Writer Wang Chen once said:
"All encounters in the world are reunions after a long time. It is incredible to meet each other in the sea of people."
Everyone you meet is a gift given to us by life, and they all have special meaning.
However, in the process of cherishing fate, we often mistakenly believe that cherishing means dedicating our sincerity without reservation, and cherishing means giving without bottom line.
But in fact, those we think we go in both directions may just be a carnival for one person, and those we think we do good for others may just be a person's selfishness and possessiveness.
In any interpersonal relationship, when we decide who we are sincere to, it means that we give the knife to whom we are not careful, we will end up with bruises and bruises.
In this life, in the past few decades, among the people I met, some people can become friends with us, some people can become lovers with us, and some people can only become strangers with us.
was once a friend, but later he could become a stranger; once a stranger, but later he could become a friend, nothing is eternal.
If you are destined to meet, but if you are not destined to stay together, it is because you do not understand the rules of getting along with each other and the secret to managing your relationship.
In fact, when interacting with people, you must know how to keep an appropriate distance. If the distance is too far, the relationship will easily fade; if the distance is too close, the relationship will easily become depressed.
In order to protect a relationship, many people are often committed to shortening the distance between each other. They always think that this way they can grasp the relationship, but in fact, getting too close to anyone can easily turn into a disaster.
Things will turn out to the extreme, and everything follows this principle.
does not get too close to anyone, this is the manifestation of high emotional intelligence.
01: Any good relationship is not tired of getting along with each other
I don’t know if you are struggling in a relationship. Even though you know that that relationship makes you feel tired, you still can’t give up and leave.
In fact, when that relationship brings you more pain than happiness, it is enough to show that that relationship is no longer suitable for you, and this relationship has reached its end.
If you force yourself to fall into self-deception, you will only end up hurting yourself; if you are obsessed with sunk costs, you will only waste the current years and let down the future years.
In fact, the most comfortable relationship between people is not tired of getting along with each other.
When two people are together, don’t be careful whether the other party will stab in the back, don’t be calculating about each other’s gains and losses, don’t be cautious and humble everywhere.
We can be ourselves and enjoy the time we spend together.
02: Getting too close to someone is easy to cross the line
In the TV series " My First Half of Life ", the final outcome of Luo Zijun and Tang Jing is due to the consequence of getting too close to each other.
Tang Jing is so good to Luo Zijun, her best friend, that she can praise him. Not only did she personally help Luo Zijun deal with emotional and career problems, but even if she is not available for the time being, she will ask her boyfriend to help.
But who would have thought that after a while, Luo Zijun actually had a look at her boyfriend.
In fact, no matter when the two people got together later, it was a kind of disgusting and hurting for Tang Jing.
If you get too close to anyone, you will easily cross the line. If you do things that hurt the other party, you still feel that the other party should forgive your behavior.
After all, one person becomes fearless by relying on the preference of another.
Any emotion has a boundary, and this boundary is each other's principles and bottom line. Once it is passed, the relationship can only end here.
People with truly high emotional intelligence will not easily get too close to someone because they are afraid of losing a relationship they have finally obtained.
03: When you get along with others, you must know how to keep a certain distance
In life, passers-by are in a hurry, and some people are running towards us, so naturally some people leave behind us. This is normal.
Maybe it is because of the disagreement of views, maybe it is because of the disagreement of personalities, maybe neither of them can find a suitable way to get along with each other, maybe the intersection of life forces us to choose to give up.
No matter what the reason is, we have to accept the results.
Those belated regrets may continue to interfere with our hearts in the years to come, but in fact, sometimes we should reflect on whether there is a problem with the way we handle our relationships.
Thousands of fate in the previous life can allow two people to meet in this life. Should we give more respect and understanding of the rare fate, rather than blindly doing things to extremes.
Whether you just enjoy the other person’s efforts or just approach the distance from the other person, it is not a good way to get along.
The real good way to get along is to go in moderation. While getting close to each other, it leaves a little space for each other and keeps a certain distance from each other.
People with truly high emotional intelligence know not to get too close to anyone.
I am Aya, the writer of warm emotions. How lucky I can meet you in this life! Click to follow and let’s learn together!
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