The reader wrote to me and said:
It has been less than a year since I got married, and I seem to feel like I have been on a pirate ship. I wonder if everyone's marriage is the same?
Let’s talk about before getting married:
When I first met my husband, in order to get my contact information, he always created the opportunity to "meet" me on my way to work. At that time, I knew that he did it on purpose, but I was still in a reserved state and pretended not to know.
After my husband has my contact information, he will send me a lot of funny videos and some sweet words every day.
After we confirmed our relationship, it is common for my husband to chat with me until midnight.
At that time, whenever there were important festivals, my husband would prepare gifts for me.
As for watching movies, shopping with me, and going to restaurants with me, that's commonplace.
Of course, during the relationship, my husband also obeyed me.
Then, after getting married, everything seemed to change:
Sometimes, my husband sat on the sofa in the living room to play games, and I talked to him, but he ignored him.
When I was in a small mood, my husband stopped coaxing me, but said to me impatiently, "You really can do it."
As for housework, I no longer work with me. Most of the time, I am alone.
Sometimes when I go shopping with him and want him to hold my hand, he will say: It’s an old husband and wife, but you still hold hands. Aren’t you ashamed?
In short, I can't feel my husband's love and care at all now.
More often, I feel that we are just living together.
I don’t know why our relationship is like this.
is not going to divorce, but I just feel unhappy.
Muzili Emotional analysis:
In the process of transforming love into marriage, men are "love veterans". Once they get married, women will think that men are "emotional liars."
I remembered a sentence: Marriage is the grave of love. For this, everyone should be confident.
Perhaps, women always value so-called romance in the emotional field, but after getting married, men will regard making money as a top priority.
For men, it is not that their wives and children are not important, but that they will feel a sense of crisis at any time when making money, and feel that if they are not able to make more money, they will not only be nagged by their wives, but also have the possibility of being abandoned by their wives.
For this reason, most men cannot maintain a good balance between family and work after getting married. More often, men tend to be career-oriented.
Perhaps, marriage is a watershed for men.
In fact, men's emotional world is relatively simple: both themselves and their wife can be loyal to their marriage, they will be happy at work every day, and their wife will not find fault after they get home, and men will feel that such a husband-and-wife relationship is already very good.
What I want to say is that most people cannot escape: the fate of romance disappearing after marriage.
There is one thing that can keep romance for a longer time: only fall in love, not get married.
So, after entering the besieged city, you must adapt to the life in the besieged city.
The essence of marriage: live together; make efforts and make progress together; the world's fireworks around the fireworks of food, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea; take care of your reputation and face in the process of living.
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