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01
Higashino Keigo " Grocery Store ": " People with naive thoughts are also a good thing to suffer a little in society. "
If a person has naive thoughts, it only means that the person has no experience and has never suffered any hardships. Anyone who has suffered will naturally learn to think from the perspective of others.
For example, some people think they are invincible in the world, but one day they are beaten to the ground because of their arrogance. From then on, they will no longer be arrogant and will think about whether they will be taught a lesson when encountering problems.
Although this is the case, there are always some people who have never left society or have been living in a small and closed environment, and have been naive for most of their lives and no one cares about them. They will think that their standards for being a human being are not wrong. Some people like this will have a smooth life and will not encounter major setbacks. Some people will lose their health in the evening and will be suddenly taught a lesson one day.
Some mother-in-laws belong to such people. Their generation is very conservative, they get married and have children at a young age, and never leave a few miles apart. Such people cannot know the world well. Their ideas cannot keep up with the changes of the times. If they always have some naive and selfish thoughts, they will sooner or later have conflicts with their daughter-in-law.
02
Meng Shuang said that the person who almost became her mother-in-law was a person full of naive ideas. When Meng Shuang first went to the man's house, her mother-in-law made a selfish and naive request: "I bought a wedding house in my house, but I must use your parents' pension to pay the mortgage! "
She was confused at the time, and she didn't expect her mother-in-law to say such words, and she was speechless for a moment.
She was speechless to relieve her emotions and was digesting her words silently, but her mother-in-law mistakenly understood that she had acquiesced and was scared by her stupid words, so she made a more unscrupulous speech: " I heard that your parents are both retired teachers, and the pensions of the two are much higher than my son's salary. If that's the case, it's hard to say that our family spends money. Your family is rich and our family is poor, and the rich should help the poor, right? "
Meng Shuang has a problem. Perhaps because of her personality, she always has trouble. Although it is difficult to accept the unreasonable request of my mother-in-law. I know that my mother-in-law's request is unreasonable, I cannot organize words to angrily argue. The result is just like usual, because I am angry and not difficult to speak, and my face is flushed.
finally was able to organize his language, and he only said a few words: "Don't buy it, I won't marry!"
03
On the way back, my boyfriend kept accusing her of something, saying that his mother was straightforward and conservative, which did not represent his meaning: "It's not easy for us to get together. Besides, we have been together for so many years. We must not break up because of a moment of indifference, otherwise it will be difficult for us to meet someone as good as each other."
Meng Shuang was in front of her strange mother-in-law, but in front of her familiar boyfriend, it was a different state. She was angry, and after listening to her boyfriend's words, she became even more angry: "You mean to blame me? Am I angry for no reason? Is your mother wrong? Reminisce about what she said? If my parents made such a request to you, wouldn't you be angry? We are all adults, why can't we even get married? Why should we implicate our parents? Anyway, I won't agree to the request made by my mother-in-law. Even if we really don't have the ability to buy a house, we have to help both parents, instead of just letting my parents help. "
My boyfriend nodded like a pound of garlic and swore that he would definitely take back his mother-in-law's life and would not let her be angry again.
04
A year later, Meng Shuang got married, but the groom was not the original boyfriend, but an old classmate who knew the truth.
She said that she temporarily decided to replace her, with only two purposes: one is to revenge her ex and his mother, so that they can see that if she does not do as required by the mother and son, she can get married smoothly and will get married better; the other is to make it happen once and for all, and do not want to waste time guessing her mother-in-law’s thoughts.
"" I am already in my third year, not young anymore, and I am not so obsessed with the freshness of love. Fresh things are good, but at the same time they also mean that there are many unknown risks. After all, I don’t know much about that man and his family. If I go halfway, I find that I chose the wrong one, and then I am old, and I will definitely have no way to go. In contrast, I know that classmate well, and his parents did not make any unreasonable requests, so he is a better candidate for me. "
Although there were unpleasant episodes in her marriage later, they were all small things, and the overall life has been developing healthily. But her ex-boyfriend is not as good as hers. Although she got married successfully, she is always worried by the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
05
Everyone has to face countless choices in their life. No one can determine which choice must be correct. The only criterion for determination is to follow their own feelings. If you feel right, the choice will not be too bad; if you feel wrong, you will make mistakes again and again .
Take Meng Shuang's experience at that time as an example. First, her mother-in-law was angry with her, and then her boyfriend said that he loved her the most, but behind the scenes, but behind her back, she silently implemented her mother-in-law's bad idea behind her back, and the mother and son jointly plotted against her.
Their mother made her feel bad. At this time, someone who made her feel good appeared, and of course she would choose the latter. Just like a person who was overwhelmed with thirst, she knew that one of them was poisonous and the other was harmless, so she had no choice, so she certainly would not drink poison to quench her thirst.
In this life, it may not be realistic to pursue perfection, but it is feasible to pursue relative perfection. If you can choose a relatively perfect option based on your own conditions, there is no need to compromise yourself to choose an imperfect option .
Using the same idea, her ex, and choosing to believe her mother's bad ideas without choosing her is equivalent to taking the initiative to choose imperfection and choose troubles, and life will definitely not be easy.
