Deep love will not last long, and extreme wisdom will be hurt.
People who use deep love are easily hurt by love.
A person who is deeply trapped in love, the deeper he loves the other person, the more he will have concerns about this relationship in his mind. He often puts himself in a dilemma.
For example, he wants to stay with the person he loves forever, but he is worried whether he is suitable for the other person; he wants to hold the other person's hand to spend the rest of his life, but he is worried that he cannot give the other person happiness; he hopes to give the other person the best, but he always feels that he is not excellent enough.
This attitude towards emotional entanglement seems to indicate a person's psychological state of not being confident enough about himself, but when you think about it carefully, this is a manifestation of deep affection. People who are used to entanglement are always used to putting responsibilities in love relationships.
In psychology, there is a famous "psychological pendulum effect" , which refers to:
People's emotions are characterized by multiple and polarity under the influence of external stimuli.
The "psychological pendulum effect" brings us is: A person always has a hesitant attitude towards things that are of great significance to himself.
Applying the "psychological pendulum effect" in a love relationship, we will come to the conclusion: in a love relationship, the more a person cares about a person, the more he is hesitant in this love relationship.
In real life, there are some people who always act like being dragged when they are in a love relationship, and they cannot fully pick up or let go of them all. The cause of this entanglement is because they care too much about this relationship.
1, love or not, this is a question.
About love, writer Sukhomlinsky once said this in his book " Thoughts on Love ":
Love means not picking flowers in the paradise, but building this paradise with care. The passage of
shows that in love, responsibility is more important than acquisition.
People who value love too much will put the responsibility for love first in their hearts. Before accepting love, they will first think about whether they can take on the responsibility for love. Whether
can accept love is a very important thing for them. They must think carefully before they can make up their minds to choose a love.
For them, the premise of love is to be able to assume responsibility for their lover.
2. The deeper I love someone, the more I will be concerned about this relationship in my mind.
If you love someone, you will involuntarily imagine the other person as beautiful and unintentionally underestimate yourself.
As female writer Zhang Ailing said, if you love someone, you will be humble to the dust.
In a love relationship, the more you love someone, the more you will be unconfident, and thus you will be worried about this love.
The reason they suspect this love is because they are worried that they will not be able to give each other happiness.
Every promise they make to their lover is a sincere expression after experiencing their own careful consideration, rather than a casual response to the other person's words.
It is precisely because they have a sincere and rigorous attitude towards love that they show concerns when facing love.
3. People who use deep love can easily fall into a dilemma in love.
A person who uses love too deeply in love can easily fall into a dilemma in love. They both desire to have love but are worried about getting love.
For them, getting love is certainly a happy thing, but after getting love, what should we do to give our lover happiness is what they are worried about.
People who use too deep love will be longer-term than ordinary people when thinking about problems. They will worry about some details when getting along with their lovers and some difficulties that they may encounter.
In their opinion, these worries are not disturbing mediocre people, but are necessary factors that determine the long-term relationship of love. Their entanglement in love is actually one of the manifestations of their deep affection.
The deeper the love a person is, the more likely he is to be entangled in love and put himself in a dilemma.
psychology "psychological pendulum effect" tells us that the more a person cares about something, the more he will be hesitant when he deals with it.
In a love relationship, a person who uses deep love can easily show swaying and hesitation in a love relationship. This seemingly lacks self-confidence behavior, but in fact it is a manifestation of loving someone deeply and valuing this love.
For those who are easily affected by the "psychological pendulum effect" when in love, we should give him some encouragement to make him confident and enable him to face love bravely. When he can affirm his own value and firmly believe in this love, he will be more dedicated and firm in this relationship.
Only by having firm belief in love can you gain a happy love.
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