The older generation believes in having more children and more blessings, and believes that raising children to prevent old age, especially in rural areas, people will be ridiculed if they don’t have sons. The more sons there are at home, the more face they feel.
But when I really get old, I realize that it is not the case at all. Whether the child can support himself or not has nothing to do with gender, but depends on whether there is a good education.
Parents want their children to be filial, and teaching by words and deeds is the most important thing. If you are filial to your parents, your children will be filial. If all of the children are not filial, you should also think about whether there is something wrong with your education.
An old man in a certain place sat at the gate of his son's house for a long time just to have a meal. But after waiting for nearly an hour, no one opened the door, so the old man had to stand up and leave helplessly.
According to insiders, the old man is already 70 years old, and everyone calls him an old Han. Old Hantou has three sons, but no one wants to take him to live in the house. He can only live in the old house by himself.
The three sons agreed that each person would take care of the old father's meal for a month, regardless of the size of the month. Whoever was the turn would take care of the head of the month to the end of the month, and no one would take advantage of it.
There are three sons, but no one is in the old age. They are so petty just eating, which makes people sigh. But the villagers said that the old Han was as pitiful as he was now, as hateful as before.
It turns out that the old Hantou was very powerful when he was young. His neighbor gave birth to three daughters and he always bullied others. Not only did he scold him in person as a family, but he also occupied more of his homesteads. The neighbors swallowed their anger and did not dare to do anything to him.
This is true for neighbors and not very good to their parents. They think that it is useless to grow old and eating is a waste, and they always scold them. When the sons grew up in such an environment, they naturally followed suit.
Originally, Old Hantou felt that he was better than his neighbors and had three sons. As long as one of them became successful, he could enjoy himself. But things went against my wishes. None of the three sons became successful and were not filial.
On the other hand, the neighbors, one of them was more and more successful than the other. Not only did they all get admitted to university, one of them even graduated with a doctorate in medicine and worked in a hospital in the provincial capital.
Daughters often drive back to pick up their parents to live in the city. Their parents are not accustomed to living there, so the three daughters raise money to build a new house for their parents. The two-story building is very grand, and the appliances and furniture inside are also very good. The villagers went to his house to visit and kept praising the old couple for their blessings.
The neighbor couple who were scolded so hard that they couldn't raise their heads are now finally proud. As for the old Hantou, since his wife passed away, he has lived alone in the old house. It is so sad that it is.
The neighbor couple is also a kind person. They never ridicule Lao Han and even greet him when they meet. Even so, the old Han was ashamed.
On that day, I was supposed to go to my youngest son’s house for dinner, but Old Han went over early in the morning and knocked on the door but no one opened it. He sat at the gate for an hour without waiting for anyone, so he got up and left.
Looking at the lonely back of the old Hantou, people talked about raising children to prevent old age. Having raised three sons is not as good as other people’s three daughters.
Editor's opinion
Whether children are filial depends entirely on how parents educate them. When a child is born, it is a blank piece of paper. The parents will grow up as they draw.
Old Hantou was unfilial to his parents when he was young, and his children were influenced by him, and he was not filial to him. Words are more important than examples. Even if he teaches his children to be filial to their parents, what he says is different from what he does, and the children will naturally not listen to him.
The old Hantou thought that having three sons would ensure that he was worried about his old age, and even mocked his neighbor for not having a son. As a result, the neighbor's three daughters were very successful and filial. In contrast, the old Hantou was simply ashamed.
all say that the final conclusion is made. People really cannot speak. Until the last moment, no one knows what they will encounter and what they will become.
