There is a saying among the people that those who treat you are good to you are here to repay your kindness. And those who make things difficult for you are here to collect debts.
The origin and fall of fate, the gathering and separation of fate, everything is inevitable, everything is arranged by God. What kind of person can you and I meet is not accidental, but is precisely the necessity of fate.
You meet your lover, then get married and have children, and enter the palace of marriage. This shows that you have fate in your previous life. The so-called "A hundred years of cultivation will bring you a boat together, and a thousand years of cultivation will bring you a pillow to sleep together" is this principle.
When you meet some noble people, others will help you, and you don’t know why they are so nice to you. In fact, all the good things in are "cause and effect".
The true love and noble people mentioned above are all here to find you to "repay kindness". Maybe it was you who saved them in your previous life. Maybe, they owe you favors and will come to you to return the favors in this life. Everything is indefinite.
Of course, there is another kind of person that will make us nervous, that is, the person who comes to "collect debts".
If these debt collectors are outsiders, then that is not a bad thing. If these debt collectors are our relatives, then we will be really miserable.
These three types of relatives, no matter how good you treat them, will come to you for trouble.
1. Children who are rebellious to the extreme are arranged by God to punish you.
has a reality, we have to admit that not all children come to repay their kindness. A considerable number of children came to us to "collect debts".
Both of you and your wife are relatively "behaved" people and have never done anything bad since childhood. However, you have raised an extremely rebellious child and are still like this when you grow up. This makes you wonder if this child was picked up?
There is no way, you can only endure it again and again, hoping to influence them with your tolerance and love. Who knows that the more tolerant and considerate you are, the more they will be, which will make you particularly troublesome.
If the child only has a rebellious mentality, the problem is not big, at least it won’t cause any trouble. On the contrary, if children cause trouble everywhere, be generous, arrogant, and arrogant, then they will be in big trouble.
The latter will not only ruin your property, but will also cause a lot of lawsuits and make your old age miserable.
Sometimes, we also doubt that this rebellious child is God arranged to punish us couple?
2. Parents who are extremely accused of being here to collect debts.
If our children are still under our control and we can still influence them, then our parents will not be controlled by us. On the contrary, some more pretentious parents will make us feel embarrassed.
Parents make unreasonable requests, so do you accept it or not? If accepts it, it is tantamount to making them more artificial. If you don’t accept it, others will say that we are unfilial.
After a round of psychological struggle, we made a choice, that is, to listen to our parents, and we fully accept it regardless of whether their request makes sense or not.
is just like Su Daqiang in " is good" . It has made unreasonable and unreasonable demands on three children, but all three children accepted it, and all the families were broken and their wives and children were separated. Isn’t this the sorrow of life?
It is better not to blindly "fool and filial" when children treat their parents. A foolish and filial person will only encourage his parents' unreasonable arrogance, and will have no benefit from others or themselves.
Of course we have to pay back the debts of our parents. However, we must also take a good grasp of the situation and avoid suffering from bad consequences.
3. The brothers and sisters who always fight against you are here to collect debts.
As the saying goes, “Brothers, settle accounts clearly."
is as close as a sibling, all of whom are siblings, but they still have the fate of "setting accounts" with each other. In the face of interests, even family affection seems particularly "indifferent".
When I was young, I didn't understand why brothers and sisters had to "fight around"? Is it really that difficult to live in harmony?
Later, I completely understood that really needs to be good Brothers and sisters will not fight. Only brothers and sisters who do not have "good fate" and only brothers and sisters who have "bad fate" will never die for certain benefits.
Good fate and bad fate are not as mysterious as we imagine. In fact, they are the problem of "magnetic field".
If you have similar magnetic fields to your brothers and sisters, you can live in harmony. If you are not similar to your brothers and sisters, and if you have repulsive phenomena, your relationship will only get worse and worse.
Written to the end
There are too many people in this world who come to the world because of some "obsessions". Some people's obsessions are to repay kindness; some people's obsessions are to take revenge; some people's obsessions are to fight endlessly...
There are too many obsessions in the world, so all kinds of "fate" emerge one after another. Slowly, this is woven from "fate". The world gradually emerges.
What attitude should we maintain for those who come to "take revenge"? In the words of Professor Zeng Shiqiang , just accept it happily and let it go.
Since you can't escape, don't escape. "Accepting" reality is the truth of dealing with people.
Text/Shushan Youlu
