Qian Zhongshu said in " Besieged City ": "To be honest, no matter who you marry, after getting married, you always find that you are not the original person, and have changed to another one." When men and women are in love, their images in their hearts are perfect and the best. Therefore, only when two people are inseparable from each other, this kind of love, this kind of appreciation, and this recognition are the basis for love and the prerequisite for entering marriage.
Some people say that men and women in love have the lowest IQ. The reason for this phenomenon is that people are too focused on the form of love. No matter how you look at lovers, they are all handsome men and beautiful women. The lover’s eyes are like this, which is what they say. The aesthetic standards at this time are very emotional, or they can be said to be superficial. With this expectation and desire, the two passionate young people happily got together and began the marriage ceremony.
Love is romantic, marriage is realistic. When the two of them entered the marriage, they played the symphony of pots and pans. Food, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, tea, eating, drinking, defecation, urination, sleeping, either you have more or I have less or you have less or I have heavy weight. The friction between each other and the quarrel between each other has become commonplace, and the dissonance of marriage is increasing day by day. In response to the real marriage, the ideals of both of them began to break and gradually became a mess. The boredom between each other and the dislike between each other completely lost the harmony of the family.
Love needs sincerity, while marriage needs to be managed. With marriage, you should have responsibility, responsibility, and tolerance, rather than being petty and pointing to the point. Lin Huiyin and Liang Sicheng and marriages are happy, harmonious and inclusive; Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman and marriages are painful, unfortunate, and distorted. When a husband and wife live together, they must work together to maintain the family, make their own efforts, and be united in one's heart and one's moral integrity. Only such a family will have a future, happiness and peace.
