A live broadcast, a fan asked in the barrage: "How to save the man's betrayal?" I said to her: "You must first find the reason for the man's betrayal, then stabilize your emotions, and communicate with the man calmly."
Some time ago, this fan came to me and said: "I listened to your suggestion and went to chat with my husband and let him clean up with the outside, but he didn't listen at all, and even lost his temper with me."
I asked her to repeat the content of her communication with the man.
The following is an excerpt from their communication content:
fans: "I'm very rational now and tell you that as long as you handle the relationship outside completely and return to the family, I can think that this has not happened."
man: "Isn't this good now? We don't interfere with each other and will not affect the family."
fans: "Is it okay? Is it your wife? Are you worthy of me like this? Do you deserve the children? Do you still have this family in your eyes?"
man: "Are you annoying? Did I not give you money or beat you or scold you? Why are you sorry for you?" After that, the man slammed the door and came out.
I told my fans: "There is a big problem in your communication. You have been talking about your needs, but you have ignored the interests of men." If we want a man to break with San'er, we must understand the interests of men, grasp his weaknesses, and not talk about San'er, but only the pros and cons.
Today we will talk to you about this case of fans through this case of how to make men obedient and return to their families?
. Protecting the interests of men
The husband of a fan is a department head. Once a betrayal of marriage is discovered by the company, he will lose the opportunity for promotion. Combined with the particularity of a man's work, the first trick I give to fans is "Catch the needs of men and protect the interests of men."
I suggest fans say to men like this: "Husband, I can understand that you don't want to break up with San'er because she can make you happy and relax. If you don't want to divorce me, it means you care about this family and our relationship for so many years."
"I look at you step by step As of today, I see the hard work and hardships in the middle. I understand that she can make you happy, but I am worried that if this matter is known, what should I do if it affects your career?" ”
"Honey, you must pay more attention. If it is leaked, all these years of hard work will be in vain." After saying this, the man did not look down and impatient as before, but calmed down, which means that the man listened to these words.
When we communicate with men from the perspective of men, men will think that you are the person who understands him the most and cares about his interests the most .
I tell fans that you can take advantage of the victory and continue to poke his pain points with words, and get his heart . After several rounds of communication, the man's heart began to shake and slowly moved closer to his fans.
Someone will definitely have questions: "Aren't you sure of the meaning of San'er's existence?" You can think about it, if that woman only knows how to accompany the man to laugh, eat, drink and have fun. But if you consider the interests of men and provide emotional value to men, who do you think men need more?
. Communication skills
people are animals that need to empathize with . When we understand men and empathize with men, men will instinctively rely on you and are willing to communicate with you and share with you. At this time, you need to learn how to communicate.
Here I will share with you three communication tips.
First: Stabilize your emotions and impress him with your strength
Betrayal has happened. Releasing emotions and crying will not make men look back, but will only make him feel bored, so he wants to get closer to San'er. So, don’t worry about the attitude of men towards us, whether they are very irritable, out of control, and thorny in their words, what we need to do is to stabilize our emotions and communicate with him calmly .What does
say? Express your love for him and express your importance to this marriage and family. Two people must have an emotional foundation when they enter marriage. You will definitely not have less understanding of men than those of the third child. We must be good at using this information.
The purpose of doing this is to inspire men to feel guilty about you. Many men know that betrayal of marriage is wrong, but they still do it. One reason is that they will make excuses for themselves and convince themselves.
For example: "It's because the one at home has a bad temper. Saner is so reasonable." "The one at home cares about this and that every day, and the one outside is obedient and sensible. How can you choose if you want you? It's really not my fault." When we move them with affection, it will make men lose their mistakes and feel guilty, and make men's excuses fail.
Second: Grasp the weakness
Just like in my words, what I use is to accurately grasp the weakness of men. Strike a man's luck mentality and let him obey and do what he wants.
But many women often habitually complain to men, telling their pain and grievances. They all ignored one thing: "Men have chosen to betray. Don't he know you will be sad? Don't you know you will feel wronged? At this time, I will just complain about men and listen to them?"
So at this time, what we have to do is to grasp the man's weaknesses and communicate with men with the interests that men care about. Only when we have some chips in our hands can the two people communicate equally and balance each other.
Men are rational animals, and they will definitely take the least of both evils. As long as we grasp our weaknesses steadily and accurately, men will make the choice you want.
: Don't compromise
I encountered a case where some students were really angry. I don't know how much harsh words have said, but when it comes to taking action, I become timid. Doing this makes men catch their weaknesses . So, when encountering such a thing, don’t compromise easily. evasion cannot solve the problem, we must face the problem and solve it.
Management of a marriage is not an easy task. When encountering problems, you can only achieve the desired goal with the right method. Although the skills are good, you need to learn to digest them. If you have similar feelings, you can also consult the teacher. Never bear the pain that could have been solved by yourself.
What does
say? Express your love for him and express your importance to this marriage and family. Two people must have an emotional foundation when they enter marriage. You will definitely not have less understanding of men than those of the third child. We must be good at using this information.
The purpose of doing this is to inspire men to feel guilty about you. Many men know that betrayal of marriage is wrong, but they still do it. One reason is that they will make excuses for themselves and convince themselves.
For example: "It's because the one at home has a bad temper. Saner is so reasonable." "The one at home cares about this and that every day, and the one outside is obedient and sensible. How can you choose if you want you? It's really not my fault." When we move them with affection, it will make men lose their mistakes and feel guilty, and make men's excuses fail.
Second: Grasp the weakness
Just like in my words, what I use is to accurately grasp the weakness of men. Strike a man's luck mentality and let him obey and do what he wants.
But many women often habitually complain to men, telling their pain and grievances. They all ignored one thing: "Men have chosen to betray. Don't he know you will be sad? Don't you know you will feel wronged? At this time, I will just complain about men and listen to them?"
So at this time, what we have to do is to grasp the man's weaknesses and communicate with men with the interests that men care about. Only when we have some chips in our hands can the two people communicate equally and balance each other.
Men are rational animals, and they will definitely take the least of both evils. As long as we grasp our weaknesses steadily and accurately, men will make the choice you want.
: Don't compromise
I encountered a case where some students were really angry. I don't know how much harsh words have said, but when it comes to taking action, I become timid. Doing this makes men catch their weaknesses . So, when encountering such a thing, don’t compromise easily. evasion cannot solve the problem, we must face the problem and solve it.
Management of a marriage is not an easy task. When encountering problems, you can only achieve the desired goal with the right method. Although the skills are good, you need to learn to digest them. If you have similar feelings, you can also consult the teacher. Never bear the pain that could have been solved by yourself.
