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In life, everyone has several relatives and friends. They are not only the people who support and support for our survival and development in society.
What difficulties do you have on weekdays? If you can find relatives and give some help, it will naturally be easier to talk. A word "all relatives" can save a lot of trouble.
There is a certain blood relationship between relatives. Even if you have never met each other, once you talk about the relationship between the two parties, the distance between the two people will be invisibly closer. Compared with ordinary strangers, if two people have the foundation of relatives, they can quickly form a network of relationships.
Born as human beings, we can’t break away from family relations. We have many relatives and relatives of others. If a family has a harmonious relationship, the future of the entire family will be foreseeable prosperity.
However, not all relatives need to be maintained without reservation. Helping relatives can be done, but they must be within their own abilities and bottom line.
It is common for relatives to help each other. Sometimes it is mutual benefit and mutual cooperation, and there is no warning among strangers.
After all, everyone knows the truth, and sometimes they rely solely on family affection to help, and the relationship between people is also a kind of debt.
In theory, it is normal to make things convenient between relatives, especially to rely on this matter.
However, many people are not willing to live at home, because some relatives will always cause you endless trouble.
In fact, smart people basically won’t agree to their relatives to “leave”, for these three reasons.
"Naked children" always cause big trouble
In recent years, various "naughty children" have caused trouble one after another, which can cause displeasure from others at the least, and at the worst, it can cause major losses or disasters.
One of the major reasons for refusing to the relatives to rely on this appeal is the existence of "naughty children".
says that children aged 8 or 9 are both naughty and naughty after entering a new environment, they will release their strong desire to explore in their hearts and want to touch and play with everything.
Everyone has more or less valuable items in their homes, especially for those who have personal hobbies.
, such as some SLR lens , limited figure collection, various wine products, etc. Once these fragile products fall into the hands of children, they will inevitably be bumped and damaged, and then they will regret it.
There are many cases of "naughty kids" going to their relatives' homes to cause trouble, which eventually leads their relatives to become enemies.
For example, a figure enthusiast collected a room of figures, with a total value of more than hundreds of thousands, but was damaged by the children of relatives. In the end, both parties went to the court to pay compensation for damages.
This is unacceptable to the injured. Everyone is a relative, and it is inevitable to hurt the relationship if he demands compensation toughly. Many times, he is a mute who eats coptis and cannot express his suffering.
often "weekly and hard to see off"
There are always some people who regard their relatives' homes as a place where they provide free food and accommodation. When they are poor, they find ways to visit them, and then use their relatives' identity to live without hesitation.
You should know that visiting relatives usually does not live at the other party’s house, even if they stay for only one night.
But as the host, in order to show hospitality, he would say a few polite words and let the other party stay and play for two more days is actually a kind of polite words.
But those who are interested will always take advantage of loopholes and use your kindness to stay here and will never be willing to move.
No matter how good the relationship is, it is an outsider. An outsider always lives in his own home, and there will always be many inconveniences.
And you have to be nice to drink and eat in the garden. Everyone will be bored after a long time, and who has the courage to write "The sky keeps me, I won't keep it"?
The most important thing between relatives is face. As the master, you must be warm and hospitable and fulfill the friendship of the landlord.
However, the more you want to be shameless, the more you are afraid of being shameless. There are many shameless people. When relatives are welcomed to live at home, it is not an easy thing to send them off, and the other party can only ask to leave.
Instead of doing this, it is better not to keep the other person. If you talk too much politely, it will often become true.
Privacy in homes is easy to leak
Every family has some privacy, whether it is in life or property. Once relatives move into their homes, there is inevitably a risk of privacy disclosure.
If some little secrets that do not want to be known to outsiders are seen, they will inevitably face an embarrassing situation.
Maybe the other party was just a mistake, but accidentally caught it or discovered it, but this itself should not be known. If the privacy is leaked, it is inevitable that it will be depressed.
Relatives come to live at home and will inevitably be confused about some of the rules at home.
For example, if a girl’s boudoir is seen by outsiders, it is inevitable that she will be embarrassed, or the room where her mother breastfeeds her, in short, there will be many inconveniences when she lives at home.
privacy leakage also includes some confidential files, business secrets, etc. If it is obtained by someone who is interested, the losses will be immeasurable.
You cannot guarantee that every relative pays attention to politeness and respects other people's privacy. There are always a few curious people who will flip around.
Instead of leaving this risk at home, it is better to eliminate it from the root and try to avoid outsiders if they can move in.
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The best relative relationship is to keep a distance, stay close and be together.
You can provide the best help when the other party needs it, but do not get too close. Letting the other party stay in your home may not be a good story of harmony between relatives, and it is very likely to cause yourself a difficult problem to get rid of.
Although it is common for relatives to be convenient, if the other party really needs to stay, as the master, of course, you cannot let the other party have no place to stay.
But you have to know that the endless troubles will exhaust you.
might as well refuse from the beginning, and you can pay for the relatives to open a few hotel rooms, so that you can entertain the other party so that you will not offend others and make your home clean and safe.
We should retain humanity when dealing with relatives, and at the same time we should be vigilant and not allow potential threats to exist.
It may be harmful to not want others to live in the house. You can make up for it from other places. For example, in terms of meals and entertainment, in fact, as far as people’s heart is concerned, few people will be willing to live in the house outsiders.
