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people, as they get older, they will feel more and more lonely. That is because their children have their own family and are no longer always with them, and they also lose their old partner.
It is normal for people to look for someone else without a wife. But people are different. Some people choose to be lonely for life, while others have to seek their other half.
For men, do they still want to find a partner in their 80s? This is what the 85-year-old man did.
01
As the saying goes, if you have an old family, you will have a treasure. Indeed, there is an elderly person at home, which is the adhesive for the family. No matter how busy the children are, they will take time to go home. Not to mention how happy they are when they get together. Without the elderly, the number of times brothers and sisters get together will become sparse, and their relationship will fade.
But for the elderly, it is of course a very happy thing for their children to be filial to, but deep down, what they want to have the most is an old partner.
But, in life, who can guarantee that your wife can accompany you to the end? Once you lose your wife, how should you go on with the rest of your life? This has become a worrying thing day and night.
Some people may say that they are old and they are counting on a day after day, so there is no need to find a partner again. But some people don’t think so, thinking that it’s not easy to come to the world, and they should enjoy every day of life.
This is what this 85-year-old Mr. Zhong thinks.
Uncle Zhong is a retired cadre. He and his wife raised two sons and one daughter. Unfortunately, the eldest son died prematurely due to illness before he got married.
His youngest son works in another place and only comes to him every year during the Spring Festival. Although my daughter lives in the same city with him, she doesn't have much time to stay with him.
When my wife was still alive, Mr. Zhong lived a peaceful and contented life in his old age, but three years ago, his wife left him first, and Mr. Zhong became a lonely old man.
02
Life is hard to endure, and Mr. Zhong’s lonely life has not passed yet, and he feels like he spends his days. He sighs every day and starts to speak with others. His son and daughter are too lazy to answer the phone calls. The cats and dogs at home are also suffering, and they are often beaten by Mr. Zhong’s crutches and hide everywhere.
Uncle Zhong's daughter would go home to change sheets and for him and clean the house. She found that her father's temperament had changed a lot. She either said that she had not washed the quilt, or she thought she was too slow to do things and refused to let her daughter explain, otherwise, she would be scolded.
The daughter thought that her father had such changes, because she was old, and she didn't care. She still did what she should do.
Uncle Zhong not only does not treat his daughter well, but also does the same with his son and daughter-in-law. He either does not answer the phone or curses when answering the phone.
In fact, Uncle Zhong’s changes are not due to his old age, he has the heart.
Some people may think, at this age, I can smell the smell of loess, what else can I think?
Indeed, most people can’t guess Mr. Zhong’s thoughts. As long as he knows it in his heart, it is that he wants to find another partner, and this desire is particularly strong.
Uncle Zhong did not tell others about this, and he kept it in his heart for a long time, which led to a major change in his temperament. He thought that if he said it, his children would definitely not support him, and the people around him would discuss it.
03
Time passed day by day, and Uncle Zhong stopped again, so he told an old brother around him. With the support of this old brother, he began to take action.
In fact, Uncle Zhong has already had a candidate in his heart, that is, Teacher Jin, who has known him for many years.
Teacher Jin was a music teacher at a middle school, 8 years younger than Mr. Zhong. After the two met at a soccer meeting, they became friends.
Later, after Teacher Jin's wife passed away, she moved into her son's house. It happened that her son lived in the community where Mr. Zhong lived, so the two often met.
So, Mr. Zhong began to pay attention to Teacher Jin and often created opportunities to meet. In his heart, Teacher Jin was gentle and kind, strong, and had a pension, which was most suitable for being a wife.
Uncle Zhong’s idea of finding Teacher Jin as his wife became stronger and stronger, so he called and told his daughter about this and expressed his tough attitude.
Then, his son also knew about this, his attitude was very clear and he firmly opposed it. Uncle Zhong felt very angry when facing his children's attitude and scolded him for being heartless.
This matter spread quickly, and naturally there were people who said anything. Mr. Zhong faced the various comments from the people around him, which made him feel that he would not give up.
04
That day, Uncle Zhong found Teacher Jin and confessed to her directly. Teacher Jin was not surprised because she had long noticed Mr. Zhong’s thoughts.
Teacher Jin did not say anything directly, she told Uncle Zhong that she was very happy to be in her son's house and lived a peaceful and comfortable life, and was used to being alone.
After Mr. Zhong was rejected, he felt very uncomfortable. After his son knew about this, he wanted to take him over to retire, but he refused; he hired him a nanny, but he refused; he even refused to send him to retire with good conditions.
There was no way, his son rushed back and persuaded him, but still did not change Mr. Zhong's idea of finding his wife.
Time passed day by day. In addition to finding his wife by himself, Mr. Zhong also asked someone to introduce him to him.
Uncle Zhong has money and is in good health. After all, he is old and it is not easy to find a partner.
In the following days, Uncle Zhong often called his children at night, and the most common thing he said was that he was boring alone.
Someone secretly said that Uncle Zhong is so confused. At this age, he still has to find a wife. He is really not afraid of trouble. Can he live in this world forever? Some people also say that Mr. Zhong is just selfish and wants to find a wife, but actually wants to find a free nanny.
is written in the last
" Hundred Years of Loneliness " and wrote: "Life has never left loneliness and existed independently. Whether it is our birth, our growth, our love, or our success and failure, until the end, loneliness exists in a corner of life like a shadow."
Uncle Zhong wants to find a wife, but he is undoubtedly too afraid of loneliness.
The older people are, the more they want to be with them, and they also need to be with them, but they are not the only ones. At this age, it is recommended that you stop spending time looking for your spouse. It is not easy to find your ideal one, and it is more important to live every day with peace of mind.
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