In life, there is always such a type of person who has achieved success through his own efforts, and his subsequent marriage has brought his life to a higher level. This type of person is vividly called the Phoenix Man.
They seem to have become the best, but their nature is difficult to change. They regard their own face as more important than anything, and they don’t even listen to others’ persuasion, and still do their own things. In the end, they can only bear the consequences themselves.
In people's hearts, this type of people is the most avoidable. In today's society, material desires are flowing, information spreads rapidly, and people's feelings are ever-changing, but in life, you must experience it with your heart!
After marriage, when we discover the shortcomings of our partner, we can first learn to be tolerant, but the other party is still hard to change. We should stop the loss in time, not drag on the mud, and be ourselves!
A netizen shared her story with us. Let’s take a look together!
Dong Weixing's hometown is a relatively remote countryside, but he was very smart when he was a child, and he was diligent and hardworking in his studies, so he became the only college student in the village. During his college years, he got to know each other with his current wife. In the end, the two successfully entered the palace of marriage.
The other party Fan Mengting is the only daughter in the city. Her family spoils her very much. Her personality is very lively and cheerful, and she is still positive and sunny in life. Her beautiful qualities attract Dong Weixing.
Similarly, Dong Weixing looks honest and honest on the outside, and has a perseverance and has also won the love of Fan Mengting.
Both of them have their own jobs, and they don’t have to quarrel with each other for a mess. Their life after marriage is quite smooth.
However, Dong Weixing's problem of being fond of being in front of his friends gave her a headache.
"You obviously don't have much money, why do you have to pay the money alone? The class reunion should be AA." Fan Mengting's husband was very generous and was a big shot at the class reunion.
"Everyone had fun. At that time, talking about money would ruin the atmosphere!" At that time, it was Dong Xingwei who settled the account first. The classmates originally agreed to share it with him, but he refused.
"You just want to be honest!" He left first.
No matter how angry Fan Mengting is, it will be useless. This has happened a lot, and she will say it every time. However, my husband loves face more and never listens to advice.
Dong Xingwei's mother had the operation, and several of her brothers came to the hospital, but he said that the operation fee was all included in
"Daughter-in-law, my mother had the operation today, I have to go to the hospital. Give me some money, and the surgery fee will be paid at that time." Dong Xingwei said.
"Mom has surgery today? I have something to do today, so I can only go to it in the evening. Can it work?" Fan Mengting asked her husband's opinion, then turned back to the room to get the card, and continued, "The money is here. No matter how rich you have, we can't leave it all. We have to discuss it with your brothers. Have you heard it!"
"I know this." Dong Xingwei left after saying that.
When Dong Xingwei's brothers were waiting at the door of the ward. When several people saw Dong Xingwei arrive, they began to discuss how to pay for the surgery.
"Brothers, I'm really sorry. I'm farming at home all year round. I really don't have that much money. I'll pay less, can I?" The eldest brother said first.
The brothers in the family either farm or work outside. Only Dong Xingwei is the most promising. He not only went to college and had a decent job, but also married a rich wife in the city.
"Although I work outside, the expenses outside are quite high. I think we should share the cost of my mother's surgery this time." The third brother also expressed his own opinion.
"Now, brothers have developed differently. Look, our Xiaoxing family has such a good job and earns more money, so of course we have to spend a little more." Brothers have different opinions and each has their own ideas.
"Brothers, let's stop arguing. Although I am the youngest in the family, I have the ability to take responsibility. This time I have covered all the surgery fees for my mother. I will pay the surgery fee first. In a while, my mother can have the surgery." Dong Xingwei said.
The surgical fee is not a small amount. After Fan Mengting found out, it was another big battle.
"You have so many brothers, and you don't let them share the burden. You are the only one in the world who has money, right?" Fan Mengting asked.
"My brother took care of me when he was a child. Now that I have grown up, I can help them share the burden. You can't understand it even if you are an only daughter!" Dong Xingwei returned.
Fan Mengting was speechless. She had never seen such a way to repay brotherhood by pretending to be a big shot.
In order for mother-in-law to be able to recover from illness with peace of mind, Fan Mengting didn't say anything else. Her husband had already boasted about the fact that he asked him to take it back. It was harder than climbing the sky.
My mother-in-law needs someone to take care of her when she is discharged from the hospital. Dong Xingwei directly hires a nanny for her mother
After a while, her mother-in-law is discharged from the hospital, but someone still needs to take care of her. Dong Xingwei's elder brother said that he lives with his mother and can help take care of her.
The other brothers have to go out to work, and they all agreed and said that they would give their elder brother some living expenses every month in the future.
However, Dong Xingwei refuted it, thinking that the elder brother had to go to the field every day and didn't care about his mother. If there were any problems, even several brothers could not bear the responsibility.
So, Dong Xingwei proposed to find a nanny, serve his mother all day, and ensure her mother's three meals a day. Of course, the cost is also very high. Several brothers opposed it, but Dong Xingwei said that he could pay.
As long as you pay, you can do whatever you want. Several buddies think so, and they have no other opinions.
As soon as this happened, even the villagers praised him, saying that Dong Xingwei was really promising and hired a nanny for her mother to serve him. This kind of thing had never happened in the village.
Fan Mengting became anxious with him again.
"You have a mother, right? Your brother lives next to your mother. Can't you ask him to help take care of her? We are not going to give him hard work!" Fan Mengting said.
"How can that work? This is my mother. Of course I have to take care of her." Dong Xingwei retorted.
"You want to be filial to your mother, and you have the ability to quit your job and go home to take care of her. What kind of nanny will you hire?"
The two started arguing again, but it was useless.
Dong Xingwei gave a speech at his nephew's twelfth birthday party, proclaiming that he would give his nephew 120,000
In September, Dong Xingwei and his wife were invited by their third brother to return to the village to attend their nephew's birthday party. At the banquet, everyone was having a happy meal, but Dong Xingwei suddenly walked to the stage and said, "Today is my nephew's birthday, I am very happy."
Dong Xingwei drank some wine, and there was redness on his face.
"I came up just to tell everyone that in order to wish him a happy twelfth birthday, I will give him 120,000!" Dong Xingwei said, and the people below were in an uproar.
Someone also tried to relieve Dong Xingwei and said, "Xiaowei has drunk too much, please help her back and rest for a while!"
Dong Xingwei refused to give in and said, "I didn't drink too much, third brother, it's over in a while, you want it with me."
Third brother looked at Fan Mengting and was a little at a loss. He knew that his younger brother married a rich daughter-in-law, but he didn't spend money like this.
Sure enough, Fan Mengting had a cold face and then stood up and left.
The third brother quickly went up and asked Dong Xingwei to chase his sister-in-law quickly, but he looked disdainful and said, "Where she loves."
The next day, Dong Xingwei returned to the city and was invited to the Civil Affairs Bureau. Not only was he divorced, he was also sentenced to leave the house with nothing. This is what he did!
Dong Xingwei's life was actually quite smooth. Who knew that he wanted to be a rich man and regard his face as more important than anything else. In the end, he lost everything about himself. He was really a sin that could not survive!
Phoenix man himself does not have much ability, but he still loves face very much. He never listens to what others say, never thinks through his brain before speaking, and whenever he finishes speaking, he is never embarrassed to take it back, for fear of refuting his face and slapping himself in the face.
If we meet a Phoenix man after marriage, we will be very tired. Our partner is always afraid of losing our face in front of outsiders. In order to maintain it, we forgot our original intention, went against our wishes, and felt sad but couldn't do it!
You must be down-to-earth and take on the responsibilities of your ability. Never lose yourself in this colorful world and hurt yourself for the sake of face. In the end, I am afraid that it will be too late to regret it!
Topic today: What will you do when you meet a Phoenix man?
