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The older you are, the more you feel, love is a very interesting thing. How interesting is
?
Before falling in love, I had strict standards for my partner. I was above 180, had a higher education than myself, and my monthly income was at least twice that of myself. I had to know how to be accommodating, considerate, and understand...
In my thoughts at that time, whenever my partner made me angry, I should stop it in time, and called it "stop loss in time."
But the reality is far from what I expected.
The person I fell in love with later was not tall, average in appearance, and not much salary. Sometimes I even made me very angry. I thought about leaving, but finally decided to stay.
It seems like love is like this. There are ten thousand sets of standards for choosing a partner, but when you fall in love with someone, you find that the other party has become your own standard.
4 The root cause is that love is unreasonable.
Only when you really meet that person will know whether two people are truly in love. After all, it depends on two words - tolerance.
In other words, the degree of tolerance for the other half represents the sincerity of each other.
Inclusiveness is to insist on choosing
I have heard a true story worth pondering when I know it is not perfect.
A woman married a husband. Apart from some knowledge, the other party did not even have basic common sense in life. She could not cook, do laundry, and do housework.
sometimes even the shoes on both sides of the left and right feet are reversed, so that when the wife is in confinement, she often needs to worry about her husband's life. Speaking of days like
, many women cannot accept it, but she stayed with her husband for the rest of her life, and the two of them achieved an enviable love story.
This is the story of Yang Jiang and Qian Zhongshu .
Many people know that Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang have been loving for a lifetime, but many people don’t know that Qian Zhongshu is not that perfect. He was praised and loved by his family since he was a child and could not do anything except study.
After going abroad with Yang Jiang, he relied on Yang Jiang to take care of him. He fell in love for many years before he gradually learned to do some housework within his ability. This was his change.
However, even though Qian Zhongshu was not that perfect, Yang Jiang still couldn't extricate herself.
Because of their story, I remembered a sentence written by Hayao Miyazaki : "Love is not about finding a perfect person, but about appreciating the imperfect person with a perfect perspective."
People always hope that their partner will be better, more motivated, more family-oriented, more considerate of themselves, and more excellent.
can truly love, it won't be like this.
between true love, do you know that a person is not good enough or insist on choosing; do you see the other person's shortcomings, but you still love deeply; there is the possibility of leaving, but you never thought about leaving.
Just like someone says that loving someone means everyone thinks he is not good enough, but you think he has no one to replace him.
tolerant, it is obvious that he is sad but he is unwilling to let go
Some time ago, he sent his friend to work part-time. He worked eight hours a day, but he still had to go to work elsewhere at night, just to make money for his wife.
The wife of a friend has poor family conditions and needs a lot of money to treat every day after her mother gets sick.
Many people advised him to divorce his wife openly and secretly, thinking that the two of them have no children, so it would be better to dump his wife as a "burden" earlier and start a new life, but he has never had a similar idea.
On the way to send him to work part-time, I remembered the past Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman .
Lu Xiaoman was born with a golden spoon in her mouth and has a high pursuit of quality of life. In order to make Lu Xiaoman live a better life, Xu Zhimo has been working hard and has been working hard.
Many people like to "materialize" love, constantly emphasize the equality of love, and constantly reiterate how tired it is to marry a person whose conditions are not as good as theirs.
But true love will not be restricted by these.
Li Yinhe and Wang Xiaobo When they got married, they had nothing, and they didn't even have a wedding, but Li Yinhe was willing to marry;
Lin Huijia and Li An When they got married, An An was very poor, and even after marriage, An An was very poor. He was raised by Lin Huijia for six years, but Lin Huijia never thought about divorce.
used to think that love is too realistic now, so many couples cannot withstand the test of reality.
later gradually realized that it was because I had not met true love, so every relationship I encountered was very realistic, which was so realistic that it was heartbreaking.
instead, two people who truly love each other are unwilling to let go no matter whether they are happy or sad together, and they are unwilling to leave no matter whether they are superior or unsatisfied.
very much like a passage from "Monster Study":
"I know you have seen famous mountains and rivers, and I am just a low green mountain in the south of the Yangtze River. But the light boat has exceeded ten thousand heavy, and the green mountains are still there." This passage from
may be the best description of true love.
is that I know there are many better people in this world than you, but I still want to choose you;
is that I know there are many minor problems in you that are difficult to change, but I still don’t want to give up on you;
is that I know that it is much harder to live with you, but I still want to live with you.
way to love someone, maybe there is no unified standard. Some people like to give companionship, some people like to spend money on the other party, and some people like to satisfy the other party's wishes.
But when two people are true love, they must have the same characteristic, that is, the "tolerance" born from love.
In this world, everyone has their own minor problems and quirks, but there is always someone who will always like your weirdness.
