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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional instructor, who writes heart-wrenching emotional texts, hoping to bring you some spiritual comfort with warm words.
Someone said: "There are some secrets between lovers, which are more mysterious if outsiders don't know."
Indeed, lover relationships will not happen for no reason, but men and women often have some hidden sharing and interactions, which breeds ambiguous feelings.
When they were dating, they started to be open and upright. As the relationship deepened, the two of them had more tacit understanding and sharing, and the relationship gradually became ambiguous.
However, the relationship between lovers is not true love and often cannot last long. The relationship may be very sweet when it is just confirmed, but after getting along for a long time and having a substantial relationship, it will be tasteless.
Especially after middle age, some men and women cannot withstand loneliness and dullness, so they go out to have an ambiguous relationship. If they have a lover outside of marriage, they cannot last long.
Once the relationship is promoted, trouble and pain will follow, and even the price of both parties pays the pain, and then they will lose happiness.
Therefore, men and women should not have ambiguous relationships outside of marriage and love, and do not think that lovers are so beautiful. In fact, it is just a joy of dew, and there will be no future at all.
After all, lover relationships mostly start with sharing these three "things":
1. Sharing unspeakable thoughts or emotional experiences
Whether in love or marriage, there will be some unspeakable thoughts in the hearts of men and women, or there will be some painful emotional experiences.
They will not tell their lovers around them, nor will they easily disclose these secrets in their hearts.
However, these things are buried in my heart for a long time, and I need to find someone to share them.
For example, you have suffered in your relationship before, have had painful cohabitation experience, or have lived a very unsatisfactory life, etc.
At this time, a opposite sex suddenly appeared, acting very sincerely, willing to listen to these thoughts, both parties talked about everything, gradually gained a sense of trust, and the relationship became more and more intimate.
Furthermore, because it is a conversation between the opposite sex, some ambiguous elements are added, which further develops the relationship.
As long as both parties often share each other's thoughts or talk about past emotional experiences, it is easy to get closer and make the relationship closer .
Therefore, once they determine the relationship between lovers, they will be addicted to it and it is difficult to get out again. Both parties think that they have found true love, and have misjudged the relationship, thus having an improper relationship.
2. Share money, no distinction between each other
If men and women often share each other's money, no distinction between each other, it means that the relationship is already close.
, on the surface, is a relationship that is the friend of the opposite sex, but in fact it is the easiest to develop into a lover, but neither party has made it clear.
Whenever two people go out, they don’t care about gains and losses, are willing to contribute to the other party, and even perform better than their partner, which will naturally deepen the development of intimate relationships.
For example, men often buy gifts for women, and no matter how much they are worth, they will be willing to pay.
In order to make women happier, the two of them even went out to play, and all the consumptions would be taken on, which invisibly gave the woman an illusion that she had found true love.
The same is true for women. If you are particularly moved by a man, you will suddenly spend a lot of extra expenses.
On the one hand, in order to please men, women will dress themselves up carefully and invest more money from the inside out.
On the other hand, for the sake of men, women will willingly choose to help, and whenever they see men in trouble, they will lend a helping hand.
Once men and women have economic sharing, they will basically develop from a friend relationship to a lover relationship, and is difficult to extricate themselves.
3. Shared pleasure brought by physical contact
Men and women interact with each other. Once there is physical sharing, it means that the relationship has crossed the boundaries.
Two people are immersed in the warmth brought by physical contact, and they will have the feeling of love, thinking that this kind of relationship is very romantic and exciting, so they are more obsessed.
For example, when a man sees a woman wearing sexy clothes, he will be imaginative and try every means to have feelings for her.
So, men use friendship to play affair and constantly tease women. Gradually, they will move with their arms around, and most of them will be deeply trapped in it.
For example, women think men are very considerate and think that if they find someone who cares about them, they will open their hearts and don’t mind doing more intimate actions with men.
If a man and a woman often engage in flirting with each other such as holding hands and hugging, the relationship will become ambiguous over time.
When the relationship is not exposed, they want to be together if they have something to do. From the initial opposite-sex relationship, it is easy to develop into a long-term lover relationship.
So, many lovers start with this kind of sharing. Once there is physical contact, they will basically lose themselves. In this warm and ambiguous atmosphere, both parties are deeply trapped in it and go astray.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
In summary, lover relationships mostly start with sharing these three "things":
Sharing unspeakable thoughts or emotional experiences; sharing money, regardless of each other; sharing the pleasure brought by physical contact.
This requires men and women to abide by the principles and bottom line of interaction, and not to easily have ambiguous relationships with the opposite sex, and not to flirt with each other.
Especially for men and women who are middle-aged, you should be more cautious and never interact frequently with other opposite sexes, and you should not have abnormal sharing and interactions.
Otherwise, once the relationship breaks the boundaries and develops into a lover relationship, you will eventually suffer the consequences.
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