text | Zhu Sinyong
When I was tutoring a case, I found that many Saner's methods were despicable. They would deliberately get pregnant and wanted to use their children to get promoted. This is also a headache for many wives.
However, those San'er who have given birth to illegitimate children and are unable to get into the position and use children to pester her husband, which means that her potential energy is very weak. She has already been controlled by your husband, and she is starting to worry.
San'er used her child to divorce, which means she did not understand what the man really cares about. She originally thought that the child could trap a man, thought that the man had true love for him, and thought that he could divorce and get promoted after giving birth to a child... But she didn't understand the true psychology of a man who had extramarital relationships. The purpose of his extramarital relationships was to adjust and supplement, not to replace his own marriage.
Those San'er who gave birth to children are often trapped in themselves. Men will not divorce their wives just because San'er has children.
Faced with such a situation, the wife can dig out her pain points when she meets with San'er, fan San'er so that their extramarital relationship will be cracked and shaken.
Wife must promote the three talks of wife:
1, recognize Saner's efforts.
When my wife went to San'er to communicate, she learned to amplify San'er's sense of sacrifice, amplify her anxiety, and stimulated her to want to find her husband to get a result and give an explanation, so that she can be more anxious and anxious.
The more San'er asks her husband for trouble, the lower the emotional value your husband gets from extramarital relationships, the lower the benefits, and the more it helps the breakdown of extramarital relationships.
Your husband will see "It turns out that she can do it and make trouble, it turns out that she will get angry is even more terrifying." The more troubles you make, the more your husband feels "it's really annoying to do it and make trouble every day."
2, exposing the men's extramarital relationship.
Picking up a man's extramarital relationship is to find a supplement and a remedy for marriage. San'er gave her true love, time and uterus, development and life, and she only played the role of a remedial product for marriage and was the cannon fodder for calming marriage. It made San'er realize that her efforts and gains were actually not equal. Everything she gave only satisfies the man's own selfish desires.
3, exposes the true manifestation of men in marriage.
When the wife communicates with San'er, she should show the true quality and situation of her marriage to San'er.
Men have extramarital relationships and they will make their wife and marriage very bad. The common lies are "We have no feelings for a long time", "I am about to divorce", "I am just holding on for the sake of my children", "She doesn't understand me at all, and it is particularly bad for me."
San'er mistakenly thought that this was a marriage without quality, and she even had a Virgin Heart and wanted to give her to this man.
The wife needs to clarify the true situation of the marriage, so that San'er gradually realizes that she has been deceived all the time, and San'er realizes that their marriage has not only not disintegrated, nor does it have no quality as men say. On the contrary, marriage has development, foundation, community, and satisfaction.
You have to let San'er think: If his marriage is really beyond salvation, then it is okay to collect it yourself, but now his marriage is of good quality, and he is the one who destroys other people's feelings; let her think, when this man's marriage is not bad, he started to provoke unmarried women. What is his purpose and what is his character?
You have to learn to plant heart anchor for San'er, expose the truth in person with San'er, and dig out San'er's pain points.
This is a very important point of action during the meeting between the three wives. As long as you grasp it, extramarital relationships will definitely face a huge blow, and the relationship between your husband and Saner will begin to shake.
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