Self-reporter: Sister Liu 41 years old
On the eve of National Day, my husband's college classmate called her husband and said that he was out to play with a few friends and passed by our city along the way, planning to come and see us.
This brother slept on my husband's upper bunk. He slept for four years, not too far away, so he lived in the next province five or six hours apart. Before we got married or got married, we occasionally got together once or twice a year, so we are still quite familiar with each other. However, as I grew up with children and children, my work became more and more busy, and I gradually became distant and I haven't walked around for a long time or two.
This time, the brother on the upper bunk said it in advance, and my husband was naturally very excited. He said he had other friends together, so he let us have a meal together and he would entertain him. Because he has a lot of other friends, about seven or eight.
My husband thought they brought his family together, so he said that he must have the friendship of the landlords from such a long journey, and it doesn’t matter if there are too many people. So I booked a local restaurant for them in advance. It's quite good grade.
On that day, the old classmates and their team came 9 people, all of whom were his other friends, without family or children. It means that we don’t know the other 8 people. But it doesn't matter, my husband and he still hugged him enthusiastically and invited them to take their seats.
Old classmate is an entrepreneur, and he must earn one million yuan a year. Unlike us, we rely on a hard salary for a strong job. This time we are with him, and we are a business partner, saying that we are going to see a project. He also said that he would pay for the meal, otherwise he would be embarrassed.
During the meal, I found that what I was talking about with them was unfamiliar and I couldn’t get anything to say. My husband also fulfilled his master's morality, and gave him some wine and greetings, and nothing else could be said. I ordered the dishes of
, which are about 2,000. I thought about the money for this meal, even if the old classmates didn’t go to check the bill, it would be fine if we went to settle it. After all, we could not get together once in a few years. I have been less connected in recent years.
As a result, they drank more than 2,000. That's fine, but it's true when the interest comes. The worst thing is that I drank high, and one of my fellow travelers even asked the hotel to bring two cigarettes, both of which were 1,000. At this moment, the old classmate felt a little embarrassed and said, asking him to pay for the meal.
Since this is the case, we will not be embarrassed. Indeed, such a 6,000 or 7,000 yuan is our salary alone, and we have to pay a mortgage to raise our children. If the old classmate insists on asking him to come, then we will definitely not refuse. Then wait and see.
The result was that he went out to the bathroom several times to make a phone call, thinking that he had settled the bill, so we left with peace of mind. Then when he walked out, several other friends walked out in front and the old classmates walked out with us. The front desk stopped us and said we hadn't paid the bill yet.
Then we looked at the old classmate, thinking that he would take out his cell phone and settle it immediately, but we didn't expect that he actually started to call. In a real way, I had to bite the bullet and check out the bill and gave a discount of 7,000 yuan, which really made my hands tremble a little, and I had two months of living expenses.
After the old classmate called, he said embarrassedly, "I'm sorry that I paid the bill, and I made you spend money, so I'll thank you for the hospitality. Remember to come to our place to play in the future." There is no intention of transferring money at all. I saw that my husband's face was not very good either.
Actually, we also went to their city on the way and agreed in advance, but that day it appeared and said that there was a project on a business trip. Alas, human hearts cannot be measured or speculated.
is written later:
The height of life is not how much you see clearly, but how much you look down on.
Zhou Guoping once said: "Loneliness, loneliness and boredom are three different realms, which belong to the level of spirit, emotion and things. Only people with rich inner world, those who have persistent pursuit of spirit and soul, and those who are full of love in the world can experience true loneliness."
So, when people reach middle age, they will abandon the so-called face, be lonely, be colder, and give up ineffective social interaction, which is also a way of self-value-added.
When people reach middle age, they will inevitably give up. Only when they learn to be companion with loneliness will they constantly reflect on themselves and discover themselves. Reflection is actually thinking, loneliness is the soil for thinking. Only when people think can they clear obstacles, settle advantages, clarify direction, and achieve continuous growth.
When people reach middle age, they are alienated from old friends and are unwilling to date new friends. If they are like the poster and the wife, they will be swelling in the face for the so-called expired friendship, it will inevitably be painful and a heavy burden.
