There is a saying that goes like this: "Life is a one-man show, and the jealousy we hate and fear is another self."
In this short life, those who can follow the guidance of the heart and "do their own good" will not leave more regrets.
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Do your passion for a career and make your life full of fulfillment.
I have read the promotional advertisement of a recruitment website and still remember it fresh: a man in formal clothes sat at the desk, lifting and stamping pages of documents expressionlessly. He repeated this action mechanically, and nothing seemed to mobilize his emotions.
Suddenly, the page that made his eyes light up appeared (of course it was a recruitment website). He bounced up from his seat with a flash of eyebrows and a glimmer of hope in his eyes.
Indeed, when a person can engage in his beloved career, it is no less than that in marriage, he will marry that ideal lover.
In the history of ancient Chinese opera, Yuanqu famous artists Bai Pu can be said to be "unrestrained and loving freedom all his life". He did not serve in his entire life, but only devoted his thoughts and talents to his favorite Yuanqu career. He wrote famous works such as "Horse on the Wall" and "Autumn Leaves and Swallow Tree Rain". He is known as "The Four Great Masters of Yuanqu " together with Ma Zhiyuan , Guan Hanqing , and Zheng Guangzu .
It turns out that Bai Pu came from a family of bureaucratic and literati and officials in the Jin Dynasty. His father was a Jinshi. After the Jin Dynasty was destroyed by . Southern Song Dynasty, his father surrendered to the Southern Song Dynasty and became an official. Soon after, he surrendered to Yuan Dynasty . Although he had many twists and turns, he finally settled down. Moreover, the Bai family often interacted with poetry and prose and had a good relationship with him.
As a "second-generation official", Bai Pu is deeply influenced by yuan Haowen .
Facing his father's "three changes to his master" when the country was destroyed and dependent on those in power, Bai Pu did not agree with it from the bottom of his heart. He always firmly insisted that "the country will not be affected by the different surnames." Even though he was repeatedly recommended for his outstanding talent, he risked offending others and repeatedly thanked him.
Some years later, someone recommended him to be an official, and in response, he had to hand over a "broken letter" directly to show his determination to "resolutely not to be an official".
From then on, Bai Pu was immersed in the creation of Yuan Opera: he combined his rich literary allusions, his insights into the underlying characters, his dissatisfaction with the social system at that time, and his pursuit of the ideal world in his heart into the affectionate lines.
Looking at his life, that era of turbulence was not what he liked, but he never wasted his talent or his life.
So, Bai Pu's experience tells future generations: no matter how the times change, no matter how the outside world changes, do the careers you love, constantly learn and reflect on yourself, you can always be confident in your heart, and always grasp some certain things in an uncertain era.
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Love the person you love the most and have no regrets in your life.
Some people say that in this life, we will fall in love with more than one person.
When I was young, I thought this was nonsense; when I experienced a lot later, I realized that people's hearts are the most fickle. Those who once loved to die would one day become strangers with nothing to say.
For the public, Lao She is a well-known writer and has written many famous works. His marriage was once a husband and wife, which is enviable; he never missed his children and was a model.
However, it is such a "good man" who is almost perfect in the eyes of others, but after meeting the like-minded talented woman, Zhao Qingge, , he "falls".
Even if his wife Hu Zhiqing "chased" to Chongqing with her children, Lao She chose to avoid it. After Zhao Qingge learned about it, he quickly fled to Shanghai. Unexpectedly, Lao She followed closely, and then Lao She's family also followed her to Shanghai.
In order to be with the person you love the most, Lao She chose to "not care about his wife's noise and the sorrow of his children."Leave the money to his wife, kiss the child goodbye, and leave Chongqing. "
Even, Lao She made up her plan to stay with Zhao Qingge abroad for a lifetime.
Perhaps because she loved each other too much, under the pressure of Hu Zhiqing, Zhao Qingge chose to break up with Lao She and used "Each city to share with each other, and did not meet each other" as a farewell speech.
This relationship, the final ending is that Lao She returns to her family, but she cannot let go of her concern for her lover in her heart, and Zhao Qingge never married for her life.
What outsiders see may be a "desolate plot" that deviates from the world, but the people who are deeply involved in it are always with this friendship.
Life is not long, and they pass by in a hurry In the days, people may really fall in love with different people, but the unforgettable love is only once in a lifetime. Just once, it makes people unable to let go of it in a lifetime.
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Live your favorite way, and your life will be wonderful.
People often say: Every young girl has a "princess dream" in her heart, and every boy has dreamed of "going around the world with a sword".
When the years are getting older, many people feel that they have lost their original dream.
On the road to making a living, people have to be controlled by various "rules of the game" The constraints of this are bound by various clocks and performance appraisals all day long. Dreams are torn apart by reality or put away, and life deviates from the original track.
When can you live your life the way you like?
Some people work hard for the first half of their lives. After realizing financial freedom, they can finally "change their way of living" with confidence; some people, after working hard but still unable to change their destiny, also began to "do whatever they want" under limited conditions.
Like a netizen named "Fifty-year-old aunt travels by herself", they have been living for others for most of their lives. When they were young, they had to take on the responsibility of their sister. After getting married, they were always "confined" by the roles of their wives, mothers, and grandmothers, but the family did not give her any thoughts. The warmth she wants, "going far away" became her only thought.
, with a meager pension, with the help of her daughter, bought a small-displacement car for with a loan and set off.
At the beginning, she was also worried, but along the way, she not only saw more scenery, but also felt more and more confident and aura exuded from the inside out, and smiled more and more.
, many times, letting ideals come into reality, and many people only have the courage to "stop the way".
Only those who dare to act can turn their doubts into confidence and steadfastness, and can constantly encounter more wonderful things.
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Conclusion:
On the road to getting old, following the guidance of your heart and constantly making a better self is the most important practice in your life.
The more time passes, the clearer this sense of urgency is. Only by being yourself well can this life be worthwhile.
Author: It’s as light as the wind and light as the clouds.
Your happiness, my blessings.
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