text | Xueluo Wuchen
As long as anyone likes someone, they will want to confirm a relationship with the other party. But starting a relationship is simple, but maintaining it is difficult. Because this requires the joint efforts of two people, neither of them is missing.
However, not everyone can meet good people. Some people devote everything to an intimate relationship, but end up getting nothing. Some people enjoy each other's goodness under the banner of love, but don't give anything.
Because of the increasing number of such people, many people are unwilling to start an intimate relationship, or refuse to contribute in an intimate relationship.
But love is like this. It is both beautiful and dangerous. As long as you try love, you have to bear the bad things, or suffer a little.
Only by suffering can people become mature and understand what true love is.
For men, the woman they love the most is not how perfect it looks, but how can they suffer for them. Even after a long time, they will never forget it.
So, if a woman is willing to take the initiative to bear it, a man will be deeply in love with you.
01
It’s not too concerned about the return
In love, some men are always too calculating and think about whether it’s worth it no matter what they do.
A friend calculated the relationship with me:
It's really troublesome to fall in love. You not only have to spend time, date the other party and manage a relationship. It also costs a lot of money to buy gifts for the other party or give them a surprise. This is better than being single.
I have to say that being single is really easy to deal with. One person is full and the whole family is not hungry. However, as long as you want to fall in love, you must invest and pay.
However, once you talk about the efforts, you will definitely talk about the rewards and how much benefits you should get. And calculate everywhere in your relationship, whether you have paid more or the other person has paid more, and you will make it clear if you have paid back.
They try to protect themselves in this way and are unwilling to let themselves suffer losses in this relationship.
But when you talk about this, you will be called selfish. Since we have started a relationship, why should we still be concerned about it?
For example, there was a couple who spent all their money because of starting a business. Because he didn't have money, he could only spend his girlfriend's money.
But her girlfriend’s salary is not much, and at this time she will think about whether it is worth it if she pays money in this relationship.
She is right, and there are also mistakes. Yes, it is because everyone is selfish and has the right to protect themselves. No one wants to be hurt, so she will pay attention to her daily life.
But she is wrong because she is too careful, because once she calculates in relationships, it will instantly change. Even if two people have a emotional foundation, they cannot last long.
So, if a woman wants to start a relationship, she must trust the other person. You can protect yourself, but don’t worry about so much about small things.
02
is willing to make a compromise
There is a couple. Outsiders think they have a good relationship, but from the inside point of view, their emotional problems are continuous.
First of all, women always cannot see the man’s efforts, and men are not willing to express themselves and only act silently in life.
So, women only see the side they give and think that they are blindly giving in this relationship, but men do nothing.
Little do you know that men are also giving and working hard to manage this relationship. But sometimes, his efforts are not seen, or when he gives, there is no result.
It's like a man clearly wants to buy the gift he wants for a woman, but because he was sick that day, he had to rest at home and couldn't go out and give it to the woman.
Or, a man needs to take too much pressure because there are many things in his family, so he accidentally ignores you in some aspects.
If you know the real situation, will you still get angry with him and will you care about him? At this time, many girls understand that managing emotions is to tolerate each other in these small things.
instead of directly denying all the man's efforts because the other party does not do well in trivial matters.
If you want to continue with him for a long time, you must learn to compromise in some aspects. For example, if you make you wronged because of some aspects of the other party, then this is normal.
Because everyone is ordinary people, some aspects will be imperfect. As long as you see the truth clearly, you will naturally not doubt this relationship because of some trivial things.
However, you still have to adapt to everything. You don’t have to endure and compromise at all times. It will only turn you into a "suffering bag".
03
Take the initiative to force yourself to grow
For everyone, growth has always been a painful process, this is true in life stages, and even more so in love.
Many people are curious, isn’t it just about talking about a partner? What does it have to do with growth?
has a big relationship. It is not as simple as you imagined to be able to manage a relationship. It requires you to manage it carefully, but at the beginning, you didn’t understand these things.
So in this, you will also take some detours, do some wrong things, and at the same time you have suffered a lot and fallen into trouble.
Slowly, you will find that you have become more at ease in your relationship, and when you are with your partner, you will have less worries.
This does not mean that you have found the right person, but because you have become mature in an intimate relationship and know how to deal with the feelings in front of you. If you encounter problems, you can easily deal with them.
Moreover, mature feelings can not only make you more mature in intimate relationships, but also change your life.
Especially when you meet those motivated partners, while they work hard, you will also unconsciously become hardworking, with the purpose of getting close to each other.
This is also a way to manage feelings, using progressive methods to bring the distance between two people closer. After that, when the two people's careers get closer, their relationship will naturally become closer.
So, when you find that the other party’s career is getting better and better, it means that you have to suffer the hardships of study, and you need to work hard and improve.
Everyone knows that good feelings will make you better and better; bad feelings will drag you into the abyss.
The quality of a relationship mainly depends on what you use to view it. You can only improve yourself at all times and manage love and marriage as a career.
always do things with emotional intelligence, so naturally there will be no problems with your relationship. Finally, I hope everyone can become mature and find themselves in their relationship.
This is all for today's analysis. If you encounter problems during love and don't know what to do, you can send me a private message and I'll help you.
