My friend asked me a question on the planet of misunderstandings:
Yaya Sister, I watched your connection with Amao last night. I have been following you for two months on the official account.
I feel that you are full of vitality, have super power to do things, and have no internal friction. You are relaxed and comfortable. I really like your state. How can you have it?
also feels like you feel full of security inside. I am a person who has no sense of security, so I am very envious.
My friend has a strong sense of payment. The payment question you asked me is the first money I have earned on this planet. Thank you very much for your support.
I want to talk about "sense of security".
First of all, the essence of insecurity lies in "not believing in yourself". Most of what you want is outward. If the outside world is not within your "control range", you will feel insecure.
And I am in my thirties now, and everything I want is inward. If I believe in myself, I will not feel insecure. How to "have" such a state?
You can go to my official account to reply to the keyword "Native Family ". The background will pack a few articles and post them. Those are the articles I wrote when I was in a low mood. They are definitely not the status I was when I was broadcast live last night.
I used to be a very sensitive and insecure person.
It’s because I have experienced a lot over the years. I’ve seen it openly and feel that when I come to this world, I will experience it to the fullest.
Because of this idea, I enjoy the process when doing anything and don’t pay so much attention to the results, so I feel “energetic” because I do this because I am curious.
Of course, the premise of this mentality is: needs to have a certain financial ability, and parents and relatives should not come to give advice from time to time.
For example, I have made a lot of effort to break free from my mother's control over me. On the one hand, this kind of effort lies in the psychological level. We must constantly build ourselves and abandon the way of thinking that my mother conveyed to me in the past.
On the other hand, it is about making money. Only by paying for your own desires and not paying for others, can you gain the right to speak.
In addition, you must have the ability to "study things at the right time". If you put your time and experience on "things", instead of "feelings" by yourself, there will be no internal friction.
Because everything can be treated with the same attitude:
Oh, what do you mean, is there something wrong with my method of doing this?
OK, I'll look for the relevant answers, and after reference, I'll change it.
Only change can bring change, and internal friction will not bring any valuable growth.
I saw a video on Xiaohongshu some time ago. The blogger's name was: The ugly and poor girl Chen Langlang
This top video. She talked about the way of thinking of "academic masters": how to study rules under the rules that can be followed and win as much as possible.
In addition, she also talked about several cases:
1. Her boyfriend will have a "wrong question set" when playing games;
2. Her colleagues can use a budget of tens of thousands to make a hot search because they understand the rules of traffic;
3. She knows an intern at Peking University and plans to get out of singlehood in one year when she graduated. She accurately calculates the efficiency of traffic and conversion, and uses funnel thinking to screen people. As a result, she is a technical investor who takes original stock ...
The number of likes on Xiaohongshu is 110,000, which is worth everyone's viewing.
After watching this video, even if you can't do it, you at least know how others view a problem objectively, and what is the objective conclusion.
When you study a rule without emotion and follow the rules and succeed, the so-called insecurity and internal friction are not a problem...
