text | Happy Baby
Recently I liked the saying "If you don't obey yourself, you have to be ordered by others." It turns out that this is the concept of "second-hand life" mentioned by Liao Yimei in "Life Clumsy Like Me".
means to easily listen to what others tell you, let the so-called taboos affect and hinder your decisions, thus setting rules and regulations for yourself, and starting to live a life that is customary in the eyes of others.
Second-hand life Even thoughts are the opinions of others, life is a copy of others, and emotions are the suggestions of others. It seems that before you know it, everyone around you has lived a second-hand life.
When I was a child, in order to go to school, others said that the students were good at taking the exam, so you insisted on taking the exam; after finally getting into a normal school, others said that photography equipment is too expensive and it is difficult to find a job, so learn computers;
After graduation, my family said that they could not find a job that matched their majors, so they started with kindergarten teacher ; you are already 28 years old, should you get married after your boyfriend who has been dating for several years?
After listening to his parents, he chose a partner who was not calm to get married, and was arranged to have children after marriage...
Looking back on the 30 years of his first half of his life, he unknowingly lived a second-hand life, but he didn't know that the world belongs to his own and has nothing to do with others.
At this moment, I was extremely envious of Feng Tang . In the eyes of others, he might be a lustful "rogue" because he once said openly that being an obstetrician and gynecologist means looking at women openly, so he took the doctor of medicine.
Because of his "greed for money", he made himself a global director and partner of McKinsey; because of his activeness, he began to grind ink and write best-selling books, and even made into film and television dramas.
Some people say that he is really courageous and does whatever he wants; some people praise him for being too talented and doing so well. There is only one thing he can't do, that is, what he doesn't want to do.
I envy him for always doing what he wants to do, truly living in his own world, and being his true self in a high-profile manner.
How many people have worked hard for their family, children, lovers, friends, and this and that, and have been trying their best to find that they have become the shadow of others.
Half of his life, looking back all the way, listening to others' comments, watching others' boring pastimes, and living a life in the eyes of others.
If you don’t eat other people’s food, don’t worry too much about other people’s words. Your mouth belongs to others, and your life is your own. Don’t live in the second-hand experience required by others.
Cherish your ideas, must have your own opinions, live the life you want, this is the real life.
Nietsche once said: "Those who cannot fight to themselves must be ordered by others."
Honey's life should be controlled by yourself. Don't let the rules and regulations confine your life, and don't waste time and life in the recognition and expectations of others.
What others say, just listen to it, make your own choice in your life. Once you choose, just make your heart. Work hard not to compare, but to achieve your unique self.
