This cheating case was handled by Blue before. Because it is quite special, I have a deep impression of it.
The original wife, Ms. Zu, who came to ask for help, has been married to her husband for just three years. The two are college classmates.
fell in love since she was a freshman year, and she has achieved success after seven years of long-term success. She has lived a sweet life after getting married.
Her husband has a reorganized family. Her mother left her husband to work outside the city as soon as she was born, and she never came back.
Her husband's parents married a woman again and were not very nice to her husband.
did not beat and scold her, after all, her husband's father watched every day, and it was just cold violence.
has a great impact on her husband. The two of them were together for a while and when they were talking about family,
her husband talked about the situation, which made Ms. Zu feel very distressed, and she was also very good to face her husband later.
Her husband has been telling Ms. Zu that she wants a normal family and a healthy family model.
and Ms. Zu have two children, treat the children well and be the best parents.
So Ms. Zu was full of expectations for her marriage life at the beginning.
As a result, I was pregnant and was about to give birth. I suddenly realized that her husband had cheated on him, and the cheating partner also missed her cousin, her mother's cousin.
Ms. Zu couldn't accept it at all because the cheating man didn't have much contact with this cousin before.
It’s because Ms. Zu is pregnant. Her cousin is a doctor in obstetrics and gynecology. She always looks for cousin when going to the prenatal examination. Her husband also added a cousin's friend after
, saying that he should learn more about the situation and be able to better take care of Ms. Zu, a pregnant woman.
This cousin just divorced a few years ago because her husband cheated on him and insisted on having sex with his mistress.
In the end, she had to divorce. Her cousin's child was studying in college in another place, and she was the only one left here.
Because he is a doctor and has a good career, he has many people around him who introduce him to the subject and his conditions are also very good.
Ms. Zu never thought that her cousin would fall in love with a cheating man who was a teenager.
is even more surprised, why a cheating man betrayed him and is with a woman who is over teenager than him.
Ms. Zu couldn't accept it and was emotionally excited and gave birth directly prematurely. Her husband was very guilty.
She took leave during her confinement and kept serving her at home. She told her that she was just confused for a moment and would cheat.
means that it has been broken and will not contact you again in the future. You must live a good life with Ms. Zu.
Seven years of relationship, coupled with the newborn child, Ms. Zu finally chose to forgive the cheating man.
Less than half a year later, she accidentally discovered that her husband actually had contact with the mistress.
The man and the mistress said that he was responsible for his wife and children, but he was true love for the mistress.
And Ms. Zu's cousin also said that she doesn't want to give up easily when she meets true feelings at a very young age.
The two of them expressed their feelings to each other, but they could not be together, which made Ms. Zu have an illusion that
seems to be a problem with her and her child, and it is a villain who hindered the true love of the two and the evil ones who hindered the two of them from being together.
Ms. Zu found the man who cheated on him, and the man who cheated on him said that he had gone through and did not continue his extramarital affair.
just chats occasionally and does not continue to develop, so Ms. Zu should not think too much.
If Ms. Zu asks too much, the cheating man will be angry and say that he has already broken up. What else does Ms. Zu want to do?
Ms. Zu is very frustrated every day and doesn’t know what to do. She has no way to live a good life.
It was in this case that Ms. Zu came to Lan for help and asked me how to solve it.
Lan Fang told Ms. Zu that her husband may have some problems with his mental state.
Due to the problems of his original family, his lack of maternal love has been caused by his childhood, which makes him prone to abnormal feelings for older women.
And this cousin 's profession happens to be an obstetrician and gynecologist, and always tends to exude the brilliance of maternality.
After chatting with the cheating man for a while, the cheating man developed feelings for his cousin because of this.
This is a distorted and abnormal relationship. The cheating man may not realize it. Ms. Zu should realize it.
In this case, Ms. Zu blindly questioning the cheating man and arguing with the cheating man will only worsen the relationship and will not be of any benefit.
Followed by the suggestion of the Blue Party, Ms. Zu and the cheating man had a detailed chat, and it was recommended that the cheating man have psychological counseling.
Through psychological guidance, the cheating man realizes his own problems.
The cheating man takes off his Oedipus complex and has no so-called true love for his mistress. Naturally, the extramarital affair can be completely over.
On the other hand, compared with Ms. Zu’s husband, this mistress actually has a bigger problem.
Her husband does have some psychological problems, but he is not too scumbag.
He is still willing to be responsible for his children and his wife, break off relationships with his mistress, and does not continue to have extramarital affair.
However, judging from the performance of the mistress, the mistress is unwilling to break up, or this extramarital affair can happen, and the guidance of
and the mistress cannot escape the relationship. Why does the mistress do this actually requires analysis.
The mistress’s own marriage is unhappy. Her husband not only cheated on him, but also insisted on divorce.
In fact, most cases of extramarital affairs basically won’t go to the point of divorce.
Most cheating men are not willing to give up marriage, even if they meet a mistress who loves true love.
The reaction of a man who cheated on him is normal, because he is unwilling to divorce due to many reasons.
The reaction of the mistress’s husband, as well as the extramarital affair with the man, continue to be entangled.
can actually prove that this mistress has some problems.
is not sure because Ms. Zu provides fewer situations, but Lan Fang still believes that the mistress’s psychology is a bit distorted.
She may not be a cheating man, but a mentality that she suffers and does not want others to live a better life than herself.
This is the main reason why many women who have been cheated on themselves and divorced eventually become mistresses.
If the mistress keeps entangled, it will be very difficult to end the extramarital affair completely.
Lan Fang’s advice to Ms. Zu is that she must be stronger and suppress the mistress.
directly use the evidence to find the office of the mistress hospital and tell the mistress to continue to get entangled and she will report it directly.
and exposed the mistress's thoughts. mistresses are bullying the weak and afraid of the strong.
Her behavior is nothing more than anger of the weak and slashing the weaker.
She couldn't beat the third party and was snatched away by someone, so she took revenge on a woman who was weaker than her.
Ms. Zu's performance is stronger and the mistress cannot afford to offend her, she will not continue to provoke her.
Finally, many men cheated on older women, and basically these men have some Oedipus complex. Nine out of ten
are caused by the lack of maternal love since childhood. The original wife must understand it.
must grasp the real point of the problem in order to solve the problem from the root.
If you encounter an extramarital affair and don’t know what to do, you can follow the Blue Party and send a private message to talk about your situation.
I am Lan Fang, an emotional mentor who tells the truth and does practical things.
