Introduction
We can find that the elderly men and women in life are often more willing to remarry than women. Because many women think that remarrying is just about being a free nanny for men, which will make them very tired and hard-working, and it is not as comfortable and comfortable as living alone. You can live your own way and not take into account other people's feelings. This kind of old age is comfortable.
64-year-old aunt Wang also thinks so, so she has been living alone to support her daughter after she got married. But this year, Aunt Wang’s ideas have changed. She admitted: "I have lived alone for many years and found out that I still have to have a companion when I get old." Why did Aunt Wang change her mind? Let’s take a look together next.
Self-reporter: Aunt Wang
My surname is Wang, I am 64 years old this year, retired when I was 55 years old. Nine years have passed since I went around. My ex-husband and I have known each other since we had memories. We grew up childhood sweethearts. At that time, I was a child, and I often said that I would marry him when I grew up.
Later I became his wife as I wished. I thought we could support each other and live together until we grow old. But the life after marriage is not as ideal as I imagined. In the third year of marriage, our relationship was cracked, and we always quarreled endlessly. Both of us were strong people, and no one was willing to take a step back.
It was also after many quarrels that our relationship became worse and worse. Sometimes when we get home from get off work, we are all busy with our own affairs and are unwilling to say something to each other. Maybe it was because of this that my ex-husband had a woman he liked outside. I only discovered it after they had been together for a year. After discovering that I did not make a big fuss, but divorced him decently.
After the divorce, the house belongs to me, and my daughter lives with me. Since then, I have regarded my daughter as my only support. With my daughter by my side, I feel happy every day.
However, when my daughter grew up, she also had her own small family and could not be with me at all times. My daughter got married when I was 57 years old. Since she got married, I have lived alone for so many years.
In fact, my daughter also hopes that I can find a home for myself, otherwise I will be too lonely alone, so it would be nice to find someone who can talk to myself. But I don’t have this idea myself. Maybe the last marriage was too failed, which made me not have the courage to start a new marriage.
There is nothing wrong with living alone and raising an elderly person. You can live whatever you want. Life is very simple. If you find a wife, you may have to worry about the other person everywhere and even serve the other person's life. Such a life is far less comfortable than living alone.
Over the years, I have also become accustomed to living alone to support my old age, in order to enrich my old age life. I also signed myself up for a painting class, and I would study several times a week. Over the years, my painting skills have also improved a lot. When I free, I like to hide in the study to draw.
I also planted a lot of green vegetables on the balcony. At the beginning, nothing was good, but with my patience, my vegetable growing skills have become better and better. Now I basically don’t have to buy green vegetables outside, and I can already be self-sufficient.
I usually love exercise. Every day before the sun rises, I go downstairs to dance aerobics . After the exercises, I will continue to exercise. After dinner, I will go out for an hour. I also have a group of friends who love playing basketball, and we will make an appointment to play basketball together every now and then. I really arranged my old age in an orderly manner.
There are also some sisters around me who choose to remarry after being widowed, but their lives are messy, and they are not as happy as me being single. So many people think that being single can lead a high-quality life in their old age. I also feel that I am very happy, so I am more determined to not remarry.
But something happened this year, which made me, who was determined not to remarry, have the idea of finding a wife.That night, I woke up in the middle of the night and wanted to get up and drink a glass of water, but just as I was drinking water, I suddenly felt ache in the angina. I still remember the pain, which is really unforgettable.
I fell to the ground at that time, and I was confused and extremely uncomfortable. I thought I was just going there, but at that time I thought a lot of things. It took nearly ten minutes before I recovered. After recovering, I quickly packed up my things and went to the hospital for examination. Although there was no major problem with the subsequent examination results, I was still very scared.
If I hadn't recovered at that time, then I would really be likely to die at home and no one knew about it. I thought it was very miserable. I was lucky to be able to recover. But no one can guarantee that something similar will not happen next time, and I may not have such good luck next time. After thinking about it, it is better to have a wife at home. For nothing else, I just had an accident in the middle of the night and someone could take me to the hospital for medical treatment in time.
So I started my blind date and met a very good person. His name is Lao Luo . Lao Luo’s colleague is my sister’s husband. We got together after being matched by the couple.
The first feeling that Lao Luo gave me was that he was honest and honest. He didn't say anything sweet, but it made me feel very at ease. When he was with him, he always took good care of me and would not leave me any things he could accomplish. I think I prefer this simple and unpretentious silent dedication than a sweet and pleasing sweet words.
We didn’t get a certificate, we just lived together. I originally thought that living together should be calculated clearly. If Lao Luo pays for living expenses, I should no longer let him do housework, which is fair to both of us. I did the same at the beginning, but every time I did housework, Lao Luo would come to help and never let me work alone. This behavior really made me feel very warm.
We have similar life experiences, and our three views are also similar. Even our interests and hobbies are similar, so we always have endless topics to talk about together. Even if we have conflicts, we will not quarrel, but will communicate peacefully to resolve them, so the more we are in love, the better.
When you are feeling unwell, you don’t need to bother my daughter and son-in-law to take leave to take me to the hospital. Lao Luo accompanied me and took care of me very well. My daughter said that after I was with Lao Luo, she was much more relieved. She didn't have to worry about me being too lonely alone, nor was she afraid that I would be in danger. No one knew about it. Lao Luo’s son and daughter-in-law also respect me very much. Every time I come to visit Lao Luo, I will bring me some gifts and find topics to chat with me. I can feel that they treat me as a family.
My quality of life is indeed higher than when I lived alone and retired.
In the past, I always felt that most of my husbands were for free nanny for others, which was not as comfortable as living alone. Now I realized that my thoughts were too narrow-minded. Although there are many couples who live unsatisfactory in real life, I want to say that life needs to be managed by myself. As long as I find the right person and manage this relationship with my heart, I can naturally live the life I want.
When people are old, they should find themselves with a companion so that the two can take care of each other and the children of both sides can also be at ease. Of course, you should not be blind and impulsive when finding a partner. You should conduct multiple assessments before joining the team. Never settle for a partner, otherwise you will definitely not live a happy life.
