This is a story about a depression girl preparing for the college entrance examination while treating in a mental hospital:
An 18-year-old girl who has self-harm many times finally decided to swallow a whole box of pills to accept her young life. After attempting suicide, she was sent to a psychiatric hospital for treatment and was diagnosed with severe depression.
When she was very young, her parents divorced and grandparents accompanied him to grow up. In the second year of junior high school, her grandfather passed away and only depended on her grandmother for life. She has always been regarded as the most obedient girl and has never been popular with others. Even when she was receiving treatment in the hospital, she has always obediently obediently. All examinations and treatments are very cooperative, which makes people feel confused.
When I graduated from junior high school, my grandmother heard that technical proofreading is a good choice for ordinary children and she can work two years in advance, so she asked her to Vocational and Technical College .
She has excellent grades in the technical school, receives scholarships every year, and also bought blood pressure monitor for her grandma, which made her face very bright, and she felt very proud of it.
But it just happened that such a sheep-like little man wanted to commit suicide.
After a few days of treatment in the hospital, her physical strength recovered a little, and the doctor told her to get out of bed and exercise more.
That day, she was walking in the hospital corridor and passing by the doctor's office repeatedly in order to let the doctor see her active and prove that she is a very obedient person.
A few days after she was hospitalized, she got along well with the junior high school girl next door, and generously said that she could help the junior high school girl tutoring, giving people a cheerful, enthusiastic, and generous feeling.
Where would a stranger notice that there were dense wounds hidden on her body.
A week later, she was anxious to be discharged from the hospital, saying that she had already signed up for the college entrance examination and had to go back to review immediately, because there was always a picture in her mind:
"Mom hugged him, dad stood aside, and the whole family took a photo on campus."
It turned out that she always wanted to be a university. She was very eager to hear what others said about college, but she didn't want to disappoint her grandma, so she followed her grandma's arrangements and went to the technical school.
The desolate and remote campus is not what she ideally looks like, and she is incompatible with the surrounding environment.
She wanted to read or study, but she was rejected as an alien and was bullied because of this, so she was completely closed.
When one day, she found that she had not spoken for a long time, she saw the utility knife in her hand, and she thought: What would it feel like to scratch her? The result was that although it hurt, she felt a sense of pleasure that could not be described by . She was fascinated by this pain.
committed suicide because she fell in love with a boy. Because they had not confirmed the relationship, the boy had another girlfriend.
"No one likes me" 's idea finally made her collapse, and she was about to end her sensitive and fragile life.
After being rescued, the picture in her mind of taking a photo with her parents strongly drove her to take the college entrance examination.
Luckily, she met angel-like doctors , and they helped and tutored her for review.
Although doctors know that such children often cannot withstand the pressure of the college entrance examination, they still use tolerance and love to create a good atmosphere for review and preparation for her.
Later, her father came to see her but brought her half-sister. She once again felt a sense of shame of being ignored. She said that she couldn't feel herself, and the whole world was abandoning her. She actually hated this sister very much, but on the surface she was gentle and polite.
A few days later, my mother also came to see her. She finally knew that it was not her fault for her mother to leave her. It was because her grandmother didn't like this daughter-in-law. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law triggered conflicts between husband and wife, and frequent fights led to divorce. However, my grandmother said that my mother was a mentally ill and did not store a photo of her mother at home. In her heart, her mother's image was destroyed, collapsed, and blurred.
She misses her mother, but she also deeply blames herself for not thinking about her mother, so she would be so sorry for her grandma.
Finally, because of a reason why no one wants to see , grandma no longer had resentment and could live in peace with her mother. This harmonious atmosphere that had never been seen made her breath deeply. The family got together again.
This girl did not get into university that year, but repeated the school the following year, which made her get what she wished and be admitted to a medical school.
This is a real story, and it is even more sad.
When a long-lost father, mother, and grandma often get together to accompany her, she often loses her temper. This is a situation that he has never happened when he was with grandma before, and she doesn't know what's wrong.
The doctor told him that it is normal to lose your temper under heavy pressure in the college entrance examination. It is not that you have no temper, but you dare not have temper . Therefore, you have been suppressing yourself, which will lead to self-harm and even suicide. In other words, losing your temper means that it is the progress of treatment because she is no longer suppressing.
18's depression will certainly not disappear like that dramatic. This girl's journey of recovery still needs to work hard to move forward slowly. I hope that in the future, she will no longer be anxious about losing her temper with her parents, and will not be shocked by hearing the voices in her heart. It is normal to blame yourself less and allow yourself to feel less emotional.
This story reminds me of another real story, my best friend’s daughter:
Best friend is a proud woman with a beautiful appearance, a smart mind, and a hardworking character. Her family is warm and comfortable, which makes people envious.
My husband is a lazy, careless and simple-minded man.
In this way, the best friend has the final say in big or small things.
When the sweetness of the newlyweds became dull, she began to become irritable and picky, especially with her daughter, she became more and more disliked by her husband. In a state of great lack of communication, her daughter gradually grew up in a cold and violent environment.
My daughter has always been a good girl. She was the class monitor when she was in elementary school. Everything was at the top, which made my best friend very pleased.
But because of the lack of harmony with her husband, for more than ten years, her best friend has taken care of her children alone, and her husband never allowed her to attend the parent meeting. On the one hand, she feels that this father is not worthy, and on the other hand, she has to listen to the teacher’s meeting content with her own ears to avoid delaying her children’s studies.
So, my dad always missed in during his daughter's growth, and my dad was lazy to argue, so he didn't let me care about it better and quieter.
The arrogant best friend has compassion for her life in the millions of thoughts of divorce, thinking that her daughter is her only hope, and she regards her daughter as her continuation.
She hopes that her unfinished academic dream will be completed by her daughter, and that the unfinished height will be achieved by her daughter.
So the requirements for her daughter are very strict. No matter how good the exam is, she is in that dogmatic attitude. She herself is immersed in depression and irritability all day long. If a video recorder records her appearance, she might have reflected.
Yes, the opportunity for reflection has finally arrived, but that was obtained at the cost of my daughter's depression.
At that time, the child was already in high school and was a key middle school.
The atmosphere of key middle schools is often more strict in learning, and the pressure on children will be greater.
Under the pressure of the upcoming college entrance examination, parents usually try to relieve stress from their children, but except for my best friend who takes good care of their children in life, all they have is accusations and complaints.
Finally, one day, the teacher called and said that the child was shaking constantly at school and hoped that the parents would pick him up and see the doctor. After
, it is a conceivable depression.
This sudden bad news is like a bolt from the blue wakes up The best friend who has controlled the child for more than ten years in a daze.
Fortunately, the child's condition was not serious. After taking the leave of school, she and her husband actively cooperated with the psychologist, took the initiative to change from themselves, and made many sincere apology with the child . The relationship between the couple is getting better and better.
The daughter of her best friend was admitted to a pretty good university in the third year after one year of psychological counseling and two years of self-exploration.
I believe many people think these two stories are not unfamiliar with them. Pay attention to them. There are many families around us like this.
Children are parents' mirrors, not only reflected in behavioral habits, but also reflect the essence behind this behavior.
The reason why children are born simple is that they become what their parents dare not recognize each other later? Is their parents really doing it right?
I remember a blogger said: "Most girls who suffer from depression are lacking love, soft-hearted, and too kind. They always silently bear the hurt of others, but they can't refute others, always consider other people's feelings, and in the end they are only hurt by themselves. spoiled people who are not good to themselves, , and also made themselves scarred."
Weng Qianyu's "Dedication of Love" sang:
Love is the most beautiful language of human beings... Love will bring you infinite warmth, and it will bring you happiness and health...
There is no child in the world that cannot be nourished by love, and there is no harm that cannot be cured by love.
So, I hope that parents who love themselves well will be able to love the people around them only after they have full love.
Children who have been hurt should learn to love themselves and find themselves again. When you walk on the road of "it's you", everything will overcome all obstacles for you.
