All extramarital affairs are signs. Many wives are not together and are too lazy to care about them. This may be a sign of a man's cheating.
For example, cheating men start chatting with the opposite sex frequently, and they are already ready to move at this time.
is not afraid of being discovered by his wife. It is not that they have nothing to do with these opposite sexes, but that they are testing their wife's attitude.
If the wives do not stop and express their attitude in time, then the man will definitely start an extramarital affair next, without exception.
Some time ago, Ms. Li came to Lan Fang to talk about her confusion.
She found that her husband, a female netizen, often chatted with each other, and she was quite ambiguous.
from morning to night, and I will also talk about more private topics.
She felt very uncomfortable and asked her husband what he meant, and her husband said he was just chatting casually.
has never met a female netizen. The two are from all over the world, and the female netizen also has a family, so she will not meet.
also said that if Ms. Li was uncomfortable, he would stop chatting, and then deleted the female netizen.
Result After a while, she found out that her husband started chatting with another woman again.
is still a netizen, a married woman, and she is far away. She is talking about not meeting each other and just chatting.
She felt that she couldn't accept it, and her husband actually said that no man was not a joke.
She told some of her friends that the unmarried ones said they could not accept it, and said they had calculated that they had cheated and persuaded her to divorce.
Married people say that men are like this and they like to talk to strange women about it.
also told her not to worry about it, and she would stop chatting after a while. If she didn't consider cheating, she would be considered flirting at most.
Ms. Li said she didn't know what to do.
seems to be said by people around you, men are like this, they can’t control them at all.
But I feel uncomfortable and feel that marriage should not be like this, and her husband can't do this either.
wants to care, but her husband did not cheat, and he will decisively delete the female netizen when he is discovered.
doesn't feel that it doesn't matter. The cheating man seems to be unable to stop chatting with other women.
She asked Lan Fang what she thought of this kind of problem and what should she do?
Lan Fang told her that her husband's obvious behavior is a sign of cheating.
According to understanding, Ms. Li’s husband is not a person with a lack of sense of boundaries, and he has not always been like this.
The two have been married for five years, have been in love for seven years, and have lived together for several years while in love.
her husband has never had this situation, nor has he had an ambiguous relationship with other women.
has a strong sense of boundary, which is one of the reasons why Ms. Li can't accept it.
What is the sense of boundary? A sense of boundary refers to the degree of judgment or importance of boundaries.
When a person lacks a sense of boundary, he/she may unconsciously entrust his/her affairs to others, and
invites others to step into the boundaries they should have, or imposes their wishes on others and force them into the boundaries of others.
Ms. Li’s husband does not belong to this kind of person. He does not feel weak in boundaries and does such things unconsciously.
From her husband's performance, it can be seen that her husband is very clear that there is something wrong with her approach.
Otherwise, after Ms. Li asked him to block the female netizen directly.
If you really think you are right, it is a normal relationship and you won’t be so simple and happy.
is only when he knows that he shouldn't, so he is discovered, so he uses this solution.
Ms. Li’s friends think that her husband’s solution is quite sincere.
can at least prove that the female netizen is not important, and her husband has no substantial extramarital affair. The idea of
is wrong, which is causing Ms. Li to unconsciously lower her bottom line.
Ms. Li’s bottom line cannot tolerate this situation.
But when the people around her said that, she began to shake, feeling that she didn't need to care so much.
If you really don’t care, then next, her husband meets a female netizen, but nothing happens.
Is it true that people around you can say it or not, it’s not a big deal, and I haven’t really cheated.
Ms. Li listened again and lowered her bottom line to the point where she didn’t cheat.
Then wait until you really cheat, and someone will say that men are prone to cheating, as long as they are willing to go home.
In the end, the bottom line becomes that men can cheat, as long as they are willing to go home after cheating.
The tragedy of many wives actually happened in this way.
Men test their wives’ bottom line bit by bit, and people around them cannot empathize.
randomly gives opinions, which leads to the wife's herd mentality. Others can tolerate it, so she is willing to endure it.
finally lowered his bottom line bit by bit, and finally reached the point where he could accept threesomes.
This is a very sad thing. In fact, extramarital affair is not impossible to solve.
At the beginning, the wives had a clear attitude. If you dare to flirt, I would have made a divorce.
Men should not really cheat. Next time they talk about female netizens, they should consider the consequences.
When their actions need to be clearly marked by their wives, it is a price to pay if they do something wrong.
Then a cheating man naturally dares not do anything wrong. Don’t just live by it and don’t indulge men’s extramarital affair.
has a good sentence: "Ambiguous means being a little closer than a good friend, but a little further away from a lover."
In other words, further, it is a lover.
Many extramarital affairs develop little by little from ambiguity, and many wives actually discover it during the ambiguous period.
was discovered very timely, but the solution was not timely.
either cannot handle the key points at all, and this kind of ordinary flirting at the beginning is not the same.
either doesn't want to solve it at all, and thinks it's not a big deal.
does nothing, or does nothing to solve the problem at all, so extramarital affair will gradually develop.
reminds wives again that ambiguity is a precursor to extramarital affair. What wives should do is to discover and resolve it in time.
Can't wait until it really rains and you are sick after being wet, and you know that you should hold an umbrella when it rains.
You should look forward to the weather forecast in advance, and if you know it will rain, hold an umbrella in advance, or simply don’t go out.
avoids any situation that will cause you to be hurt, or has the means to deal with the situation so that you can not be hurt.
Extramarital affair is like this. When there are signs of precursors, you should take care of it and thoroughly.
Either stop the man from cheating again, or stop loss when divorced to prevent himself from being hurt.
Don’t look at how others can pass it. If others can pass it, do you need to pass it too?
If you have an extramarital affair and don’t know what to do, you can follow the Blue Party and send a private message to talk about your situation.
I am Lan Fang, an emotional mentor who tells the truth and does practical things.
