I, a Serbian, lived in China for 14 years and married a Chongqing wife. My father-in-law is only 4 years older than me.
Name: Vuchevenozi
Compiled: Mr. Xiao Han
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My name is Vuchevenozi, a Serbian, 54 years old this year, I have been in China for 14 years, and of course I have the Chinese name, called Li Qi. My wife is from Chongqing, China. My wife and I are 19 years apart, and my father-in-law is only 4 years older than me. This also made my father-in-law very disagree with our marriage and even made harsh words to sever the relationship with my wife.
With all my sincerity, I worked as a small worker for my father-in-law for a year, and finally moved him and agreed to our marriage.
Ka After marriage, I have experienced many bumps and bumps. Everyone knows that Chongqing women are so stingy and have a straightforward heart, and sometimes they are very strong. Many times, I am afraid of my wife's majesty. At home, she is the only one, but I can only do things according to my wife's wishes.
Neighbors often say that my son-in-law, who is doing well, is afraid that his ears will not be able to bear it. Although my wife has a bad temper, our marriage relationship is maintained very normal. As long as I don’t make mistakes, my wife is very nice to me and will do whatever she wants to eat. Of course, the money I earn is also handed over as much as possible. In China for so many years, I have gained a deep understanding of Chinese culture and have gradually been committed to the folk cultural exchanges between China and Serbia, hoping that friendship will last forever.
When I was 40 years old, I left my hometown and came to China where I was thinking about it. In addition to the relationship between the two countries, I am more of my love for Chinese culture.
I have been a middle school teacher for 15 years and have understood the traditional culture of many countries in the world. Therefore, for my own preferences, I have learned several languages.
. My hobbies start from childhood.
My family has grandparents, mom and dad, as well as me and three sisters. When I was a child, I was still in the period of Yugoslavia. When I graduated from university, Yugoslavia collapsed. Under the circumstance, I returned from Slovenian to Serbian . I worked in the education department for a few years, and then I became a teacher and taught books for 15 years.
I loved reading when I was a child. No matter what book it is, it will make me happy as long as it is in my hands.
Serbs are basically tall, but I am an exception, only in their early 1.8 meters. Serbia has a small population, only 8 million, and the people's living standards are good. Our family is an intellectual family and has produced many famous professors. For example, my father is both a postdoctoral fellow in design and a postdoctoral fellow in aesthetics.
Our family uses the "free-range" education model and never cares about what children can do in the future. As long as they like, they can boldly let go and pursue it. Parents will help us find the correct truth in various forms.
I have loved the culture of different countries since I was a child, so my parents did their best to collect English versions of books for me, including introductions about China's culture. At that time, I thought China was very magical, with five thousand years of brilliant cultural heritage and countless ancient ruins.
Perhaps from that time on, my fate with China was destined to be over.
On the road to studying, I was flat and went until I graduated from university. With the disintegration of Yugoslavia, I also returned to my hometown and worked in the education department for several years. This made me feel the charm of education and became a teacher.
has been a teacher for 15 years and has gradually found that my life is very peaceful and there is no fun at all. It is time to change the direction of my life. When I walked into the dusty study room and saw the word "China" again, I knew what my future pursuit was.
40 years old, in Chinese, I am entering middle age, and I am still pursuing my own ideal.
came to Chongqing, a mountain city in China. The fireworks here are very strong, and the food and building construction are particularly distinctive.I fell in love with this place all of a sudden, and since then I have lived in Chongqing and started to do the career I like.
In Chongqing, I eat a bowl of Chongqing noodles every morning. When I first arrived in China, I was completely unaccustomed to it. It was mainly because it was too spicy. Eating a bowl of noodles not only made me sweat a lot, but I also shed tears when I was spicy for the first time. Have a little hot pot at night, this is the regular diet that has been around for most of the years.
However, in the third year of my life in Chongqing, I met a Chongqing girl named Yanzi. She has a straightforward personality and a hot temper. At first, she thought this girl was quite interesting, and Yanzi was also very nice to me. We soon entered a passionate love. Girls in love are gentle and show their best side as much as possible.
When I proposed to Yan Zi, Yan Zi said that marriage is not the final decision of one person, and I have to obtain the consent of my parents. I went to Yan Zi's house without stopping and didn't bring any gifts. Later I realized that this was very impolite, let alone that I came to propose marriage.
Father-in-law saw that the man in front of him looked older than him, so he refused and even pushed me out of the house. At that time, my girlfriend didn't talk to me, just to see what her father did. In this way, I went home in a mess and felt like I was a failure. Chinese girls were so arrogant.
After many contacts, I realized that getting married in China requires the consent of my parents. Of course, it is not that my parents have the final say, but this is the traditional Chinese culture. I am a foreigner and I have to abide by it. After that, a tug-of-war broke out, and Yan Zi's relationship with me also rose to a higher level, but my father-in-law just refused to give us a household registration book and asked us to get married.
even said that he would break off the relationship between father and daughter if he dared to marry me. Of course, this was not really done in the end!
Until 2019, I was 51 years old and Yan Zi was 32 years old. My father-in-law felt that it would be no problem to waste this way, so he agreed to let us get married.
In fact, after I came to propose marriage, I started handing over my salary card to Yanzi. She has a bad temper, but she is good-minded and sometimes she is very stingy. I can only bear it. I know that I am not doing well, Yanzi will get furious. So many years have passed, Yanzi and I have no plans to have children, so we decided to do DINK , mainly because we are old and how can we support the child if there is an accident? I don't want to add burden to the swallows.
I also know that there will be regrets without children, but the reality is that I can only live a good life in the current two-person world.
