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Introduction:
Because nanny and employers often live together, there are many examples of how they can get together, but there are very few truly happy families. A 62-year-old man said, "I married my female nanny. We are 10 years apart. I thought we would be happy until we grow old, but I found that she didn't treat me as a family at all. She always asked for endless requests from me. In less than half a year, I had enough." What kind of thing is it?我们一起来看看徐大爷的故事吧。
Self-reporter: Mr. Xu 62 years old
I am a retired worker, and my monthly pension is about 5,000 yuan. My wife left 5 years ago because of illness. My son has already started a family and started a business. Although he is in the same city, he is still a distance away and needs to be a two-hour drive. My son rarely goes home when he is busy, so basically I live by myself.
I am still full of expectations for my life after retirement. I like playing cards and chess, so I often play with my friends, but after a long time, I feel very lonely. I am alone every day. I really feel the loneliness of the elderly. My son saw my anxiety and told me to ask me to find a nanny to serve me and to talk to me. I thought it was great, so I agreed.
After my son's introduction, he said that his friend found a relatively reliable and capable female nanny. She is 52 years old this year, but she looks very young, she is a rural person, and is very capable of working. The point is that she will care for others. I thought it was good, so I asked her to come. When I first met, I thought she was pretty good and shy, but she gave me a very honest look. The salary I paid her 4,000 yuan, and the money was paid by my son.
This female nanny is named Yu Mei. I always call her Xiao Yu. She told me that she divorced her ex-husband and lived with her son. Because she was afraid in her hometown in the countryside, she followed her son to live in the city. Usually, her son worked with her daughter-in-law, so she found some odd jobs and earned some pocket money. Later, she went to me to be a nanny for me.
Actually, I don’t need Xiaoyu to do a lot of things for me. The main thing is to help me clean up and chat with me. Because we left a good impression on each other, we also had feelings for each other. Although we didn’t say it clearly, we all knew it. Later, we opened our hearts and expressed our thoughts. Our relationship was also supported by our children. So we slept on the same bed, which means we officially lived together.
Since living together, I feel that Xiaoyu has treated me better. I always ask about my well-being and cook a lot of delicious food for me. However, she later suggested that she wanted her son and daughter-in-law to come to my house for dinner. She said that the place where they worked was not far from my house, and asked me if I could come to have a meal and recognize the door by the way. I felt that there was nothing wrong with it, so I agreed.
But what I didn't expect was that this time didn't matter, but what was even more terrifying was that there were countless times. At first, her son and daughter-in-law were embarrassed, but later she was just like coming to her own house. Every day at noon or evening after Xiaoyu would take the initiative to ask them to come to my house for dinner, which made my house look like a restaurant. Although I felt uncomfortable, I couldn't show any unhappiness. I said Xiaoyu indirectly, but she didn't listen at all. She also felt that my situation was too small and I really couldn't understand.
Since it can't be changed, then accept it calmly. But later Xiaoyu made another request that I couldn't accept. I remember that she cooked a lot of dishes that day and drank a few glasses of white wine with me. I also drank a little too much. As I was drunk, Xiaoyu told me that my son wanted to buy a car. Can I ask me to pay 50,000 yuan to help my son? I sobered up after hearing this. This was giving me a lot of money. Although I couldn't drink enough, my brain was very good, so I refused in one gulp.
I told her: "First of all, I don't have that much money. Even if I have that much money, I can't give it to him casually. If I lend it to him, I have to write an IOU. In addition, you are patronizing your son and let your son come to my house for dinner every day. I am like an outsider. I feel very uncomfortable in such a life, and I will not give it money." Unexpectedly, Xiaoyu was also very firm, she said : "If you don't give me this 50,000 yuan, I won't live with you. I will do what I say."
I have really suffered such a woman. After only half a year, my life can't continue. I let her move away. I will not try to keep her. Even if I promise to give the money now, I will probably have more excessive requests next time. I am not stupid. I should live alone, at least I will have less worries.
Today's topic:
I think Xiaoyu is a bit too much. She always thinks about her son, never considers the employer's ideas, and always makes more excessive demands intensified. This is really unreasonable. It is also a good idea for the two to break up. For finding a partner, it is better to take a look at each other's character. Those who are not good at character must not be asked for.
Do you think Mr. Xu should be separated from Xiaoyu? If it were you, would you agree to the woman’s request? Everyone is welcome to leave a message in the comment section below for discussion.
