's time to divorce. Even if we were to take a look at it, the house and children belong to us, and each person has half of the property." I think my parents want me to divorce earlier so that I can return to their arms.
Zhang Heng agreed. Before leaving, he said to me helplessly: "You are too close to your parents. No matter how hard I put in, you will never be able to insert it between you."
After the divorce, I finally collapsed and shouted to my parents: "You are satisfied now, your son-in-law whom you don't like has been driven away by me." I feel that my life is not messed up by my parents, but just living for him. can now maintain a certain boundary with parents, gain more control over their own life, and find a boyfriend again and start a new life.
