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What is the most important thing in social interaction?
Some people say IQ, while others say EQ. Different people will have different answers. After all, everyone's situation and experience are different. We always have to learn how to get along with others in order to better adapt to this society.
So, what can high emotional intelligence be reflected?
is very simple, just communicate.
Real high emotional intelligence communication is not so-called eloquence, but can communicate in a way that makes others feel comfortable. The two abilities of
are essential in efficient communication.
1. Knowing but not talking is a kind of cultivation
People often think that high emotional intelligence means being able to speak and eloquently, but in fact, this is just a personal idea.
I don’t know if you have encountered such a scene in life:
There are always people who listen to the wind and rain, and they render the news that they hear is very different from the truth ;
There are also people who are used to showing their superiority in social occasions, and regard others’ shortcomings as topics for conversation after dinner.
or more can not make us very outstanding, but will only highlight a person's ignorance and lack of cultivation.
has heard of such a story.
Franklin Once, he came out of the hall with his colleague and saw a woman fall accidentally. The colleague was about to step forward to help the other party up, but Franklin stopped his colleague.
Afterwards, Franklin and his colleagues came out until the lady stood up.
colleagues expressed their confusion as to why Franklin was usually very enthusiastic, but this time he turned a blind eye to the woman who fell.
Franklin said: "No one wants others to see their embarrassment."
Colleague suddenly realized: It turns out that not all help can make others feel comfortable. More often, we are used to helping others in our own way, and ignore the feelings of others.
Sometimes, it is also a kind of kindness if you don’t say it.
Knowing but not speaking is a consideration for others and one's own cultivation. Giving others with dignity can also make win the respect of others by itself.
2. Not talking nonsense is respect for others
Real high emotional intelligence communication, not to be able to speak eloquently, and to avoid talking nonsense.
If we say something more but not more refined, then the worst case is to make others disgusted and feel that what we say at has no nutrition.
Everyone’s time is limited, and we should make efficient choices and behaviors within a limited time. There was a netizen before
and he was just a general friend on the Internet.
It has been in each other's address book because of a brief exchange before, but I have never taken the initiative to chat with each other.
Until one day, the other party sent me a message at 11 at midnight, asking me what content I write now to make money? Then, I asked what I am doing now.
At that time, I felt speechless.
As soon as I fell asleep, I was awakened by the prompt sound and felt a little uncomfortable.
Moreover, the other party’s problems are worthless, and it feels like they are consuming each other’s time.
Later, a few times, netizens also asked me some questions that could be found online late at night. They could find it themselves, but it took up my sleep time. After
, I didn't reply and deleted the other party from the address book.
In fact, such things are very common in our lives.
Some people may have nothing to do in normal times, but they think that you have a certain knowledge and the other party has your contact information, so they will consume us with a mentality of "finding something without saying anything" and asking questions.
This not only makes people feel that they have low emotional intelligence, but also makes us pull the other party into the "blacklist" of social interaction.
As adults, we don’t have to bother others in everything. When we encounter difficulties, we will solve them ourselves first, and then we can’t handle them ourselves. Then we will ask others for advice.
In this way, we can truly grow and establish a high emotional intelligence image.
3.. The so-called high emotional intelligence communication is to make others feel comfortable
I have seen many people, and they all regard being straightforward and chattering as a manifestation of high emotional intelligence. Some people even think that being able to speak means being eloquent and capable.
Little do you know that everything has two sides. The high emotional intelligence you think may be ignorant in the eyes of others.
The so-called efficient communication is to make others feel comfortable, rather than relying on their own preferences and speaking without any obstruction.
Perhaps, in front of people who can tolerate us, we can tell jokes without restraint.
However, when entering society, this is not the case.
communication not only means speaking well, but also saying responsible things.
There are too many words of vagueness, and it is difficult for us to have a sincere relationship.
Sometimes, if your communication is inefficient, it is better to remain silent. The person who can make you feel comfortable is the real friend.
Xiaoyuan's message: High emotional intelligence communication is also an art, not just a tool for social interaction.
Some people speak like a spring breeze, while others speak like a disgusting.
I often hear people say that some people have good popularity because they have high emotional intelligence and can speak.
is not wrong, but it is difficult to do it. Because we are used to looking at problems from our own standpoint, and naturally speaking out is subjective.
Therefore, if you want to communicate with high emotional intelligence, it is necessary to change your words and deeds.
In the future, I hope you can communicate efficiently and be a person with high emotional intelligence.
encourage each other!
Topic: What do you think is true high emotional intelligence communication?
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