Happiness needs to be found
Tolstoy once said: Only by indulging in life can you continue to live. Meaning is like happiness, and cannot be obtained directly. It is a by-product of participating in life. What does
mean? If you want to be happy, you have to find happiness. The easiest way is to do something, that kind of meaningful thing.
1. Happiness
Happiness is based on meaning, and the way to achieve happiness is to do something or participate in other people's affairs.
Why is happiness based on meaning? Think about it, when do you feel happy? Whether what you do is not needed by others is valuable, whether you can associate what you do with a great thing, these are the meanings. When you get the affirmative answer, you will feel happy. Meaning is the cause, happiness is the result.
. Between cause and effect, a process is needed to achieve the connection. This process is to do things. Things may not be big, but they must be done. You do things, capture meaning from things, and then feel happiness.
Happiness is an experience. If you want to be happy, you must do something. Recalling the beautiful past and gaining a sense of happiness is a re-experience. Reading a book well and putting yourself in the book scene is another experience.
2. Fear
Fear is an imagination. You imagine something appears, and the more you think about it, the more you become scared. For example, when you walk at night, you always think that bad people will appear. The more you think about it, the more you feel that bad people are behind you. As soon as there is a turbulence, your hair will immediately rise up. And if you don’t want to do this, or even hum a little song, you don’t know what fear is, and you will be home in a blink of an eye.
is afraid because he is not familiar with it and does not understand it. Just like a person who just learned to drive, he was in a hurry as soon as he got on the road and was so nervous. When you become proficient and find the feeling of driving, you won’t be afraid. So, if you are afraid of someone, go get close to him. When you get familiar with him, you will not be afraid of him. If you are afraid of an animal, get close to it and contact it a few more times, and you will not be afraid of it.
3. Worry
Worry is to think about things in the wrong way, saying it is impossible over and over again, but feeling it is not good over and over again. For example, we all know that flying is the safest, but when our relatives take the plane, we are always worried that the plane will not land and will not let go. Especially when the plane was delayed and the other party's cell phone was turned off, we had no way of knowing the flight status of the plane. At this time, think about it badly. We also know that these worries are futile, they are not effective at all, and they are not beneficial at all, but we really cannot put our hearts back to a stable place.
is worried because the people and things in front of you are important to you, and you know clearly what the important people are doing and what state the important things are in. For example, if your children are in other places, you don’t know what they are doing normally, so there is no need to worry. When you know that they are going to take a plane, you start to worry. So, in order to solve your worries, try not to know the details. Another point is that you can interact, chat with others, and focus on communication with others, so that you will forget what you are worried about.
Children who are away from home, if you want to go home, don’t tell your elderly parents how to go home, or even don’t tell them the specific time of going home. Because, from the moment you tell your parents to go home, they start to worry.
Do something to be happy
4. Bored
boredom is the impulse to do something. Because I don’t know what to do and can’t remember what to do, I feel empty. Bored is actually a psychological dilemma before trying to do something.
When you think about what to do, boredom will turn into desire. When you start doing something, boredom will disappear. For example, pick up a book, grit your teeth and read it down. After reading it for a few minutes, you don’t want to let it go and continue reading it down. At this time, your boredom will disappear and turn into fulfillment, and you will not regret the time you just spent.
But if you feel bored and find a few people to play mahjong, you will have a different feeling.During the mahjong process, you may be excited and feel that time passes quickly, but after the mahjong is over, you will start to get bored again, because the process itself is just to eliminate boredom. Playing mahjong is not what you really want to do, it is just another form of emptiness. After the process is over, you will return to boredom again.
So, solving boredom is to do something quickly and get into the role quickly. Temporary boredom can be alleviated by quick-to-start things, while long-term boredom must be eliminated by meaningful things. In this way, doing something, especially something meaningful, can resolve boredom and gain happiness at the same time.
In short, fear, worry, boredom, these negative emotions or feelings require you to do something meaningful. When you are doing meaningful things, you will not be afraid, worry, or bored, but will gain a kind of happiness.
Do something meaningful
