, they always surrounded the family and had no meals. Even if I didn’t want to eat, I had to cook for them. The cup and plate after the meal are messy and I always ask me to clean up. Sometimes I want to eat something because they don’t eat it, and I don’t want to buy it for myself. If you want to go out, you have to do the job of a few people. If one of them is not happy, I may not be able to go there. Or, because I had some expectations and wanted to go there, but I ended up with a bad mood. Not only did I not go there, but I was also irritated.
Before, I always looked forward to them to remember during the holidays and birthdays. It doesn’t matter whether there is a gift or not, what is important is that they take the initiative. But men are all rough, and children do not have much experience yet, and often end up having nothing. Even if they sometimes make up for it, they always feel a lot of trouble, and they feel that they do not pay attention to it, are not proactive, are particularly wronged, and are particularly unwilling to accept it.
For many years, I feel more and more frustrated. I feel more and more resentful in my heart. Even if I do anything, I feel unwilling and unwilling to do it. Finally, when I make it, I give it to them, and they are not happy. The hygiene is done. The house is clear and clean, but I can't find the shadow of happiness. I don't know where the problem lies. I'm twisted, frustrated, resentful, and all kinds of emotions. I feel that I'm not happy about anything I do.
read many stories, listened to countless rumors, and learned many people's insights and experiences of those who have experienced it. One day, I suddenly became enlightened. I can't wait for others to love me, I have to love myself first.
Cooking is a responsibility, but I will not enlarge it to make it for a meal, and it will not be delicious if it is made. If I was very busy that day or really didn't want to do it, I would tell the child or the child's father that I don't want to do it, you can make it yourself or order takeaway. Children are also happy to have free choices. After eating at home for a long time, they will want to change their appetite. If the child’s father doesn’t want to make it, he will naturally be willing to order takeaway. But sometimes he also dislikes whether the outside is clean and hygienic, so he will try to find a way to make a meal by himself, and the children will give them face and eat them cleanly. The kitchen will be messy and messy. In the past, I would complain all kinds of times and then follow behind my butt to clean up. Now I am happy to clean up, and if I am not happy, I let them find a way to do it themselves. Most of them will clean up, and the details are always unsatisfactory, but it is better than doing it while getting angry. And after doing it a few times, men will feel that they can do it and will slowly think about taking the initiative to cook occasionally.
Regarding going out for fun, I tried to go out alone and found that I really didn’t feel too comfortable! I want to go out when I go out. I know what they need to do during the day and will explain the children's affairs. As for how much I can do, I don’t ask too much, give myself freedom and give them freedom. On the contrary, each will restrain himself, and I have gained a lot of happiness myself! The fun of going out to nature is simply healing. Many irritable and restless emotions in your heart will slowly calm down in front of nature and enter into such an atmosphere. You will feel that life is originally wonderful, and the trivialities of the past tied you up and wrapped you up. But in fact, if you break free, you will have a world! Sometimes you walk around, sometimes take photos, sometimes write something, and actually express some joy, your joy will double! The likes and encouragement of my friends will also make me feel that I can share some beauty with more people and I will feel a little accomplished.
As for where to go out, we naturally need to rely on the economic situation and know that the family is under great economic pressure, and we will not spend too much money on so-called distant travel without stakeing family members. This must be clear. I usually go to suburban parks, greenways, or mountain climbing. On a longer holiday, I will go to the beach, feel happy and have a relatively low consumption.Some people think there is a beautiful view at the door of their house, but they can comfort themselves! In fact, it is not the case. If you go there frequently, every plant and tree are different in every season. It is really an interesting thing to observe their growth, listen to the sound of flowers blooming, and discover every change in insects, birds, flowers and plants!
As for sometimes I hope to get some care or gifts, I won’t take the initiative to ask for it, but I will buy gifts for myself. What I want is actually not too expensive. I just use the reasons of birthday or persistence in doing something, etc. to reward myself. On the one hand, getting what I like is also a great joy. On the other hand, I also have requirements for myself, and I work hard in this direction. Only by doing my best can I gain something, which is also an incentive!
Since this, I have obviously no longer twisted and no longer depend on my family. I can basically control my happiness, and my mood will gradually improve. As long as I am in a good mood, my family will gradually no longer have a great burden. On the contrary, everyone will relax after all, and their condition will improve. Occasionally, you will receive one or two gifts. Whether you like it or not, it will be an expression of your family's wishes and will be moved!
I found that I no longer feel that I feel wronged, nor will I complain too much about my family, and I feel that they have deprived them of their happiness. Instead, because I am happy, I feel comfortable from the bottom of my heart, and I will no longer quarrel over trivial matters. The aura at home is smoother and more joyful. Gradually, my family seems to be getting better and better!
What impressed me before was these words:
You don’t even love yourself, how can you love others?
Only when you have the ability to love yourself can you have the ability to love others!
The so-called love is full of itself. If a person has the ability to love, the love flowing in his heart will come naturally, so that he can nourish himself and also nourish his family!
Now, I deeply agree!
