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01, volume beginning
Lin Yutang said: "Marriage is like a carved ship, it depends on how you appreciate it and how you drive it."
Marriage will change the life state of the two.
When you are in love, the two of them have little thoughts. They only need romance and the moon before and in love.
After entering the marriage, I realized that the trivial matters in the food, rice, oil and salt are as messy as cows, and they need to be careful in budgeting and careful planning.
I feel that as long as I get married, I will definitely live a happy life. Thinking of marriage is too simple and beautiful, which leads to a lot of disappointment and sadness after entering the marriage.
After entering the marriage, the woman realized that a happy life was far away from her.
A woman can tell whether she is doing well in her marriage when she goes back to her parents’ home.
02. Spending money, see a woman's confidence
Leo Tolstoy once said: "The kind of happiness that a married person gets from the other party is just the beginning of the marriage, and it is by no means its full meaning. The whole meaning of marriage is hidden in family life."
Is a woman living in marriage good? It depends on whether she is filial to her parents when she returns to her parents' home and whether she has the freedom to spend money.
A married girl will bring some gifts to her parents when she returns to her parents' home. She does not regard herself as a guest, but wants to tell her that her parents have a good life in her in-laws' home, so she asks them not to worry.
What kind of state does a woman return to her parents’ home is also an allusion to her life in her in-laws’ home.
If, if the husband can send her home or accompany her to her parents' home, and bringing some gifts enthusiastically, it often means that she is being cared for by her husband.
When returning to her parents' home, women can bring gifts to their parents, so in terms of finance, women have the right to speak. Her life may be more relaxed and better.
If the in-laws' family is too stingy and treats women badly, they will not allow her to spend money on the people in her parents' family.
A woman can’t afford a gift when she goes back to her parents’ home, and even needs her family to help her when she returns, so her life will definitely not be very satisfactory.
even, it is possible that a woman faces tension in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in marriage. Her husband does not care about her. She suffers grievances everywhere in her in-laws' home and can only live carefully.
03. From chatting, I see the inner emotions of a woman
The Book of Songs says: "Speak kindly, and speak bad words by themselves."
Happy women will share happy things when they return to their parents' home; women who live unhappy share more pain and complain.
Women will not help but say some words to their parents when they return to their parents. I didn't want to worry my parents, but their tenderness and pampering will make their emotions burst.
Life is comfortable in my mother-in-law's house. When a woman returns to her parents' home, she will talk to her parents about how good her husband's house is.
When communicating with her parents, her happiness and sweetness are hidden in her words, and her life is often very comfortable.
On the contrary, if the in-laws treat her harshly, after returning home, she has tears in her eyes and there are many negative emotions in her words. Whether it is getting along with your husband or your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, they are very nervous and reveal discordant notes everywhere.
Women return home and chat with their parents about home, always with a sad look, with grievances and complaints in their words, without any spirit in their eyes, and with a melancholy temperament on their bodies.
Then, she must be very distressed inside and even regrets her decision to get married.
04. After returning to my parents' home, are you willing to return to my mother-in-law's home
Knowles once said: "Marriage is not a lottery, and even if you lose, you can't tear it down."
After entering marriage, you need to take on a lot of responsibilities, and there are hardships and joys in life. When getting along with my in-laws, women will be tired due to various exercises.
And the mother's family is a woman's way of retreat.
Jia Yingchun in " Dream of Red Mansions " married her to Sun Shaozu for debt because her father owed money to the Sun family.
Sun Shaozu is known as the "Zhongshan Wolf". He does everything he wants and beats or scolds her, making her life miserable.
After returning to her parents' home, she never dried up her tears. She kept telling her grievances and didn't want to go back to her in-laws' home again. When I had to leave, I said I was here this time and I don’t know if I can come back next time.
The prophecy came true. She had just been married for more than a year and had lost her beauty.
In her in-laws' house, she suffered all the torture. Even after returning to her parents' home, she had to have a moment of peace and could not give her more shelter.
After returning to her parents' home, the woman was unwilling to go back to her in-laws because she was too tired, too hard and too unhappy at her home.
Only when a woman lives a bad life in her husband's house will she ask for help from her family. If the mother's family is sincere in doing so for her daughter, she will teach her the principles related to marriage after distinguishing the right or wrong of the matter.
If the mother-in-law's family is too much, no matter how much the price they pay, they will save their daughter and no longer let her suffer.
05, Summary
Bafari Knicks once said: "Marriage is a book, the first chapter is written in the poems, and the rest are plain prose."
Whether a woman is doing well, in fact, she only needs to go back to her parents' home to know.
If a woman is dissatisfied with marriage, she will often show it after returning to her parents' home.
If you don’t live well, you will become full of grievances when you return to your parents’ home, like a frightened child. I don’t know how to face the future, and I have no hope for life in my eyes.
A woman who really lives well in her husband's house always smiles happily after returning to her parents' house, and her words are full of beautiful yearning for life.
My parents’ home is the support of women. However, on the road of life, women can only understand that marriage needs to be managed by themselves to develop healthily after they rely on themselves.
Women, only when they are strong can they get more respect and acceptance.
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Author: Xia Mo, a new emotional tutor, psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer on the entire network of over 1 billion, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotions, gender, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.
