My friend’s nephew Xiaofeng graduated from university and was admitted to civil servants in our county. His work unit is good and he is a better bureau in our county.
My friend called me to talk to Xiaofeng this weekend. Xiaofeng pursued a girl in their unit and was rejected. Now he was in a state of unrequited love. He was confused and worried that something would happen to him, so he asked me to talk to him.
Xiaofeng I have been a child since I was a child. I know this child well. I have a gentle personality and are very sensible in speaking and doing things, but I am just a stubborn person.
Xiaofeng and I met in a small restaurant. The handsome guy, 1.8 meters tall, was wearing a long-sleeved T-shirt. He was 25 years old and was in the sunshine, but his face was covered with sorrow and his eyebrows were tight, as if someone owed him money.
We both asked for 4 side dishes and after 2 bottles of beer, Xiaofeng opened up the conversation.
"Uncle, you don't know, I really like her. When I first started working, I fell in love with her at first sight. From then on, I believed in love at first sight." Xiaofeng said with his head down.
I know that this is not the time for me to persuade him, so I will let him vomit first.
"I have worked for more than 2 years and have been in contact for a long time. I am even more obsessed with her. We are not in the same office, so I always find reasons to go around her office just to take a look at her. I find opportunities to talk to her, but she always ignores me." Xiaofeng's eyes were very melancholy, and he looked at the ceiling of the restaurant, as if he was trapped in memories.
"At the beginning of this year, I confessed to her and she directly rejected me. At that time, I wanted to die. The more I did this, the more I missed her. Sometimes when I saw other men talking to her, my heart felt inexplicably painful. My mind was full of her, and I couldn't lift my energy at work, so I was criticized by my leaders for this." Speaking of this, Xiaofeng had a drink in one breath.
"After get off work in the afternoon, I sent her home several times. The talk was very good on the way, and we also had many common topics, but why can't we get into her heart? I remember one time, it rained, and I was worried that she didn't bring an umbrella, so I bought a very beautiful umbrella, thinking about taking her home after get off work. But a gay man in her office drove him, and I followed him by taking a taxi, thinking about it, which was very painful." Xiaofeng's eyes were a little wet, and I could see the fluctuations in his heart.
At this time, I knew I had to speak.
"Xiaofeng, uncle is also a veteran. I understand your mood and know the feeling of missing someone. If you like her and love her, you will be full of her in your heart. This is normal. Come, let's cheers." As he said that, Xiaofeng and I clinked.
"This relationship is actually not called a relationship, it's just your secret love. You will have to go through this process sooner or later. Love is beautiful, but things have two sides. The deeper you love, the deeper the pain. There is only one way to make the other party fall in love with you?" I said here, Xiaofeng's red eyes lit up, looking at me eagerly.
"Every girl likes responsible people, responsible people, and excellent people. As long as you try to become an excellent person, I think this girl may fall in love with you. Even if she doesn't fall in love with you, there will be no shortage of good girls around you." Looking at Xiaofeng's expectant eyes, I continued.
"You are still young now, and your career is the most important thing. You are full of this girl in your mind now, which has affected your work and is extremely unfavorable to you. You can also think of this. In order to get her, You must be excellent, you must be successful in your career, and take your thoughts and secret love for her as your motivation. In time, when you are truly excellent, maybe she will take the initiative to pursue you. When you are strong enough, you will find that things that are originally unattainable will become within reach. " said this, and my tone became serious.
"Uncle, I understand all of what you said, but I just can't stop thinking about her. I can't control myself." Xiaofeng said very frustrated.
"It's okay, this is also a normal phenomenon. You have to divert your attention. When you see her in the unit, you have to pretend to be indifferent; when you are free, you can exercise your body and let fatigue eliminate your longing; when you are thinking randomly at night, force yourself to read; communicate more with your friends and classmates, and participate in more activities in your young people's circle. Time is the best medicine for all trauma, and it will be better slowly."
Later, Xiaofeng and I drank a lot of wine and said a lot of words. Overall, he seemed to be much better.
In fact, there are quite a few young friends who fall into unrequited love. There is a saying that I forgot where I saw it: is the age of blooming, so don’t rush to bear fruit.
Modern society can be said to be more and more realistic: you have no house or car, no good job, no deposit, no luxury car, no good parents, no mine at home, what love do you talk about or what love do you say?
I have not denied that there is true love. True love has, and it must exist, but even the purest love needs to be based on material foundation. Time is also the touchstone of love . When you are in a downturn, you meet a lover who is truly in love. The two of them work together and face a bleak life together. One year, two years, what about the time? Ten or eight years later, you are still in such a poor life. Will love be pure?
It is the expectation of every young friend to have true love. If you don’t have a good foundation for guaranteeing it, I advise you to focus on strengthening yourself, work hard to develop your career, and work hard to make money. When you are strong enough, many things, including love, will come uninvited.
