A netizen asked: Is this behavior considered cross-border?
I think this girl's behavior has crossed the boundaries, and it is strange that you have tolerated it again and again. I have always thought that it is normal for friends of the opposite sex to understand, but the sense of boundaries is very important in the relationship, such as the following situation:
1. "The group throws photos of everyone's daily life from time to time, whoever buys a bag or a clothes will spread, and the man will spread the beard after hanging his beard. The woman's birthday takes a birthday cake in the group, and a photo of blowing candles is posted in the group. Of course, due to work reasons, we will also discuss chatting about work and other content."
As mentioned above, I think first of all, the ex-boyfriend is different from other relationships, avoiding suspicion is the most basic respect, and due to the differences in some interests between men and women, I am shocked what these three people are going to do? Work group chat chat group work? I am free when I have something to do and don’t ask you to find two male colleagues (one of them is an ex-boyfriend), neither a good friend nor any other relationship, and I don’t know the sense of boundaries at all. The last sentence of the questioner is actually giving her excuse. . I think so much that others can't do anything about it.
2. "The man said that the feeling was not very good, and the woman said that it was over. Everyone was friends or colleagues, and it was not easy for him to quit the group. And he could also communicate about things in the workplace."
First of all, you are sure that you can speak out, at least let the woman know that she is dissatisfied with this matter. Is he a friend or a colleague? Is it so troublesome to quit the group? Others don’t say anything about , Trump’s withdrawals so much, I don’t know how to call? ? ? There is no working software?
3." Ask the current employee to help his ex-boyfriend find a bag, but he didn't say who he asked for, but later he found out. "
does not object to giving gifts to normal friends (including friends of the opposite sex), but first of all, it is very problematic to buy things for the opposite sex for some reason? Secondly, even if you don’t delete your ex-boyfriend, don’t be as blatant as Aquaman.
4. "When chatting with a male colleague with a good relationship on WeChat, you can appear hahaha, you are so cute."
once again said that I personally understand the matter of supporting friends of the opposite sex, but male colleagues are not close to each other, so they are inexplicably posting something hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha Even if you are free and you can play, what will you think of you? ?
5. "The passport package given by my ex-boyfriend is placed in the bedside table. When the man knows, he asks the woman to put it in another place. The woman says that it has passed, it is just a gift."
What kind of precious item is this? My opinion on this aspect is that all the daily necessities left by my ex should be discarded, and even if it is not lost, don’t do anything like it.
6. "When getting along with other people, I went on a business trip with another male colleague who had a good relationship. I would have such a conversation from 11 to 1 pm when I checked in the hotel. For example, what should I do if the bath water is gone, what should I do if I wash halfway. I would talk with other scattered conversations."
did not comment on business trips, but it was just so boring? So interesting? Don’t know how to chat with your partner when taking a shower at night? Are you planning to call your colleagues to repair the sewer pipe?
7. "When getting along with other people, you can discuss with a male colleague you just met in the workplace at night about what color of glasses you wear to look better. At 12 o'clock in the middle of the night, the woman can suddenly say that she suddenly wants to eat spicy strips. This is a topic."
again stated that she does not object to friends of the opposite sex, but one is to pay attention to the sense of boundaries and the other is to pay attention to the basic time. If you don't chat with you in the middle of the night, she says she wants to eat spicy strips? There's nothing wrong with your brain.
8. "When getting along with others, the plane met a boy who was 5 years younger than Silicon Valley . He went there after an appointment for dinner. Later, there was a relatively ordinary chat. After starting with the current officer, there was a brief interaction. The current officer said that since it was just a chance encounter and never met again, please don't contact me. The woman said that nothing happened before, everyone was just an ordinary friend, just asking about his well-being during the holidays.The two sides also had a quarrel over this. Once, this little boy posted a reply from Moments. The current person asked the woman, are you still going to reply to Moments? The woman said, no, because she was afraid. "
does not comment, boys who are not familiar with each other will go to have dinner alone??? I don't object to the person who is dating and having dinner alone with the opposite sex, but first of all, you have to be a serious good friend, secondly, you have to pay attention to the occasion, and again, you have to let the partner know what you are doing.
To sum up, it shows my point of view, it is not a problem to have friends with the opposite sex. The biggest problem with this is the basic politeness to your ex (drawing a clear line) If you don’t do it, you still often make an appointment with someone. If you don’t have basic respect for you, it’s no difference from talking about a partner outside. Her colleagues probably know more than you. This woman is not only unsure of her, but she has no sense of boundaries and shamelessness in her relationships.
So you can keep it for the New Year without distinction? In fact, you have to explain this kind of thing to yourself. If a person doesn’t understand the basic responsibilities and morals of his partner, what’s the difference between him and an animal?
