Author: No. 1 Emotion
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Since ancient times, the topic of elderly care has attracted much attention, and people's general awareness is to "raising children to prevent old age". It is naturally a very happy thing to have children by your side when you get old, but reality and ideals are inevitably different.
Especially when "raising children to prevent old age" collides with "marrying a wife and forgetting mother", the children they have worked hard to raise, but in the end they have no sense of filial piety. Coupled with the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is easy to fall into a situation where you have no support when you are old.
According to custom, the daughter-in-law naturally has the obligation to support the elderly, but after all, it is not your own daughter, so it is particularly important to have a good relationship with the daughter-in-law. Although our country's laws also stipulate, everything should be willing, otherwise even if you help you support the elderly, you may not be able to taste the taste of happiness.
Only when people get old can they understand: if their daughter-in-law helps them with their elderly care, these three additional conditions must be met.
Treat the daughter-in-law as the daughter-in-law
As the saying goes, "When the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are harmonious, the family is harmonious." Whether a family can be harmonious and happy cannot be separated from the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If two people get along well, they can naturally have a happy life, but if they often fall into conflicts, it is naturally difficult to live happily.
Faced with the problem of elderly care, if a mother-in-law wants her daughter-in-law to support her, she must treat the other party as her own daughter, especially not to allow unresolved conflicts between each other, otherwise the seeds of "hate" will be left behind.
Don’t think that you can still take care of yourself, so you don’t treat your daughter-in-law as your own person, or even make things difficult for the other person everywhere. These “disasters” you plant will eventually be imposed on yourself one day, and you will naturally fall into a miserable situation at that time.
It is not a matter of overnight use to treat your daughter-in-law as your biological daughter. When you get along with you, you will feel that you are cared for and loved by your mother. When you get old, you will naturally take care of you as your mother, and you will naturally be willing to support you.
Save enough pension money
Although it is not easy to take care of children and grow up, before you grow old, you have to prepare in advance. Even if you get along well with your daughter-in-law, you must ensure that you save enough pension money.
A truly smart elderly person only needs their children to be with him, but they will not spend their money, especially their daughter-in-law. More importantly, when you have money, at least you have more guarantees. Even if no one cares about you in the end, you will not be miserable.
Only when you have money can you have confidence. This is also a factor that children are willing to get close to you. Maybe you think children are all filial, but when you need money, if you can't take it out, it will easily cause unnecessary diaphragms.
After all, there is a daughter-in-law in the middle. Even if the relationship is very harmonious, if there is not enough pension money, there will always be unsatisfactory things, which will inevitably lead to a series of conflicts. Therefore, you must save enough pension money.
There is a conflict between husband and wife, and we must face the daughter-in-law
As the saying goes, "fight at the bed and the bed at the end of the bed", there will inevitably be some conflicts between husband and wife. At this time, whether it is the mother-in-law or father-in-law, we should face the daughter-in-law, let her feel the love and care from the elders, so that she can better integrate into this family.
But there are always some mothers-in-law who like to look to their son, and they can turn the blame on their daughter-in-law no matter what. At this time, it will inevitably lead to conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and even resentment in the heart of their daughter-in-law.
Even if the conflict between husband and wife is resolved later, the harm caused by mother-in-law to herself is difficult to relieve, so there will inevitably be a barrier between each other. When you grow old, your daughter-in-law will definitely not willingly support you, and even ignore you.
I have to say that the grudges between children should be avoided as much as possible. If it is unavoidable, you should also look to your daughter-in-law, so that she can remember your good deeds and will willingly support you in the future.
written at the end
The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been the main factor in the deviation of marriage life. But if we look at the topic of future retirement, mother-in-law must meet these three additional conditions, otherwise it is easy to fall into a state of having no support in old age.
Of course, since you become a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you are a family, and as a daughter-in-law, you have an obligation to support your mother-in-law. After all, people have a day of old age, and no one yearns for the desolate life situation in the end. As a junior, you should also understand your elders as much as possible and be a filial child.
In fact, there is no conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but a good balance has not been found. When the mother-in-law achieves the above three additional conditions, I believe that the daughter-in-law will be able to do better. In this way, they will definitely get along very well and life will inevitably become happier and happier.
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