actually knows it, but it depends on how you do it after breaking up.
If you can't control your emotions after breaking up, you will always be unable to control your emotions, pester him, contact him, and even send him a short composition late at night, then there is a high probability that he will not look back, not only will he not look back, but he will even hate you very much.
What is the correct way to do it? Come on, I will teach you a trick: mentality backfire. To put it simply, when he breaks up, don’t do anything, don’t reply to the news, and disappear directly. Believe me, he will definitely come back to find you in no time.
Don’t look at this trick that sounds a bit anti-human, but really, if the other party breaks up with you, you won’t reply to him directly, or say thank you, goodbye. Then he will most likely never forget you again.
Why? There are two reasons.
First of all, the unfinished thing can make him remember it for a lifetime.
There is a famous word in cloze psychology called "unfinished complex".
refers to humans who are born with an instinct to pursue the integrity of things. When something that could have been accomplished eventually becomes an unfinished thing, then this unfinished thing will leave a deep impression on people, and even our subconscious will continue to drive us to complete this thing.
is like an obsessive-compulsive disorder drawing a circle. He was about to draw it, but you insisted on interrupting him and not letting him finish drawing it. Then will this circle become an obsession in his heart? He tried every means to finish the circle.
So in the same way, in love, if the other party wants to break up with you, he must be holding on to the purpose of having a beginning and an end in the relationship with you.
At this time, whether you agree or disagree, as long as you reply to his message, it will inevitably fall into his framework. And if you don’t reply, it is equivalent to breaking out of his framework. If you don’t play according to his script, then this will leave him endless imagination and he will keep guessing: Do you agree or disagree?
In this way, the psychological effect of "unfinished complex" will force him to look back and ask you for a clear answer.
The second reason is that the sense of gap will make him unwilling to accept it.
means you must understand one thing: no one does not want to be popular. The premise for him to break up with you must be that he has grasped your love for him and you will keep him, so even if he is dissatisfied with you, he will still enjoy your retention.
But as a result, you don’t try to keep it at all, and there is not even a message. So, will his sense of gap come? At this time, he will begin to question himself: Do you not love me so much that you are too lazy to reply to a message?
Then this sense of gap will eventually force him to look for you, because he is unwilling to give up and wants to be the winner of this relationship!
Of course, someone may ask, what if this man really wants to break up? Girl, I tell you, if a man really wants to break up, he is too lazy to tell you at all. He will directly rape you, and he will not say anything, so that you can break up.
So as long as he breaks up, you can use this trick with him, which will surely rekindle your desire and give your feelings a lifetime.
If you don’t believe it, you can experience it yourself. Do you often use this trick?
Did you really mention breaking up for breaking up? Most likely, it's just to let him coax you!
Actually, you just want to break up to threaten him to change! And if he ignores you at all, or just say, OK, let’s part! Then the next step is to replace you with loss and disgust , if you are unwilling to give up, if you want to save it?
Of course, this backlash can only last for your relationship. If you want to truly repair your relationship, the most important thing is to see whether your own value is worthy of his return.
I said before that the essence of love is actually a value exchange. Everyone will price both people in an intimate relationship at the beginning, and in love, the price depends on the sense of demand shown by both parties.
If you act particularly inseparable from the other party, for example, as mentioned at the beginning, after a man breaks up, he will look down on you very much. At this time, your sense of demand is oversupply, and in his heart, your value has plummeted, and it is almost impossible to talk about redeeming it.
So the most important thing to decide whether a relationship can be repaired is that you need to improve your value. To enhance value, you must first reduce your sense of need and no longer contact the other party. Then during this period, find the root cause of your relationship and find ways to solve it.
When you are fine, do more things to improve yourself, instead of lying in bed all day long, not eating or drinking, this will only make the other party feel that you have no ambitions and look down on you even more. Do you understand?
After breaking up, don’t take the initiative to contact the other party, don’t pay attention to the other party, and don’t reveal a trace of the signal “Come back quickly, I can’t live without you” to the other party. They are all taboos.
Because once you show the idea that you can't live without him, he will think: Oh, you still like me, then okay, I will do whatever I should do.
So after breaking up, you must control your emotions, put away your unwilling and sad emotions, and transform them into motivation to continuously improve your personal value. When your self-worth continues to increase, he will naturally come back to you, because the good things you have not obtained will always be regrets. Do you understand?
Psychological test: Test the words your ex wants to say to you most
1. Do you quarrel over trivial matters when you are together?
Yes, I often feel very tired —2
rarely argues over trivial matters —2
Occasionally, but I can make up soon —3
2. Do you think you are a person who likes to reflect on yourself and is willing to correct your mistakes?
is —3
is not —4
3. Will TA take the initiative to tell you about your troubles?
often says - 5
doesn't say much - 4
4. Will you tell your parents about the process of your love?
, and often complain to my parents. —6
, occasionally, they will talk about it when they ask. —5
, hardly say it, there is nothing to say —5
, there is nothing to say —5
5. How much energy are you willing to spend to get what you want?
Everything goes with the flow, it’s mine after all, it’s mine —7
Work hard, maybe you can succeed —6
Try your best, I have to get everything I want —B
6. Is it because a third party appeared?
Yes—A
No—7
7. Has the other party contacted you actively after breaking up?
Yes—D
No—Ch
