html After becoming the CEO of a listed company in his 20s, when Hu Zexiu met with investors for the first time, he would always sincerely tell the other party, "My past may not be as good as you imagined."
html After the 113-year-old mother passed away, her father collapsed so much that he almost lost his ability to work. He came to Beijing alone, moved cement, slept on the construction site, worked as a waiter, and saved his income to support his father and sister. In order to study, he went to bed at two o'clock and got up at four o'clock. With the energy in his heart, he walked out of the urban village and became a white-collar worker and senior executive, and finally lived the kind of life in the TV series.
But standing among the flowers and applause, Hu Zexiu felt that she was living in endless loneliness. He has taken on the burden of his family early and has not yet learned how to talk to himself.
In order to help Hu Zexiu and friends who have similar experiences with him better understand themselves and relieve anxiety, [Interview with Beijing Youth x Liangzi] specially invited psychological counselor Wang Xi to give suggestions from a professional perspective.
Wang Xi, a national second-level psychological counselor, university psychological counselor, sexual minority friendly counselor
Hu Zexiu's current psychological dilemma is that he feels that his life has been blank since he was 13 years old, and he is very eager to fill the missing time of his teenager. It is precisely because of this lack of time that Hu Zexiu always felt that she was still a child and was afraid that she would not be able to develop an intimate relationship.
He said that there were too many people who saw him glamorous on the stage and applauded him, but there were too few people who saw him, the real and complete. The dazzling lights on the stage made the already dim audience darker. When he walked off the stage, he disappeared into the darkness.
This feeling is really scary. In other words, walks off the stage like an invisible person. No one can see him, with flesh and blood, emotions, setbacks and pain. And he himself is used to moving forward all the way, forgetting to look at himself and feel himself. Just like when he was 13 years old, he had no time to experience the complex and progressive emotions of losing his mother, such as shock, anger, grief and helplessness, he had to carry his bags and assume the responsibility of the family pillar overnight as an adult father.
Whether it is 13-year-old Hu Zexiu, Hu Zexiu who wanders and is helpless in Beijing, or Hu Zexiu who has achieved great success today, he must have complex emotions and changing feelings about his father. But these feelings have been sealed deep in his heart for a long time, and this sealed feeling has caused a sense of fault and blankness in his heart.
The strategy of sealing the pain and forging ahead did help Hu Zexiu resist the suffering of life in the past period of time, but at this moment, the strategy of has become the main reason why his current life is stagnant.
Based on this, I suggest Hu Zexiu can continue to seek professional psychological counseling. In that process, he could fully experience the emotions and emotions that were neither seen by others nor seen by himself, which might help Hu Zexiu fill the gap that the boy lacked.
It should be emphasized that although solving Hu Zexiu's long-term emotional lack is a big project, Hu Zexiu's own personality, social functions, etc. does not have much problem, which is attributed to his mother's high-quality companionship and raising him for 13 years.
Hu Zexiu doesn’t have to label himself with a mentally unhealthy label. On the contrary, striving to explore and seek help is precisely the embodiment of his mental health.
Ryko's message:
Hu Zexiu crawled out of the mud and achieved most of the success in the social sense, but deep down he was still the lonely and weak 13-year-old boy.
But whether it is early or late, being able to stay cautious in a smooth life and looking at the heart is the first step to better growth. Come on, Hu Zexiu, who has always been so sincere and determined.
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Article is reproduced from Beijing Youth x Liangzi Interview Record of the same name official account
