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Friends are a beam of light in this world that can make people feel warm and not lonely.
Everyone will have their own friends in this world. However, not every friendship can develop for a long time.
Many friends dissipated in the crowd because of poor management. When interacting with people, no matter how good the relationship is, you need to maintain your feelings with care. When managing relationships, you cannot avoid "giving gifts". maintains "reciprocity exchanges" and learns to give "gifts", which can not only enhance the development of feelings, but also stabilize the relationship.
Tor Carlisle once said in "Past and Present": "In general, in the interaction between people, the more thoughtful the etiquette, the safer the etiquette, the better the luck."
However, not everyone knows how to give "gifts" reasonably. Sometimes, if you give a "gift" inappropriate way, you will backfire.
No matter how good the relationship is, you cannot give the following things to others, which can easily cause misunderstandings.
02. Don’t give gifts that others can’t afford
In life, everyone has a different situation.
Some people have encountered storms in their lives, so they are in a low period. Some people, because they are good at managing, seize opportunities and make themselves successful.
Rich people may be more generous and willing to buy gifts. People who have no money cannot give expensive gifts without the support of their financial strength.
People interact with each other rely on "recitations". Most of the gifts received are "given back".
So, if the gift you buy for others is too "expensive", it will cause psychological pressure to others. She will feel from the bottom of her heart that she can't afford it because she can't afford it in the future.
Moreover, a gift that is too "expensive" can easily cause misunderstandings. It is easy for people who have no money to feel inferior and insulted.
When giving gifts, you must consider what gifts to give based on the other party’s economic level.
Gifts, given reasonably to enhance feelings. Gifts are not reasonably given, which will cause rifts between the two people and will be detrimental to the management of their relationship.
03. Don’t give gifts with bad meanings
gifts, it represents a person’s wishes and blessings.
When sending gifts to others, I hope to convey blessings and joy. Sending different gifts represents different meanings and blessings.
For example: when getting married, I send a cup to hope that the couple can be sweet and happy for the rest of their lives; when I am in love, a woman gives a man , Thousand Paper Crane , which means I hope that each other's love will have a beautiful ending.
gifts are often given "blessings" and "meanings". sending a pair of gifts will make others more joyful and happy, and will further deepen the relationship between each other.
However, if you give a gift without paying attention to the "meaning", giving the wrong gift will easily cause misunderstandings.
For example: giving someone a "umbrella" can easily make people think they want to go their separate ways; giving "clocks" is homophonic to "send to the end", which can easily make people feel uncomfortable.
When giving gifts to others, no matter how good the relationship is, don’t give gifts that are bad “meaning” at will. Because it is easy to cause misunderstandings, and they will no longer be able to be with each other because of their different values.
04. Don’t give gifts you don’t like
Zhou Enlai once said: “When people know each other, they are more important to know each other.”
The gift that can really deepen the relationship is actually a gift that “to the heart”.
When giving gifts to others, don’t give gifts you don’t like.
So, what are the gifts you don’t like?
In life, there may be clothes that you don’t like to wear and shoes that you don’t like to wear. Although they are still very new, they are “old things” in the eyes of others.
Or, when giving gifts to others, you are full of perfunctory and buy some gifts you don’t like and give them to your friends.
: Giving gifts is about caring and care.A gift is not about how valuable it is, but about whether it is truly thought about it from the perspective of others and whether it is given to you.
If you give others a gift you don’t like, it will make others feel disrespected, cherished, and cared about.
So, don’t be too casual and perfunctory when giving gifts. If you care about someone, choose a gift for the other person with your heart.
As a friend, what others like is not the gift itself, but the thought and energy you put in with him.
05, summary
Eastern Jin Ge Hong wrote in "Baopuzi·Communication": "If good friends are united, the way of assisting benevolence will be prosperous."
In the vast sea of people, it is a kind of luck to be lucky to make friends who resonate with the soul.
No matter how good the relationship is, please remember not to give gifts at will. Use more thoughts to maintain relationships between each other.
Send gifts not only convey your care, but also express your importance to each other's feelings. In the gifts of reciprocity, the feelings will become deeper and deeper.
On the road of life, if you have someone you care about, please spend more time and learn to think from the perspective of others when giving him a gift.
The gift given to others' "heart" is the gift that truly has weight and can really bring each other closer.
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A gift is not about how valuable it is, but about whether it is truly thought about it from the perspective of others and whether it is given to you.Author: Xia Mo, a new emotional tutor, psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer on the entire network of over 1 billion, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotions, gender, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.
If you give others a gift you don’t like, it will make others feel disrespected, cherished, and cared about.
So, don’t be too casual and perfunctory when giving gifts. If you care about someone, choose a gift for the other person with your heart.
As a friend, what others like is not the gift itself, but the thought and energy you put in with him.
05, summary
Eastern Jin Ge Hong wrote in "Baopuzi·Communication": "If good friends are united, the way of assisting benevolence will be prosperous."
In the vast sea of people, it is a kind of luck to be lucky to make friends who resonate with the soul.
No matter how good the relationship is, please remember not to give gifts at will. Use more thoughts to maintain relationships between each other.
Send gifts not only convey your care, but also express your importance to each other's feelings. In the gifts of reciprocity, the feelings will become deeper and deeper.
On the road of life, if you have someone you care about, please spend more time and learn to think from the perspective of others when giving him a gift.
The gift given to others' "heart" is the gift that truly has weight and can really bring each other closer.
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Author: Xia Mo, a new emotional tutor, psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer on the entire network of over 1 billion, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotions, gender, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.
