There is a saying on the Internet: "All the feelings in the world are mutual. With hard work and gain, the best maintenance of a relationship."
Just take the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. It takes ten years to see the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for ten years. There is no obligation between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, only love. To put it bluntly, it means how you treat me, and I will treat you.
If you are a good mother-in-law, kind and kind, when your daughter-in-law is in the most difficult time, such as when having children, it is impossible to take care of your career and family, you can do your best to help your daughter-in-law and treat her better. Don’t treat her as a biological daughter, just ask you not to bully her too much and treat her as a free nanny. Then, you have established a good relationship with your daughter-in-law. When you get old, you need someone to take care of you, and your daughter-in-law will not be cold-blooded and ruthless, and you are very repulsive.
On the contrary, if you treat her badly, not only will you not be able to help her in the best of your ability, but you will cause trouble for her a lot and make her suffer all the grievances. Then, whether she will treat you well when you get old depends on her mood.
She doesn't care about you, she is good to you, she is kind and generous. She treats you badly and doesn't want to care about you. That's why you repay your grudges with the truth. You deserve it. You planted evil causes and resulted in evil consequences.
However, the bad relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not necessarily the fault of the mother-in-law. Even the best mother-in-law can't stand it even if she meets a selfish, take advantage of her, and acts good at it.
Writer August Chang'an once said: "The easiest thing to make people feel warm and surprised are strangers, because you have no expectations for them; the easiest thing to make people feel chilled and sad is relatives, because you love them."
In most cases, a daughter-in-law who does not know how to be grateful, always feels that their parents-in-law don't give enough, and cares about their parents-in-law's property cannot be separated from an unfilial son. If your son is really filial and cares about you, your daughter-in-law will not be so rampant unless she doesn't want to pass it and wants to be driven away.
"The daughter-in-law and her parents both said that I was a bad mother-in-law. I was too lazy to refute it. If you hate mother-in-law, just hate mother-in-law! Anyway, no matter what they say, I will stick to one principle, that is, even if you don't let me hold my grandson, I will not transfer the property 4 million yuan."
Then, Aunt Peng, the evil mother-in-law mentioned by the daughter-in-law, told us about the story.
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It turns out that three months ago, Aunt Peng's 26-year-old son got married and married his colleague.
Marriage of children is a major event in the family, and for families with sons, it is even more of a major event that requires money. And Aunt Peng also spent a lot of money to get married for her son.
"The woman's parents asked for a 180,000 yuan bride gift. I asked the people around me, and they all said that it was high, and 100,000 was about the same, and the woman often came back with a dowry. However, I know that the daughter-in-law has a younger brother, and she also knows that her parents' purpose of asking for the money. There is probably no dowry. Although I think it's too much, my son insists on marrying her, and he is angry with us for this, so I have to agree."
The cost of marriage and the money for the banquet were all paid by Aunt Peng. Aunt Peng also spent more than 10,000 yuan to buy a diamond ring for his daughter-in-law. Unexpectedly, within a few days, Aunt Peng saw the ring on his mother-in-law's hand, and she felt very unhappy and couldn't say much.
Not only that, Aunt Peng also found that the gifts given by the guests at the wedding were all with her daughter-in-law. According to her son, her mother-in-law had to leave at least half of them.
"With such a wealthy mother-in-law, can I not be careful? Besides, she has a younger brother. Can't I guess the purpose of her parents?"
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As we all know, when we get married, not only is the bride price very important, but the wedding house is also extremely important. Regarding the wedding room, Aunt Peng gave two plans to let the couple choose.
"Or, you choose a house, I will give you the down payment, write the names of the two of you, and you will pay the mortgage yourself. Or, you will live in this three-bedroom apartment in the city. This community is convenient for transportation, close to the city, the house is big enough, and your life is very convenient."
The son and daughter-in-law chose the latter, that is, they would not buy a house, because their salary was less than 13,000 yuan. If they were carrying a mortgage of 70,000 or 8,000 yuan, the pressure would be too great, which would seriously affect the quality of life.
The three-bedroom apartment in the city was bought seven years ago. At that time, Aunt Peng's wife was doing business and made some money. Aunt Peng considered that she had a son and needed to prepare a wedding house, and her vision was far-reaching. I am very optimistic about real estate investment and believe that the provincial capital will develop sooner or later, so I bought this three-bedroom apartment, which is the full payment.
Seven years have passed. As Aunt Peng expected, the surrounding areas have developed, and the facilities around the house have become more and more complete. With the subway, a large shopping mall, and a school, housing prices have also soared wildly.
"I sold the house upstairs and sold it to 35,000 per square meter. Based on the area of my house, it will cost 4 million. "
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Although Aunt Peng still has a house in his hand, located in the suburbs, it is a two-bedroom apartment, but this house is worth 4 million yuan, which is undoubtedly the most precious property in the family. Moreover, from the house cost to decoration, and even the furniture inside, the daughter-in-law did not pay a penny, but asked Aunt Peng to transfer the house to them. How could Aunt Peng agree?
"Her reason is to facilitate the children to go to school. I want to say, you have only been married for a few months and your stomach is not moving at all. Why are you anxious? Let’s not talk about whether the head of the household is our old couple. Can grandchildren go to school? When it really doesn’t work, I will consider transferring the property if it’s needed! "
When Aunt Peng rejected her daughter-in-law on the grounds that it was too early to say this, the daughter-in-law still refused to give up. As long as she had the chance, she would mention this matter, which aroused Aunt Peng's dissatisfaction. When Aunt Peng complained about this matter with her relative, the relative woke Aunt Peng up with a sentence of "Is her younger brother going to get married?".
"I asked my son, and indeed, her younger brother had a girlfriend, so I would not do it now. I don't know if she can get the house, but I won't take any risks. Even, to put it bluntly, not only did I not believe her, but I didn’t even believe her. "
Aunt Peng's son was taken seriously by his wife after getting married. He handed over the salary card and his daughter-in-law blatantly helped his mother's house. He didn't say anything. Even if Aunt Peng mentioned it, he didn't speak. Instead, he asked Aunt Peng to shut up and don't make his wife angry.
"Hey, I also know that if my daughter-in-law dares not win the house, she won't want to threaten me if she holds her grandson. The confidence is given by my son. It is indeed in vain to raise a son like this, and I am afraid it will be unreliable when I grow old. Since that's the case, I won't transfer the ownership. Even if they don't divorce, if they don't support me, wouldn't I lose a lot? "
" Whether you are born or not is your business. I don't care. Anyway, I won't transfer the house. I tell you, if anyone of you dares to mention it again, I will take back the house and drive you and your wife out. I will do what I say. "
Aunt Peng's warning worked, and his son and daughter-in-law shut up, but Aunt Peng also gained the reputation of being a bad mother-in-law.
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Writer Fu Lei once said: "People's psychology is often not only not valued, but also considered it to be a right that deserves. Not only is it not grateful, but it is easy to complain. "
As a parent, you need to pay attention. When you find that no matter how much you give, your children and their partners do not know how to be content, but keep asking for it. If you don't do it, they will complain about you and even threaten you with retirement. You should stop the loss in time and protect the remaining property in your hands.
People's desires are endless and will never be satisfied. Sooner or later, you will not be able to satisfy your children. At that time, you have spent all your money and your children don't want to be filial. When you get old, you must not sleep on the street?
save the property in your hands. First, money may not buy filial piety, but at least it can make them have to be kind to you for the sake of interests. Second, even if they really can't count on it and have money in your hands, your later life will be more dignified.
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