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01
My name is Chen Min, and I am 52 years old this year. My husband and I have been married for 30 years. When I worked in a factory, many people pursued me because of my fair skin and beautiful appearance. But only Zhao Gang is the most persistent.
He looks average, has a medium figure, is from an ordinary family, but has a good personality, and gives people a very reliable feeling when speaking and doing things. He is also enthusiastic, so he has a very popular relationship.
He is a truck driver and his income is pretty good. He is very generous and careful with me, and he is simply comprehensive.
My family is in the countryside and the family is relatively poor, while Zhao Gang's family is in the county town, so at the beginning he didn't agree with us being together.
I went to their house twice. His mother was very cold to me and said in front of me that someone had proposed marriage to her family. Although the woman looked average, her family was very good.
I was also arrogant and asked Zhao Gang to break up directly. But Zhao Gang firmly disagreed. I came to see me again and again, and even came to my house to ask my parents to plead for him. He said that if he couldn't marry me, he wouldn't want to live.
My parents, like most people, have a good impression of him. Even my brothers and sisters like him very much.
My family is simple rural people and has no particularly utilitarian ideas. They think Zhao Gang's family background and character are good. So I persuaded me to be with him. When Zhao Gang's mother saw that her son would not marry me, she no longer stopped her.
With Zhao Gang's insistence and everyone's support, we finally got married.
After marriage, Zhao Gang refused to let me go to work again. At first, his income is pretty good. Besides, he was worried about me. Because there are many men thinking about me.
In addition to being jealous, Zhao Gang is particularly good to me in life. When I come back from the car, I often buy clothes and books for me because I like reading. There are also all kinds of delicious foods. My favorite is seafood, so he bought it for me every few days.
The second year after marriage, I gave birth to my son Zhao Yu.
My mother-in-law, sister-in-law and sister-in-law have always had a bad relationship. They all think that I am too outstanding in appearance, so it is easy to attract popularity.
and I have a cheerful and easy-going personality, so I can talk to both men, women, young and old. Everyone likes my personality very much and is willing to interact with me.
They especially their mother-in-law, automatically ignored the interactions with me and the same sex, and focused on which opposite sex talked more to me and I greeted me with a smile.
Actually, I am not a frivolous woman at all. I am disgusted with those men who are truly malicious.
Sometimes I go to the vegetable market to buy vegetables, and I can also meet men who chat with me and then get entangled. I am afraid of such people.
When my son was three years old, I once took him to buy vegetables and met a man who kept getting close to me and bought a lot of snacks and forced him to Xiaoyu . It was not easy to stop me.
The child is ignorant and he even gets confused by him. For example, where does my father work, whether he is at home now, and where does our family live in. Then he actually followed me to our neighborhood. I finally got rid of him. When Zhao Gang came back after
, I told him about this. As a result, he blamed me in turn, saying that my words and deeds must be more casual, which made the man feel like he had an opportunity to take advantage of.
He also said that there are many beautiful women, why don’t they pick up conversations or follow others? This made me particularly angry. We had a cold war for two days. Later, when someone harassed me again, I stopped telling him.
02
More than ten years have passed in a flash. Zhao Gang no longer works as a driver. He opened a building materials store. The store is not big and the business is average, and it is only more than anything else. And I am still a housewife at home, and he doesn't bother me with the matter in the store.
He will give me some of the money every month, no more or less. I'm not very satisfied with this, and I hope he will give me most of his monthly income.But he disagreed. He said that opening a store to do business has a lot of capital flow and he must manage the money himself, otherwise it would be too troublesome.
Because he is also very filial to my parents, my parents also advised me not to worry about so much, not to worry about food and drink, and it is also good to be free and comfortable. After a long time, I got used to it, so I no longer tried to manage money.
Seven or eight years later, the business gradually became difficult, so Zhao Gang gave me less and less money every month. Whenever I asked, he blamed me impatiently, saying that I didn’t know how difficult and hard it was for him to make money outside, and only knew how to ask for money from him, and he didn’t understand him at all.
And I found that he had changed. He learned to go to WeChat and often kept his hands on his phone. The couple, who have always been passionate about, has become much colder. He also became more and more late when he came back, and began to pay attention to his appearance, often bought new clothes, and carefully styling his hair. I always spray some men's perfume . No matter how I look at it, I feel it is abnormal.
When I asked, he said that if he opened a store and did business by himself, of course he should pay attention to his image. If he is greasy and sloppy, who would like to deal with him? He also blamed me for being too careless and said I was suspicious.
Once, when he was taking a shower, I looked at his WeChat chat history on his mobile phone. It doesn't matter if you don't look at it, but I'm so angry when I see it. I found that he had a passionate fight with a woman. The two of them talked very closely and called each other a baby and dear. It was so stingy at the age of age that I felt so nauseous.
After he came out, I directly questioned him. He explained that he was a business partner, because they were very familiar with each other and often joked that they had no special relationship at all.
This statement is obviously just fooling me. Of course I didn't believe it, so I started a big fight with him. At first he gave in, but later he saw that I was going to send a voice question to the woman, and he became angry and slapped me in the face when he got into trouble with me. I was so angry that I went back to my mom's house the next day.
After listening to me telling me what happened and saying that I was going to get a divorce, my mother sighed and said, Mr. Xiao Zhao said that people are pretty good, and they are also good for our family. You are so old that your son will have to get married in a few years. Will your divorce have no effect on your children? Besides, you are not educated or specialized, and have been at home for so many years. What would you do? How do you live by yourself? Even if you can remarry, it is impossible to find a suitable one all at once, right?
I think what my mother said makes sense. Not to mention anything else, mothers are considering their children, and I don’t want to put a burden on my son.
So on the third day when Zhao Gang came to pick me up, I followed the flow and went home with him.
I am the youngest child in the family, and there are two brothers and one sister on it. My parents are old and live with my brother and sister-in-law. I occasionally go home and stay for a few days, but after a long time, I will naturally be rolled by my sister-in-law. My mother was in a dilemma even when she got stuck in the middle. So I can't stay at home for too long.
03
Zhao Gang naturally knew my situation, so he just apologized to me symbolically and said a few good words. After this, he did restrain himself a lot, at least there was no obvious problem on the surface.
However, he took care of me more and more seriously. As long as he found out that I said a few more words to the opposite sex, he would be unhappy. Sometimes he would get angry in front of others. It made both me and the other party very embarrassed. Even his male relatives doubted it.
If he is not at home and a male relative comes to his house, I will treat him alone. When he comes back and sees him, he will be disgraceful.
even, he was not at ease with my own male relatives. Sometimes my nephew and son-in-law come to our house to sit for a while. When he finds out, he will ask questions all the time. I don't know why his thoughts are so unhealthy.
. On the contrary, he is very enthusiastic about my female friends and all the female relatives in our family. As long as anyone comes to our house, he will try his best to keep them for dinner or overnight, and the hospitality is very attentive.
Of course, he is friendly, caring and considerate to all women, so the relationship between women has always been quite good.
If I question him, he would say that I was mentally dirty and I didn’t want to do anything serious except for the things in my lower body all day long.
Because I have to rely on him to live, I can't fight him head-on. There are some things I can only turn a blind eye.
son Zhao Yu is as beautiful as me, has a beautiful face and a tall figure, but has been relatively thin since childhood. His grades were not very good, so he only went to a vocational high school. After graduation, he entered a 4S store to work. His salary was neither high nor low, so he could barely spend his own money. So the matter of buying a house for him can only fall on Zhao Gang.
5 years ago, we paid the down payment to Zhao Yu to buy a 90-square-meter house. Then Zhao Yu got married.
daughter-in-law Xu Hui is from an average family, looks ordinary and has a short figure. She works as a cashier in the supermarket and has a low income. Our parents actually do not agree with them being together, and are not satisfied with each other's conditions. But the two of them have a good relationship and insist on being together, so we can't object.
The second year after marriage, Xu Hui became pregnant. After giving birth, she has been taking care of the child at home. After marriage, they bought a new car with a down payment, so Zhao Yu's salary alone showed some difficulty in supporting the three. So the mortgage naturally fell on us.
Although Zhao Gang's building materials store has a bad business, it can earn an average of about 10,000 yuan a month. He pays his son 5,000 yuan a month to repay his mortgage and car loan, so there is not much left. Sometimes it only costs 1,000 yuan to me, and the living expenses are not enough.
Every time I think the money is low, he loses his temper with me. He said, "Since you got married, you didn't go to work for a day, I support you. I often respect your parents. Are you embarrassed to think I give you less money? You have the ability to make money by yourself."
His statement is simply unreasonable. After getting married, he obviously refused to let me go out to work. At this time, I was old and I didn't have any ability. He actually asked me to go out to make money. But I was ignorant of him.
Perhaps because of the pressure, his temper is getting stronger and stronger. Every time he quarrels, he starts to take action. Although the fight was not heavy, it made me very sad.
Sometimes I complain to my son and daughter-in-law and ask them to persuade Zhao Gang. Because sooner or later he will rely on his son to support himself, he should still listen to his son and his wife.
However, because his daughter-in-law Xiaohui has always been supported by Zhao Gang, she naturally protects herself and refuses to say anything more. Zhao Yu is not tough on his father either.
Then I realized that even in the family and in front of my children, people without income have no status and right to speak. I regretted it, but I had no choice. Because now I can really be considered to have nothing.
04
Starting from August this year, Zhao Gang's attitude towards me has fallen several times. He was picky about me and often complained that I was unpalatable to cooking and did not buy him clothes, saying that I was not caring and considerate enough to him. As long as I refuted a few words, he would curse and even file for divorce, asking me to get out of this house.
Although we often quarreled and he started from time to time, he never mentioned divorce. And I can see that he is not talking anger, he deliberately seeks trouble and is picking things up, and his real purpose is to divorce.
I looked for an opportunity to look at his phone twice, and it really made me realize the situation again. A woman talked to him very much and called her husband and wife. The other party also posted a lot of pictures, some of which were a table of dishes and some of which were clothes and shoes. The corresponding contents are: "When did you come here? My meal is ready. Look, it's all your favorite food." and "The clothes I bought for you are here, come and try it on."
It turns out that the two of them are so close. No wonder Zhao Gang was picky about my hard-to-eat cooking and no longer buying clothes for him, because there was a reference.I really don’t understand. Zhao Gang is still in his 50s. Why is he always enthusiastic about men and women?
Zhao Gang did not defend himself this time because the facts were clear. He said, "She is very kind to me, a hundred times more caring than you. It is impossible for her and I to break up. If you can bear it, you will suffer. If you can't stand it, we will divorce."
He is full of confidence. Because although they are both middle-aged and elderly, he has a small career and has some money in his hands. And with a next company, he naturally does not show any weakness.
Zhao Yu and Xiaohui also knew about this. They were a little angry, after all, their old father and father-in-law had a cheating divorce, which was not glorious to them. So both of them said something about Zhao Gang.
However, Zhao Gang was tough, and he said, "It's not your turn to say to me. How did I treat you badly? If it weren't for me, it would be difficult for you to support yourself! If it weren't for you, I would have lived a much more relaxed life than I am now!"
So Zhao Yu and Xiaohui also softened. They all began to persuade me to bear it privately. Zhao Yu said, "My dad is old and he will not have the energy and strength in a few years, so he will naturally calm down. As long as you don't divorce, there is nothing that a woman can do. After all, you are the real wife."
Xiaohui also said, "That's right, my dad is hard now and can make money, and we can't offend him. But he will age sooner or later, and he will still rely on us to support him. He is obsessed with this situation, so he can't listen to anything. He will slowly figure it out. If you have the chance, we will persuade him to restrain himself. Just bear it for a few years. Anyway, no matter how bad he is, you won't be hungry."
This statement is the same as my mother said a few years ago. But do I have a little dignity in living such a life?
In the following days, Zhao Gang still had a bad attitude towards me and started scolding me if he disagrees. He clearly wanted to break up with me.
After thinking for a while, I decided to divorce. That's right, I'm old and have no skills and no job, but I at least have hands, feet, backbone and dignity.
Zhao Gang proposed that the house and home deposits should be half of each person. I really admire his shamelessness, and there is not much savings at home at all. In the next few years, the money he paid to his family every month was basically enough for his living expenses. But he didn't mention his store.
Both parents and son oppose my divorce, but I have made up my mind. Since the agreement was not reached, I told him that I would find a lawyer and then sue him. Although the law does not clearly stipulate that the party who cheats should pay less property, at least if the evidence is conclusive, it will definitely be tilted.
In the end, I got half of the house and not much money, because Zhao Gang's store is indeed not very profitable. I was also content because I really didn't want to continue to get entangled with him anymore.
I rented a small store and opened a small dining table. Nowadays, business competition is fierce, so this small shop is only enough to maintain food and clothing. But I still think it's pretty good, at least I can support myself.
Sometimes life is really helpless, and we often have no choice. However, in marriage, women must not just swallow their anger when facing scumbags. No matter what age it is, it is not too late to start over. No one in this world can rely on himself.
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