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Sakyamuni said, "No matter who you meet, he is the person who should appear in your life. There are reasons and missions. It is not accidental. He will definitely teach you something."
deeply agrees with it, "A drink and peck, is it the previous decision." All fate in this world is destiny; everything has cause and effect.
And the fate between husband and wife is also fixed. Some people love you across mountains and seas, but they leave halfway and can only accompany you; some people meet you in a hurry just to teach you a lesson, and then walk away coldly, leaving you covered in scars.
And only those who understand the mountains and rivers in your heart, who are willing to walk with you and overcome obstacles in life, can they support you and share the same old age.
The first three years of marriage
As the saying goes, "Three years of pain, 7 years of itch ", relevant departments have released data showing that the divorce rate in the third and fourth years after marriage has reached its peak.
In other words, the first three years of marriage have become a hurdle. Some marriages cannot last for even three years and come to an end. As for the reasons, there are mainly these:
, the other is that hastily decided to get married, and the emotional foundation is not solid.
Some young people choose to get married under pressure or be overwhelmed by love. But such hasty marriage actually lurks risks and crises.
The couple is likely to find out after marriage that they are not their ideal type. For example: bad temper, unmotivated and unmotivated, responsible, and disagreeable views.
So, after a short period of sweetness, they will have quarrels and disputes over various trivial matters. He even chose to separate or divorce directly in anger.
2: During the time of hiding children, various contradictions gradually became prominent
Many couples will complete pregnancy and childbirth within two years after marriage. Of course, there are also many who get pregnant shortly after getting married. As the period of childbirth enters, various family conflicts will gradually emerge.
For example, after his wife became pregnant, she was tortured by various discomforts such as morning sickness, pubic pain, frequent urination, , insomnia, etc. But my husband didn't care about his wife at all, and even flirted with others. After
was discovered, not only did he feel guilty, but he was full of lies, accusing his wife of becoming pregnant and having a big suspicion.
In addition, in some families, in order to take care of the children, the couple will choose to sleep in separate rooms.
Although some people think that this can ensure the quality of sleep, for young couples, it will affect their relationship. After sleeping in the room at
, some men rarely take the initiative to participate in the process of raising children. After they got home, they went straight to their room to play games or watch videos.
I can’t see how hard it is for a wife to take care of her children, but instead I feel that her wife becomes unreasonable. I even disliked my wife for asking for money all day long.
It comes naturally, their wives will definitely complain about men who give too little to their family, have no sense of responsibility, and do not understand themselves. If there is still a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the family, then this kind of marriage will really make people suffocate and they can't help but want to escape.
Middle-aged period
A certain court has jointly conducted a series of investigations on marriage data. It turned out that it was a hurdle to maintain marriage until 10 to 14 years, and couples around 40 years old were prone to divorce.
In other words, even after three years of pain and seven years of itch, the relationship between husband and wife is still facing tests when they reach middle age.
At this time, the relationship between husband and wife becomes dull and there is no freshness in daily life. It is basically unchanging and can be seen at a glance.
When two people no longer appreciate each other, then they only have the shortcomings of each other. No matter what the other party does, they don’t like it, and they are so disgusted with each other and have nothing to say.
And the couple will feel very depressed when they are like this stagnant day. As a result, some people begin to become disliked to go home, wanting to seek thrill and warmth outside, relieve stress and relieve loneliness.
At this time, no matter men or women, their resistance to temptation is very low.In marriage, it is easy to have a third party, which directly threatens the precarious relationship between husband and wife.
Finally, I want to say that husband and wife relationships are the closest among all interpersonal relationships, and the closer the relationship, the more frictions there are. When we get along with each other, we must learn to express our love to each other and to express our differences reasonably.
When each other's negative emotions are properly vented, the chances of conflicts will be reduced, trust will increase, and feelings will be more stable.
Senior nanny, psychological counselor, author of original parenting comics articles,
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