Marriage is a game about happiness. If you win, you can get a happy life; if you lose, you may end up with nothing.
Where every couple holds hands, they will believe that the other party is the only one who can accompany them until old age, and they will definitely imagine their future marriage life as a beautiful one.
But marriage requires the couple to work together to manage it, and happiness is not something that can be obtained without hard work. If you want to obtain a warm and stable marriage relationship, the couple must first be loyal to each other.
Loyalty is the basis of the stability of the marriage relationship and the cornerstone of the husband and wife's ability to trust each other. Even if the journey of marriage is not smooth, as long as the husband and wife are loyal to each other and can work together, they will eventually reach the other side of happiness.
A marriage without a loyal one is like a ship full of holes. Before setting off, there is a risk of sinking.
Zhang Shilong (pseudonym), 46 years old this year, is a delivery boy. He has been married to his wife Chunli (pseudonym), for 12 years. The two have a lovely daughter together.
Zhang Shilong delivers meals for 10 hours a day. The purpose of his work through storms is to enable his wife and children to live a happy life. But at this time, Zhang Shilong looked sad and unwilling to work because Chunli made a mistake that he could not forgive.
Things start from a year ago. Zhang Shilong, who was delivering food at that time, suddenly felt unwell, so he put down his work and prepared to go home to rest in advance.
But when Zhang Shilong opened the door of his house, he was stunned by the scene in front of him. He saw Chunli and a strange man staying together in disarray.
Although Zhang Shilong is an introverted and cowardly person, out of instinct, he took out his mobile phone and took a picture of this unbearable scene. Chunli and the strange man walked towards Zhang Shilong angrily when they saw Zhang Shilong wanting to take a picture.
Zhang Shilong was worried that he would be hurt, so he quickly closed the door and locked it. He first called to report the case, and then called his old mother and explained to his mother the situation he saw.
Zhang Shilong's mother rushed home and saw her daughter-in-law bullying her son with an outsider. She was both heartbroken and angry. She stepped forward and scolded her daughter-in-law and said, "Do you know you have a husband?"
Unexpectedly, after hearing what her mother-in-law said, Chunli not only showed regret, but also walked to her mother-in-law angrily, trying to attack her.
Fortunately, Chunli's behavior was pulled away by everyone. Chunli explained to the investigators that she and the strange man were innocent and did not do anything beyond the rules.
Although Zhang Shilong had evidence in his hand, he did not say much in his opinion of not making up his family's shame, but after returning home, he became more and more angry as he thought about it. Finally, he could not bear it anymore and had a physical conflict with his wife.
However, Chunli's physique is better than Zhang Shilong. After a rift with his wife, his wife was safe and sound, while Zhang Shilong was covered in scars.
Listen to Zhang Shilong mention this matter, his mother showed a sad expression. She said bluntly that since Chunli married into her family, the whole family has been in peace.
It turns out that Zhang Shilong had a failed marriage. 12 years ago, he met Chunli by a friend's introduction. Although Chunli had also had a divorce experience, in order to give Zhang Shilong a companion, his mother did not dislike Chunli, so she gave Chunli three gold medals and a betrothal gift. Her mother only asked Zhang Shilong to have a good life destination.
After marriage, Zhang Shilong found that Chunli was a irritable person. Not only did she often insult her husband, but she also slandered her mother-in-law for stealing her things. For this reason, she locked her bedroom door.
Zhang Shilong's mother said aggrievedly that once, Chunli had a leather jacket missing, and insisted that she stole it, so she could only go to Chunli's bedroom to find it. Although the leather jacket was finally found in Chunli's parents' home, Chunli still called her "Three Hands".
The mother felt that this was Zhang Shilong's second marriage. No matter how arrogant the daughter-in-law was, she would give her corresponding tolerance. But now her daughter-in-law made the mistake of betraying the marriage, which she really couldn't accept. However, she still gave the decision to her son and asked her son to decide whether Chunli would go or stay.
Hearing this, Zhang Shilong firmly stated that he wanted to separate from Chunli.
After hearing Zhang Shilong's story, the mediator believed that he could not just listen to his family's words, and arbitrarily judge the right or wrong of the matter, but also listen to Chunli's thoughts.
Chunli works as a cleaner in a shopping mall, so Zhang Shilong and the mediator find Chunli and negotiate the divorce.
Chunli was very angry when she saw Zhang Shilong. She said bluntly that she was not wrong, because Zhang Shilong was not good to her and never gave the money to him even if she made money.
When the mediator asked Chunli what was going on with the photo of the strange man, Chunli said first that she didn't know where Zhang Shilong made the photo, and then said that Zhang Shilong still had connections with his ex-wife, and he was also wrong.
When Zhang Shilong asked Chunli to break up, Chunli said, I can't leave him (Zhang Shilong). Where can I live after we are separated?
Chunli said that if Zhang Shilong had to separate from her, she would give her the house and give her some money, and she would also need custody of the child.
In response to this, Zhang Shilong said that the house is pre-marital property, how can I give it to you?
In order to get rid of Chunli as soon as possible, Zhang Shilong said that if Chunli agrees to separate, he is willing to invest in renting a house for Chunli and paying enough for 5 years of rent. If Chunli wants children, he will also pay child support. If Chunli doesn’t want children, he doesn’t need Chunli to pay child support.
Hearing Zhang Shilong's words, Chunli thought for a moment and agreed to the proposal. Zhang Shilong was afraid that Chunli would change his mind, so he hurriedly took Chunli to the Civil Affairs Bureau. Unfortunately, the Civil Affairs Bureau had already got off work.
The next day, Chunli changed her mind after communicating with her mother's family. Chunli's sister told the mediator that in Chunli's marriage with Zhang Shilong over the years, Zhang Shilong has been unwilling to give Chunli's family money, and it is all her mother's family who are supplementing Chunli. Now, if Zhang Shilong wants to break up, at least find a place for Chunli to live forever, otherwise her family will have difficulties and will not be able to accept Chunli.
After hearing what Chunli said, Zhang Shilong was very helpless. He finally decided to use litigation to terminate the marriage relationship with Chunli.
At this point, the marriage story between Chunli and Zhang Shilong was declared over.
Emotional analysis:
About marriage, writer Leo Tolstoy once said this:
The entire meaning of marriage is hidden in the trivial family life.
The inspiration that this sentence brings to us is: Ordinary and triviality are the norm in married life. Only a couple who can be loyal to each other can overcome the test of time and finally obtain a happy marriage.
In the story of Zhang Shilong and Chunli, Zhang Shilong can tolerate his wife's strength or his arrogance, but the only thing he can't tolerate is his wife's betrayal.
Judging from Chunli's attitude towards Zhang Shilong, perhaps she does not love Zhang Shilong. The reason why she chose to marry Zhang Shilong was just to find a place to settle down. However, a marriage and family without love are like an empty paper case, which cannot withstand the feng shui and rain.
Chunli's betrayal of marriage has become the last straw that crushes the marriage, making Zhang Shilong no longer willing to choose to accept her again.
Marriage is not a refuge, but a home of love created by the couple. Only when the couple can be loyal and love each other can they manage their marriage relationship happily.
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