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Language is the bridge of communication between people.
On the road of life, some people speak witty words like pearls; some people speak badly and are not good at speaking.
Ji Xianlin Master said: "People should say the correct words, meaningful words, and beneficial to progress, so that people can be convinced."
People with high emotional intelligence know how to speak, and they will always achieve twice the result with half the effort when doing things.
However, in this world, there are also many people who are not good at speaking and it is difficult to express their thoughts logically and clearly.
Not good at speaking often makes the road of life more difficult and cannot shine on the stage of life.
is full of passion and talent, but because he is not good at speaking, he can only display his talents and abilities.
If you are not good at speaking and do the "three things" well, you will win.
02. Learn to listen, grasp the center of your speech and respond to others
There are many ways to communicate between people, but effective communication often has a prerequisite, that is: listen carefully.
People who are not good at speaking can first learn to listen and grasp the meaning and intentions that others want to express.
Dongfang Qingcang in " Canglan Jue " calls himself the supreme of the Three Realms, but he is not good at speaking. He likes to be alone, and when he gets along with others, he doesn't know how to express it.
However, Dongfang Qingcang is good at listening and can understand how to love his sweetheart in Xiaolanhua's words.
When she was alone with Xiaolanhua, she saw that she was unhappy and would not listen to her words and leave, but knew how to stay and give her more company.
If you don’t know how to “speak”, you can choose “listen” first. Only, first understand others and know what he wants.
Many times, what others want is not your opinion, but wanting to have someone who can listen to their inner voice.
Learn to listen can make each other more comfortable to get along with each other and break the embarrassment of being unspeakable.
If you don’t know how to speak, you can learn to listen. If you understand what others want, you will have topics of communication.
03, pass empathy , think from the perspective of others' thoughts
language, and be able to express your own thoughts. Language can also make you think about other people’s thoughts and thoughts. Learning to empathize with
will make people appreciate you more, even if you don’t speak much, it will be very important.
Many times, if you are not good at expressing yourself, you will not only not be able to communicate the friendship between each other, but also cause a lot of misunderstandings, which will create a big gap between the two people.
So, when you don’t know how to speak, you can think more with empathy.
Try to stand on the standpoint of others and understand the whole story. If you can reach empathy with others and correctly understand the real needs of others, it will be simple to communicate.
When others are not speaking, they can probably understand other people’s worries, solve their worries and problems, and truly understand other people’s emotions. The words they say can be more in line with others’ wishes.
Being able to empathize with others is like opening the heart of others. No matter what you say at this time, it is easier to be convinced and conversations can achieve your goal better.
Although it is difficult to empathize with many feelings on the road of life, you can try to understand and truly empathize. The other party will treat you as a confidant.
often doesn’t need you to say too much, because empathy can make the two hearts closer.
04. Praise in time, explore the advantages of others, praise others
Laroshvko said: "Praise is a kind of shrewd, secretive and clever flattery. It satisfies people who give praise and receive praise from different aspects."
When a person knows to praise meaningfully, his words will be sincere and lovely. Not only will you not be able to "fake big void", but you can also feel your high emotional intelligence, and you will naturally be closer to you.
If you think you are not good at speaking and difficult to make friends, you might as well start by praising others moderately. knows how to praise it, and it is easier to gain others' favor.
sincerely praise and praise will make others feel that you truly understand him, appreciate him, and affirm him.
People get along with each other. When a person can see a reflection of his self-worth in others, he will be more likely to accept him.
If you are not good at speaking, you can see what other people have external advantages and what other people have. Then, when communicating, don’t be stingy with your praise for him.
praise will bring each other closer.
But if you praise someone, you should stop at the right time. Don’t exaggerate it, and don’t let others feel that your praise is too fake. This will make others feel that you are not sincere and hypocritical.
05, summary
" Caigen Tan " writes: "Nine out of ten words may not be amazing. If you don't hit a single word, you will be more incorrect."
Learning to express on your life path is conducive to improving your career and connections.
In fact, not being good at speaking is not the worst situation. Expressing reasonably can also gain good popularity.
Communicate with people, you must know how to judge the situation and observe your expressions. Because too much talk will lead to mistakes, and too much talk will have a negative effect, so it is better to end it in time.
says too little, which will lead to a cold situation. Expressing moderately will make conversations between people more valuable.
communication, pay attention to the occasion and method.
can speak less, but you must be sincere, clear and logical, and express your thoughts appropriately. If it is simple and clear, it is easier to be accepted by others.
How to speak is actually a very important practice in life.
People who are not good at speaking can improve their emotional intelligence by cultivating their listening and empathy skills. If you practice more, you will find that you will become a person who knows how to express yourself.
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Author: Xia Mo, a new emotional tutor, psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer on the entire network of over 1 billion, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotions, gender, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.
