The most intense feeling given to me by the recent world is two words: out of control.
feels like I can't master anything, even if it happens two days later.
For example, last month I wanted to go to the neighboring province for two days to relax a little.
was looking at the tickets and hotels when I suddenly saw a news that there was that destination I wanted to go to.
Although there are not many people, it may be enough to cause trouble for me who are returning.
so I quickly canceled the plan.
I think if you can’t get away from the outside, then let’s take a walk in this province. The time for
is set in three days.
I have become more careful this time and checked it in advance.
As a result, it was said that there were several places in this province, so I had no choice but to give up.
The next day, I happened to have a good friend I haven't seen for a long time and said I'm going to have a business trip here.
I was looking forward to meeting her, but she said to me in frustration that afternoon:
Their places have also started to tighten, and it is difficult to go out now, and the business trip planning company has also been cancelled.
And what's more serious is that the result of this business trip is directly linked to her income.
If she can’t go bad this time and can’t see this important customer, her year-end bonus this year is likely to be ruined.
All I can do is comfort her and tell her that most people are like this now.
is all struggling with a huge uncertainty.
Although I know these objective reasons are something I cannot change, I can’t do this or that, I don’t have to hate myself.
However, after experiencing such things for a lot, a huge sense of powerlessness and out of control will inevitably accumulate in the subconscious.
I am instinctively suspicious of what "plans" I now have, especially long-term plans.
Every time you are doing something to plan your life, there is always a voice in your heart that will refute:
Is it useful to do these things? You can’t even control what happens in two days, and what else do you say three years and five years, ten years and eight years.
There are many things in life, many plans that are beneficial to you, and the time dimensions are often calculated in years, months, or at least in weeks.
If a person cannot even determine what will happen in two days, then what is the point of making a plan?
If a person cannot control what he wants to do in two days, how can he believe that he can implement the monthly and annual plans well?
Ask a further question: What is the significance of the so-called "work" in various uncertain futures?
The reason why people are willing to endure hardship is because they can expect that hardship will be rewarded.
If you have a high probability of confirming that there is no return, are you still willing to endure hardships?
I read an article before.
says there are some van elevators, and its closing key is actually fake.
In other words, it seems that you pressed the closing key and the door closed.
In fact, if you press or not, the door will only close the door according to the program and time it is set.
But this button is very useful, and after being put on the market, I received feedback: Most elevator passengers like this button very much.
Because this button brings people a sense of "control", it makes people feel that:
is closed under your own operation, which can alleviate people's time anxiety when riding in the elevator.
I suddenly felt that this was a good metaphor.
Many of us are in this elevator now, and both the door opening and closing keys are fake.
We were the only one standing in the elevator, going up and down, and everyone looked confused.
The elevator goes up and down, and closes the door and opens it. You can’t help it.
Many people with a strong sense of "father" always don't understand:
Why do young people nowadays not get married, don't have children, don't buy a house, and know how to lie down all day long and not be motivated at all? !
Why are young people today not satisfied with their delicious food and drink? Why do they say they are depressed and lacking all day long? !
We say that people have three kinds of desires:
First, the underlying desire refers to eating, drinking, defecation, and urging;
Second, relative desire refers to you expect and roughly convinced that "tomorrow will be better";
Third, more desire refers to you want to live better than others.
If desires are not satisfied, people will suffer - this is human nature.
Modern young people do not have to worry about food or clothing, because the supplies are extremely abundant.
If you don’t pay attention to quality, you can eat enough for ten yuan and buy a piece of cold-proof clothes for a few dozen yuan.
It is a bit difficult to freeze S and hungry S.
But, is it satisfying for people to do this?
If you only know how to eat enough to keep the cold, what is the difference between it and animals?
Modern people do not have to worry about food and clothing, but what they worry about is a "future that can be expected".
Some people say that it is all caused by lack of money.
If you have money, you can avoid 99% of your worries.
Is the sluggish childbirth really just a matter of money?
Some time ago, a noun flicked the Internet: Death Cross .
China, Japan and South Korea, the three brothers Dongya, hand in hand to cross this historic moment.
On the Internet, there are always some people who like to compare with the difficulties of young people when they talk about the difficulties of young people.
says that modern people don’t have to worry about food and clothing, and there is so much entertainment. In the past, they couldn’t even eat food and could not eat a meal a year...
What do you think of these?
Do you want to prove that young people today are struggling in life and feeling depressed and sad, are they pretentious?
discussion
Will you still set up plans for your life now?
What are your expectations for the future?
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