Marriage is a matter between two people, not a one-man show. That is to say, in marriage, two people should support each other and sacrifice each other, rather than just letting one person sacrifice.
Even if the other party was willing to sacrifice at the beginning, problems will inevitably arise in the end, and the marriage will become something that makes you hate. After getting married, some women always revolve around their husbands and families, without any space for themselves.
At first, she might think that this is nothing, and her husband won’t think that there is anything, but over time, she will inevitably feel unbalanced. When she finds that she has lost herself for the sake of her family, she will naturally feel uncomfortable.
After getting married, women cannot always think about dependence or give. This is unfair to themselves. If your husband knows how to be grateful for your efforts, that's okay. If you don't know how to be grateful, then the only one who suffers is yourself.
If a woman does not know how to leave a way out for herself in her marriage and does not understand these two cruel truths, she will easily be hurt by her family. This kind of harm is likely to be fatal and will allow herself to live in pain all her life.
1. In the face of life and death, husbands may not be reliable
There is a saying that goes, husband and wife are birds in the same forest, and they fly away when disaster strikes. Although this sentence is a bit absolute, it also makes sense.
Many couples may not have any problems when they never encounter difficulties, and their relationships are also very harmonious, but when they encounter difficulties, especially in the face of life and death, it may be different.
Originally good relationships may have problems, and they may become familiar strangers or even enemies.
In other words, in the face of life and death, a partner may not be reliable. As a woman, she cannot lose herself when she gets married. Once she loses herself, she may not be cherished by the other party.
I have read a news and I am particularly touched. The content of the news is very simple. Women have worked hard for their family all their lives, but unfortunately they have not received the care of their husbands. Their marriage has always been strong and the women are weak.
If a man loves a woman deeply, it doesn’t matter even if there is such a relationship, but the relationship between them doesn’t seem to be deep.
Woman got sick in her 50s. If it weren't for her illness, he would never know what her husband's attitude towards him. Originally, her illness would have a chance of getting better, but her husband chose to give up treatment.
The moment he heard her husband sign, he was desperate. He really didn't expect that this would be the result. He paid so much and got such a result.
She knew that if the husband was sick, she would definitely not do this, and she would even spend all her money to treat her, because in her eyes, the husband and wife were originally a community, but the husband did not think so.
At this moment, the woman finally knew how stupid she was at the beginning. If she had not focused her wholeheartedly on her husband, then this would definitely not be the result, but there is no if in life, and there is only the result.
As a woman, you should know in marriage that if you are not your love, you will definitely be able to exchange for other people's love, and you may not be able to exchange it back, so that you can live in pain.
Simply put, a woman who doesn’t know how to love herself will not get the love of others. Just imagine that if you even give up on yourself, how could others love you?
2. Being a full-time mother is the biggest stupid
Some people say that the most poisonous love words in the world are "I support you". This sentence is very easy to say, but it is very difficult to do, so as a woman, don’t believe it before or after marriage.
If you have the ability to work, try to join the work and don’t pin your hopes on men, because this is too unreliable.
If you think it is a torment in marriage, then the best thing is to stop the loss in time. Even if you are in your 50s, you still have the right to pursue love again. There is such a video on the Internet, and I feel very uncomfortable after watching it.
There is an aunt in her 50s who insists on divorceing her husband, and she does not consider the feelings of her daughter-in-law who has just passed the door. Her husband asked her what she was doing, but she did not answer.
Everyone doesn’t know why, but the aunt is determined to divorce. Later, the daughter-in-law who just passed the door told me something. It turned out that the aunt had wanted to divorce a long time ago, and the reason why she chose to marry her children is now.
Now that the child is married, she has no worries anymore, so she wants to live her own life.
The daughter-in-law can see clearly that when she is not married, as soon as she comes to her husband's house, her mother-in-law will be busy and her father-in-law will be responsible for the command. This kind of life is really particularly depressing.
She can tolerate it for the sake of the child, but now that the child is married, she will not continue to feel wronged.
Maybe this aunt thought that being a full-time mother would get the respect of her husband, but in the end she found that there was nothing and she completely lost herself.
Once a woman loses herself in marriage, it is difficult to have the initiative, and she can no longer feel the joy of life and will only live in pain.
A truly smart woman, at any time, maintaining her ability to make money is the greatest confidence of a man, so that she will not lose herself and live a passive life, right?
