In the fall of 2018, Yating, a high school classmate who had not contacted me for five years, made a long phone call. After that, she couldn't help but tremble, which made me worry about her extreme actions at any time. There were faint curses and crying on the other end of the p

In the fall of 2018, Yating, a high school classmate who had not contacted me for five years, made a long phone call.

In addition to the beginning of the sentence "Xingzi, your boyfriend is a lawyer, right? I...I want to divorce." After

, she couldn't help trembling in her words, which made me worry about her extreme actions at any time. There were faint curses and crying on the other end of the phone.

I was surprised for a moment and wanted to ask again. Yating had already reported an address to ask me to meet tomorrow and hung up the phone quickly.

The other end of the mobile phone is very different from the people in my impression. In high school, she was the school beauty, with excellent grades and harmonious family. This call should be the most embarrassing time she gave me.

We made an appointment to meet at the cake shop in high school. Time flies, and the cake shop has expanded into a coffee bookstore. Because it is working hours, the store is particularly deserted.

It was early autumn at that time. I entered the store. I sat woodenly on the swaying swing seat. My black hair was tied cleanly and neatly. I was still wearing a white dress as I imagined, but my back was a little thinner.

I approached that person and it was really Yating. She was still very beautiful, but the pink on her face was thicker, and the forehead seemed to be bruised, and she smiled reluctantly.

I looked at her quietly and asked, "What's wrong with you?" This was so simple and straightforward. She kept smiling bitterly on her face.

She lowered her head and pinched the corner of her clothes, breathing a long sigh, "Xingzi, I want to escape a marriage of a good match. Can you help me?"

Yating is the earliest of us to get married. After we became bridesmaids for her in 2013, we have less contact.

I have seen her husband at the wedding. From the perspective of that year, she is a handsome talent, 5 years older than her, and she is still a public official.

The two met through Yating's mother-in-law. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law belong to the same unit and happened to be her boss. She took great care of her when she first joined the company.

I remember Yating's evaluation of her was: a good teacher and friend, but now she told me in tears: "Xingzi, I want to escape from these two people."

Her major is divided into primary subjects. The previous subject teacher retired honorably when she entered school, and the two did not have much intersection.

is because she is clean and has no guidance at work, and she has always longed for independence in life. She bid farewell to her parents, moved out of the house, and lived in a six-story old husband's house closer to the school.

Gradually, Yating felt that the unit was quite boring. She was the only one born in the 1990s teacher in the school. No one talked about her except class.

In order to train her, the leader of the unit gave her a class as the head teacher. When a child in the first grade of junior high school met a young, beautiful and gentle elementary school teacher, it was definitely not as harmonious and democratic as he imagined. She led the whole school class, so she was unable to manage the class.

The child played horizontal bar at school today and threw his legs and called an ambulance. Tomorrow, he threw the chalk head in the classroom of other teachers. The parabola dubbing he drew for the teacher was brought angrily by the teacher to ask her to deal with it. The day after tomorrow, the energetic boys fought in a group and bit the arm of the boy next door...

She realized how good her parents protected her in the past twenty years, but she didn't dare to tell her a word of pain, so that in the end her parents thought that her daughter was just "drinking tea, chatting, and going to class."

The students in the school are average, and the quality of parents is still to be discussed. There are twenty or thirty people in each class, and transfers often occur. This was something she could not imagine before. Although the class she was in when she was studying always emphasized small class size, the class could not even let go of the podium when the number of people was the most, which made her feel that the job was invisibly insidious.

is within the system, she just thinks that she is sensitive and thinking. However, the teaching was not so smooth. There were judges in charge during the trial lecture, and she thought the students were not active enough to cooperate. When she was in class, the brave senior student asked her for a QQ number and said she wanted to take her to CS and DOTA. The lower-grade "school bully" slapped the table in her class and shouted that she would not meddle in other people's business.

When eating at noon, the old teacher asked her half mockingly on the table on the desk how she felt about the school. If she had just been boring about the feeling of the unit before, she was already a little depressed now.

When people are depressed, they are prone to hope that someone will help them, and it’s okay to pull it off.

The mathematics teacher J who teaches in Yating's class as the head teacher appears on time. Teacher J is the backbone of the school's subject that is about to retire. He has strong teaching ability and a relatively strong person.

A dark brown curly hair was meticulously folded, and a cold light often burst out from the black-framed glasses. When the students saw her, they looked like they were looking at an eagle for food, and there were no reasons or excuses.

The lazy people are no longer jogging in the morning, and there are no ones who are not paid for their homework. With the help of Teacher J, Yating spent a month stabilizing the class. She also turned her face cold and smiled under the guidance of Teacher J, and would stabilize the situation in the classroom.

Teacher J teaches every detail at work and cares about life.

Yating had a cold and had a headache. She called to greet her. The next day she asked the doctor's advice and took the pills to urge Yating to take it quickly. She knew that Yating went to the hospital for physical examination and carefully told her about the medical procedures. She also asked her son to help pick up Yating. On the return bus, there were also stewed soup with Teacher J and cooked food that was conveniently heated.

This man - just walked into her life.

"Maybe they think I am soft-tempered and my appearance is easy to live with. At that time, several old teachers in the school said they wanted to introduce me to my boyfriend, and they looked very enthusiastic."

Yating's words were full of excitement. I saw a small flame of anger, "Xingzi, why is it me? Why did they pick me?"

"You..., did you refuse at that time?" I didn't know how to speak for a while and asked carefully.

"I have refused,... a brother school director and a policeman." The light in her eyes was like a flame swaying in the wind, full of helplessness.

Yating is smart after all, and she is not a waste of time for the "school master" for so many years. After stabilizing the class, classroom teaching is also like fish in water. She is young and has new ideas. Even if there are still a few students in the senior grade who like to tease her, she only comforts herself that they will graduate sooner or later, so there is no need to worry.

The work results of the lower grades are obvious. In the third month after work, she brought students to participate in national professional competitions and gained a lot. Out of 30 people, one of them won the first prize, and the first prize accounted for 1/2 of the total number of winners.

She rushed to the director's office excitedly and handed a stack of awards to the director. The director of the teaching director said indifferently: "I know, it will be calculated in your performance appraisal."

A heart sank to the bottom, and followed by many discordant voices.

"Can we win so many awards?"

"You don't know. Now any competition can be used as a national name. I think it's just that."

J teacher: "Yatting, you are moving too fast and want to show off too much. Naturally, someone will say behind your back, don't worry too much. These are useful in the future evaluation of outstanding performance."

J teacher said and touched her head, "You are just like my daughter. I like you very much when I see you. My son Amin, you have seen you. You are 5 years older than you, and you still don't have a girlfriend. You are in the public home. We are working with an iron rice bowl. We don’t have to worry about RV at home. Do you want to have any intention to contact? Girls, there is no need to work so hard in business. I just want a daughter-in-law like you. She is smart and beautiful, and she is good at tutoring. How good is it to take care of her husband and children?"

Originally, Teacher J always asked her son to pick up Yating, but she had this guess in her heart. This guess was suddenly revealed by Teacher J. Yating was very shy and was not without suitors when she was studying. But her parents repeatedly told her to study hard. There will always be marriages. Don’t waste energy while studying. One is 22 years old and the other is 27 years old. Although the woman is younger, she is better because she is beautiful and virtuous and not making trouble. Amin was soon convinced by her mother and fell in love with Yating. A love with similar conditions.

In the eyes of Yating's parents, Aming is honest and loyal. The two have the same appearance, family conditions and education level. In the future, Yating can get her mother-in-law to take care of her in her work unit. It is also good that she can take care of her mother-in-law at her work unit.

My daughter has never suffered since childhood. It is a good thing to see the combination of the two. It was just that the young man died early and grew up in a single-parent family. I wonder if it will have an impact on his personality?

My daughter is young and simple. After all, marriage is a lifelong event, so you have to think twice before you act. They do not object to the two getting along, as adults can make their own ideas, and excessive intervention by outsiders will affect the judgment of young people. Yating's parents told her that the family would not interfere, and you should make your own decisions.

However, the work in the school has gradually become worse. The old teachers' teaching methods are clichés and their use of multimedia is in a state of rejection.

Yating was so embarrassed by the advanced teaching concepts and teaching methods of other schools when she went to study and observe at her brother school. After returning to school, she carefully mentioned it to the relevant leaders, but was told that the school's teaching should conform to the actual situation of the school and that she should be able to teach according to her aptitude.

, and the teaching resources that should have belonged to her seemed to be occupied by other teachers because of her proposal. After working for half a year, my face, which was originally cold or polite, changed, but my previous politeness and distantness changed.

After lunch, Yating was walking alone on the playground. School teachers like to come out to digest food after meals. After walking half a circle, the leader called, "I have always been optimistic about you. You are the most powerful young man since we recruited. I think it is necessary to talk to you after meals.

You put the children in the class aside. How can their lives and learning be guaranteed? Old teacher, I can tell you responsibly that afternoon self-study is particularly important. It is a bridge to connect the morning and afternoon classes. If the teacher is not in the class at noon, they will be drowsy in the first class in the afternoon. As a young teacher or a head teacher, how can you be so selfish and just think about yourself? "

Yating looked at the other old head teachers walking on the playground and the leader who was calling her. He listened to the teachings, was silent, and returned to the class honestly.

Fortunately, the class is very quiet. The students lowered their heads and corrected their homework. One or two people raised their hands to ask her if they could ask questions from the primary school master in the class. Yating nodded in agreement and sat on the table in the last row of the class. Everything is in order, it's great!

As she thought about her phone rang, Amin sent a message, "Don't be sad, I heard from my mother that we won't go out for a walk next time. Newcomers in the workplace, be good, just be good, and don't let the leader get the wrong thing."

Yating's eyes were wet, she lowered her head and whispered, "What's the pretentious thing?" Who didn't come here like this?

The class was quieter. She buried her head gently in the bend of her arms, handed over a tissue, and a pair of rough and cracked hands. She was the most naughty child in the class. Yating didn't dare to look up, and she cried in front of the child and lost face.

She heard the little boy say, "Teacher, I'm not a troublemaker today, and I'm very serious in class. Don't be sad, we're all serious."

Yating took the tissue, stabilized her voice, and said lightly, "Learn well, we're going to have a monthly exam again."

When the summer vacation is approaching, the Municipal Blood Donation Office asks each school to recommend a teacher to donate blood voluntarily. Yating was pushed in front of her youth, and the old teacher of the school said, "Party members should have a pioneering and exemplary role." Yating thought that it was right, so she participated.

"You know I was seriously ill in high school. The doctor did not use hormones for me, but only used glycyrrhizone tablets to stabilize it." Yating said in tears, attracting the attention of the waiters in the store. I handed the napkin over and bit my lip and said, "Don't be excited. Did you give it to me later?"

"No." A slight pleasure flashed in the light of water, "I took the medical papers from the hospital to find the leader. After all, it was an autoimmune disease , which was not easy to donate blood.”

I breathed a sigh of relief, it seemed to be quite smooth?

"He told me that whether he would go to donate blood or not does not count. The blood donation office is a professional. Everyone is so hasty. How can the school convince the public? The blood donation office said that I could give it to me, so I would give it to me gloriously. They said that I could give it to me, so I would come back gloriously."

"So you went?" I reached out and patted her hand gently to show comfort. Yating was excited, "How can we not go! He asked me why women live longer than men, because women have menstruation to help blood circulation, and warned me that donating blood is good for health, so young people should go."

I curled my lips and continued to comfort me: "He can say such words. If this logic is based on this logic, wouldn't men should donate blood more?"

"Who said no? So when Amin later told me that he wanted to donate blood for me, I was particularly moved. I was moved to ask him on the spot at the blood donation office, do you want to marry me?" Yating's voice suddenly lowered.

"Marriage has never been a place to escape suffering, it is more likely to be a deeper and more recent ordeal." She raised her head and looked at me steadily, "Xingzi, you have been studying for further studies since you graduated from undergraduate studies. Everything in your eyes is natural, but the people around me said that everyone has come here like this, just endure it, there is no such smooth sailing."

I have never been good at persuading people, but my friends around me are willing to tell me this and let me listen to all this.

Perhaps it was because of a moment of enthusiasm, Yating and Amin received the certificate without thinking anymore. When she was in love, Aming obeyed Yating, and her mother-in-law was as affectionate as a mother and daughter. Yating thought that her happy life was coming. Work is just a way to earn living expenses. There are many strong women in the world, but everyone has their own choices. How can people around you comment?

After marriage, the two of them spent half a year intimately, and Amin's attitude changed at some point.

"Look at other people's daughter-in-law, you can go to the hall and go to the kitchen. You are not diligent in all four bodies and don't divide grains, so you can clean up the room and stop it. My mother said, "Be a daughter-in-law, you need to..."

Yating is generous and generous, but she is not lazy. At first, she said, "Didn't we agree to divide the housework? It's your turn today."

"My mother said, there are no man working at home. Look at you, when you have any work problems, you cry when you go home, you don't do housework, you sleep in on weekends, and you have to wash your underwear for you. You have such great skills!"

Yating was a little angry for a moment. It was the first time that the two of them had been together. The upbringing made her unwilling to speak ill of each other, but in the face of her husband's unfair accusations, she didn't want to accept everything and did not argue.

"Don't bring my mom in. If you think I'm doing something wrong, just say it directly. Don't say it one by one. This makes you particularly unintentional! Mom only helped me wash my underwear that time. My stomach hurts so much. I originally had to wash it myself..."

"You will find a reason, spoiled and don't even do anything, okay! I'm unlucky!"

Yating grabbed Ah Ming's hand, "Everyone is educated, I'm communicating with you. Is it so difficult? It's like you've suffered a huge grievance."

"I've done all the housework, and things are done one by one according to your wishes. How do you want me to do it?"

"I'm not blaming you, nor do you tell you to do everything according to mine, but just do it."

"I am tired, can't you be more sensible? My mom said..."

Yatting was angry when she heard this: "Your mom, why didn't your mom come to tell me by yourself, and you had to tell me through you? Apart from your mom's statement, can you have some ideas? You are my husband and have no trust and control over the entire family?

Mom raises you all the way, and it depends on the occasion and context when speaking. If you don't like me, just tell me directly, where is I wrong, and the same is true for my mother. Don't be ambiguous here!

Next daughters-in-law are good wives and mothers, I can't do anything, but I haven't learned it? Everyone is working, and I have time to be tired. Is it wrong to share the housework?"

After arguing, the two were exhausted.

"Xingzi, he didn't do that before. That was the first time he yelled at me. Later, there was more and more friction..."

After about a year of marriage, the distribution of housework finally had a division of labor. It didn't matter if there was no division of labor, as well as a dishwasher and a sweeping robot.

J Teacher, however, is becoming more and more disliked by Yating. It’s just that she can’t do things, but she is not thrifty enough to manage her family. Which one should not be thoughtful and done with your mind? She was fine. She spent more than 3,000 on a windbreaker, and her son couldn't save money, so she had to beat her wife.

"Yating, you have to live a long life at home. Look at you who have been married for a year and don't have any savings in your hands. Isn't that reasonable?" Teacher J held Yating's hand with a smile. She also looked at Yating's various states at work. This girl is simple and easy to talk to. With her years of experience in managing students, can she still not control this child?

Yating acted calmly, turned her face toward Teacher J's eyes, and said sincerely, "Mom, I have saved some of the deposits. During the winter vacation, Amin went to New Zealand to hike all the way.

Mom thinks I am too boastful? Every time I have a large amount of capital expenditure, I will deposit it in advance. I spend my own money." Teacher

J's eyebrows hopped and pushed his black-framed glasses upwards, "Look at your child, you are all a family, what do you do if you are so clear? The salary is not too high. Although we don’t have to worry about RVs, we will eventually have to consider the children. We can’t be so willful. Aming is ignorant. You should take more responsibility and let him do it."

Yatting suddenly understood something she couldn’t quite understand a few years ago through the cold lenses. She smiled and said gently, “Thank you mom.”

Life has to continue, but everything seems to have changed. My mother-in-law is no longer inseparable from her in the unit, and a new young teacher has gradually come to school. Apart from family disputes this year, everything seems to be fine.

Amin was not very home at first, and although Yating also understood that he would not do anything, she still felt a little uncomfortable. Maybe life will always be a little uneasy. She has been in the workplace for two years and knows that happiness cannot be used to quality, but she wants her parents to be healthy, have a smooth work, and have a peaceful marriage.

, but I always feel that something is missing, so someone gave her an idea, "Let's have a child, men always have to have children to grow up."

This suggestion comes from Yating’s mother-in-law. What’s scary is that everyone around her thinks this suggestion is very pertinent. She drank some red wine and wanted to find a slightly drunk state. Later, she felt that her energy was insufficient and she went through the white wine that Amin put in the closet. The two alcohols were mixed together, and she had a long dream.

Dreamed that I was still a teenager and wanted to go to school to take the final exam. However, no car I had blocked all the way and was willing to take her. When she was about to change the subway, she welcomed the "Harmony Number". The examination room was arranged in a quaint way, but she had a physics test paper for the history theory .

Invigilator pushed the black-framed glasses on his nose and said with a puzzled smile: "I have a standard answer here."

Yatting woke up and wiped her cold sweat with her sleeves. She heard a slight snoring on the other side of the bed. Yating's nose felt a little sore, and she leaned against him. Is it really the standard answer?

"So naturally later I had a child."Yating showed me the photo, and the little girl's eyebrows and eyes looked very similar to her. I don’t know what she meant to show me the child, but to want to rob the child of her husband of custody?

"Your daughter is so beautiful." I blessed from the bottom of my heart.

"She looks like me, Xu Su is 5 years old. The youngest son is 3 years old. I smashed the TV at home yesterday."

I was stunned, "Smash the TV?"

Yating was silent and suddenly said, "Xingzi, I am really fed up. I have enough of such a boyish family! My mother-in-law told me that I had a child. She gave birth to a daughter for the first time. My mother-in-law is also a teacher. Why is she so pedantic?

Not long after her daughter was born, she told me to make a good word. Hurry up and have another son. Yesterday when I went home, the TV at home was smashed. My daughter didn't wear any shoes. She stepped on the ground and explained to me desperately that her mother was not me, she was really not me.

The youngest son was spoiled by her mother-in-law and Aming, and she sat on the ground and rolled on the wall if she didn't follow his wishes. She was really tired. "

Yatting couldn't describe the bitterness in her heart to Xingzi at that moment, just like seeing the isolated self in the workplace a few years ago. Amin would just sit on the sofa and look at him with his hands in his arms. He fell in love with smoking since his third year of marriage.

Yating felt annoyed, "Amin, please extinguish the cigarette. The children are all there, and everyone is uncomfortable after smelling the smoke." Of course, Teacher J is also there. She didn't want to argue with her husband in front of her mother-in-law.

"You feel uncomfortable when you see me."

J saw that the situation was wrong, so she smoothed out. "That is, , Yaoyao, , just because she fell down the TV. Just ask Dad to buy one again. Grandma is not good. She didn't show him a cartoon. Don't be angry. Let's have a meal."

With the idea of ​​eating first, Yating went to the kitchen, scalded the bowls and chopsticks to serve the rice. Amin walked in and stood behind her. He asked unhappily: "My mother asked me to ask you, should the soup be hot?"

A choking smell of tobacco surged into Yating's nose. She couldn't smell the smell, so she held back her cough. tilted her head : "Of course it must be hot."

Who would have expected that Amin picked up the casserole on the stove and rushed to the ground with a "bang". "Who allows you to talk to me like this? It's hot, so you can add it to me."

A piece of black casserole fragment jumped to Yating's feet, and Yating shuddered and didn't dare to move. She moved her eyes lightly, and there was a raging anger in Amin's eyes, and she didn't know where to mess with him. "The pot is broken, are you still going to let me pick it up?" He reached out and pressed Yating's head, "You kneel down and pick it up!"

"I went to the police station yesterday to make a record. I don't want to make a fuss like this endlessly. To be honest, I was really scared when I saw his eyes yesterday."

"Yes." I nodded. This invisible violence should indeed end early. "Then what help do you need me to give you now? Or do I have anything to help?"

Yating shook her head, "It's good to have someone who hears me that this is already there. Maybe my old dream is protected too well by my family. I suddenly wake up. I will feel that reality is particularly unbearable. Did I scare you last night?"

"There's a little bit." I licked my lips and said as I observed her expression. "Yating, are you going to tell your parents about this?" In high school, Yating and I were very close to each other, and her parents have always been very nice to me. Can such a kind and traditional couple accept this sudden news?

"I don't know, I'll tell them after the divorce procedures are completed." Her shoulders seemed to be overwhelmed and collapsed helplessly.

"I heard you say that your mother-in-law is pretty good." My voice was intermittent, afraid that it would touch her bad head.

"People always grow up. I remember what she treats me well. I don't want to remember what is bad. It not only occupies my brain memory, but also makes me unhappy. In fact, it is my own fault. Who can keep carrying the burden for you? I was too naive at that time.”

…

Nearly two years have passed since the 18-year chat. Last year, Yating divorced as she wished. She left her husband who was not motivated and exposed her slightly violent husband, her selfish and indifferent mother-in-law, and a family that favors boys over girls. The lawyer my boyfriend introduced to her only used the words "not easy" to describe her.

Ordinary people always think that the post-90s generation is too pretentious and cannot afford to feel a little wronged. How can outsiders peek into and understand all kinds of marriage? Just like a person drinking water, he will know the temperature and heat. After experiencing these things, I believe she will become truly strong.

"But her husband is really not a good man. He stood downstairs in her new home in the middle of the night. He ran to her colleagues and classmates to smear her. What kind of world is this?" The young lawyer was a little indignant.

The boyfriend frowned impatiently, "Xiao Meng, the case has been settled, you leaked the client's information, it's too unprofessional."

I heard that Yating took her daughter to change the city and work later. What happened next? I believe it is another story.

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