What does ambiguity mean? Everyone has different opinions. Some people say it is "above friends and not having enough lovers", while others say that love needs to start with ambiguity. This kind of vague and inexplicable relationship is probably ambiguous!
I personally think that ambiguous relationships are not the identity of love, but enjoy all the treatment of love. If you are not qualified, you will take a step back and cannot bear to leave. This kind of relationship is unclear and unclear, and you are both like a confidant and Lan Yan, but you may suddenly break it if you say it that day.
. Everyone tacitly avoided talking about this relationship. They were unwilling to accept the actual arrangements. There are most such examples in real life, but everyone just knows it. Have you ever encountered it?
A few days ago, a netizen sent a private message to me and said: She had been chatting with a boy for 5 months, often going out to eat, watch movies, kisses and hugs, but he never said he liked her, and she had tried to hint at him, but he changed the subject every time. Suddenly one day, he actually told her "happy" that he had a girlfriend.
I always feel that love should start with love, not with ambiguity. I think no matter what kind of personality you have, shy, shy, passionate... When you meet someone you like, you will let her see the most sincere side of yourself.
Once these manifestations occur between the opposite sex, it proves that you are in an ambiguous relationship!
01 Meanless chat
For many long-distance friends, the most feared thing is that there is a person who suddenly cares about his well-being around one side. Many times, at the beginning, she might just think that she had an extra friend of the opposite sex, chatting every day and sharing every bit of daily life with each other. As time goes by, she gradually begins to get used to him and rely on him. When you are sick, your partner may only remind you to drink more hot water, and wear more clothes, but he can deliver the medicine to you as soon as possible.
We are actually afraid of long-term companionship but not as good as temporary care. This is why long-term meaningless chatting can easily cause yourself to fall into an ambiguous relationship, because once you begin to get used to his appearance, you will slowly fall into this immoral relationship.
Although love does not come first and then come, people must understand etiquette, righteousness, integrity and shame .
02 Not incompatible with physical contact
We often say that there is a difference between men and women, and you must keep an appropriate distance. Getting along without a sense of proportion is often the most fatal, because many times, afterwards, you don’t even feel that you have done something wrong!
Once you get along with each other for a long time, you will often involuntarily have some physical contact. For example, holding hands, hugging shoulders, touching your head or having a closer contact is normal for couples. But if you are not a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, then these physical contacts are a manifestation of your ambiguous relationship.
03 Eye communication, deliberately creating opportunities to be alone
When you like someone, your eyes must be gentle, saturated and affectionate. You may be shy and dodge when looking at him, or you may look directly at him, showing love; the communication of eyes can easily make people notice that your relationship is "unusual".
Similarly, when you desire to be alone with him, deliberately create an opportunity to be alone with him. For example, even if you have nothing to do, you have to find something to do and want to work overtime with him. He will find a way to turn it off even if there are other things, because he asks you to have dinner and watch a movie. Once you start to dream of being alone with him, your relationship is already ambiguous.
04 Deliberately keeping distance
This is different from the above. Deliberately keeping distance, it sounds like it doesn’t sound very good! Keep an appropriate distance between the opposite sex, but what I am talking about is deliberate.When you have a familiar person, you will deliberately keep a distance, such as sitting separately when having dinner together, and deliberately talking about the other person's shortcomings one after another... But once you are together in private, you will become extremely intimate, just like an ordinary couple.
For these people who have ambiguous relationships with the opposite sex, we must pay attention to it and learn to judge. for a long time, you must stop the loss in time and make the right choices. Don’t let yourself do harmful actions, and avoid being hurt by it. Whether it is true friendship or ambiguous, it is wrong to have these behaviors!
Before ambiguous, ask yourself, can you afford the price of a short-term heartbeat?
