My daughter is 30 years old this year and she has been reluctant to get married, which makes me very upset. My daughter is not in bad condition, both in appearance and work, but she just refuses to get married. I have urged her countless times.
At the beginning, she would say a few perfunctory words, but later she refused to even perfunctory. I was so annoyed that I moved out of my house and moved directly to the company.
Sometimes I call me, and I can't help but talk about her marriage again. Later, she refused to answer my phone number.
This really bothers me very much. I even wonder if my daughter is unhealthy or has psychological problems?
I was really worried about my daughter's marriage. I took her with my friends on the excuse of having a party, but in fact I wanted her to go on a blind date; I signed her up on the dating website without telling her; I also secretly went to the blind date corner in the park...
But no matter how hard I tried, the result was always a collapse.
I have not lived easily in my life, so I especially hope that my children can live happier.
When I was young, I lived with my husband. I am taking care of my family, whether it is children or the elderly. I have to take care of my family as well as my work. It is really hard.
After our father-in-law fell down in the third year of our marriage, he became paralyzed and lying for four years.
After the father-in-law passed away, his son was born, and his son was only half a year old, and his mother-in-law had a stroke.
I have really felt sad to take care of the children and the elderly alone. My mother-in-law passed away when my son was in elementary school.
The same year when my mother-in-law passed away, her daughter was born.
My daughter was in high school and her husband was finally transferred back to the city. It should have been a happy thing to be able to reunite with the whole family.
But the reason why my husband was transferred back to the city is sad because my husband found a problem during the physical examination and needed someone to take care of him, so the leader of the unit agreed to transfer him back.
Don’t have to take care of your son and daughter, but you have to worry about your husband, take care of his food and clothing, and accompany him to the hospital for examination and treatment.
After taking care of her husband for five years, he still left. At that time, his son and daughter had not yet got married.
The second year after my husband left, my son got married, and a year later he gave birth to a son and I became a grandma.
The son and daughter-in-law are just ordinary working class, with their own worries, they have to pay the mortgage and the car loan. Seeing them under great pressure, I took the initiative to take care of my grandson.
The grandson is in kindergarten and the granddaughter is born again. I went from caring for one child to caring for two.
Son and children are both together, and the husband and wife are harmonious, so I feel relieved. But my daughter has always been alone and refuses to get married. Not to mention getting married, I haven’t even brought my boyfriend home, which really makes me anxious.
My daughter is actually very filial, so I decided to have a good talk with her and fulfill her responsibilities as a mother.
Before I decided to talk about marriage with my daughter, I thought of countless reasons to persuade my daughter to get married.
I was afraid that I would forget it, so I found a notebook and wrote down the reasons why my daughter had to get married one by one.
Some reasons are what I have thought of over the years, and some of them are what I have looked for online.
I finally wrote down 20 reasons why my daughter had to get married. With such preparation, I think my daughter will definitely consider getting married after seeing it.
When I persuaded my daughter to get married with confidence, I didn’t expect that my daughter’s words would wipe out all my confidence.
My daughter asked me "Mom, I will ask you a few questions, I hope you can answer honestly. Do you feel happy in your life?"
I have suffered too much in this life, and I can only say: "Because I am not happy, I hope you are happy more."
" But does a woman's happiness rely on marriage? Have you ever thought about how many misfortunes you have been caused by marriage? "My daughter is a little aggressive.
I was a little speechless for a moment and didn't know how to answer.
The daughter then said, "If you are not married, you don't have to take care of your parents-in-law, your children, and your husband. Without the burden of family, do you think you will have different lives and achieve different achievements? "
I could only say weakly: "But women should get married. If you don't get married, what should you do when you are old? Who will take care of you? If you don't get married, I will always worry about you. "
My daughter looked at me and said she was unable to understand "Why do women have to get married? Children can support themselves. Look at my dad, can you say such things? Grandpa and grandma’s retirement is you, not my dad. My dad can marry a wife like you, but my children may not be so lucky. "
I didn't say anything, my daughter seemed to want to say all the things hidden in her heart: "You said I won't get married, you are worried, but if I get married and encounter the same problem as you, will you regret letting me get married? ”
My daughter talked a lot tonight, and many times she said to me.
The daughter said, “I don’t want to take care of my husband before the age of 60, take care of my son after the age of 60, and have no savings at the age of 70, waiting for the child to come to support me for my old age. "
" I can make money by myself now. I live a good life alone. I am also prepared to not meet the right person. The money I earn will not be spent indiscriminately. ”
My daughter finally said to me: "Marriage is a gamble. Without being sure that I can win, I don't want to start rashly. People with a bad mentality at the gambling table will only make themselves lose a lot. I know you are worried about me, but a person who keeps urging others to play cards will only make the person who plays cards lose even worse. ”
My daughter assured me: “Mom, don’t worry, I am not a non-marriager, I just haven’t met the right person yet. If I met someone who would make me better than I am now, I would get married. ”
After hearing my daughter's words, I changed my mind. After all, I am from different times and I cannot understand her thinking. But I have to admit that what my daughter said makes sense.
I am my daughter's mother and I hope she is happy more than anyone else. I should not impose my own thoughts on my daughter, and I should not force my daughter to get married with filial piety.
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