What is the feeling that women desire most in love?
Recently, in the popular variety show " Heart-warming Signal 5", Li Wanyi and Guo Haoran's date became a hot search.
The woman carefully prepared a date, but the boy was absent-minded throughout the whole process, without a trace of enjoyment, and did not care about the girl's mood at all.
In the comment section, netizens complained about the behavior of the male guest:
"You showed goodwill to me at the beginning, but why now you suddenly withdraw your feelings and turn to other girls?"
In fact, in real life, two people in the ambiguous or romantic stage will also encounter similar confusion.
What a woman cares most about in love is not the man’s appearance or talent, but whether he can give him the three feelings he wants most.
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is firmly chosen, and is blatantly favored
sanmao said: "If what you give to others is the same as what you give to me, then I don't want it. After all, what we want more than love and being loved is preference."
Life is far and fast, and the world is unpredictable. I don't seek for a lifetime, but I just want to be firmly chosen and treated for the same end. What does it feel like to be favored by
?
There is an answer online, the words are rough and not rough:
"Preference is the person you can't call even if you make dozens of calls. I only need a punctuation mark to blow my phone up."
Preference does not mean that one party loves more than the other party, but that one person loves you more than others, and some things are done only for you.
Do you still remember Yang Kaiwen and Zhao Qijun in "Signal of Heartbeat 2"? This pair of "Single CP" has made many people see the preference in love, and it turns out that it is so fascinating.
Go to the zoo, Zhao Qijun made a bento for Yang Kaiwen and said, "If someone comes to date, you won't give it away";
In the hut, everyone celebrated their birthday for one of the girls. He quietly took out a small gift to Kaiwen, saying, "I don't want other girls to receive gifts but you don't have one";
When Kaiwen ran out to buy oil alone, Qijun did not avoid the eyes of everyone and chased her out to accompany her.
Their love has continued to this day and has been praised by netizens as the "love ceiling".
In love, "being good to you" is just a basic condition, but what really makes you sure of the other person's intentions is a firm choice and blatant preference.
This feeling comes from women's pursuit of a sense of security.
Psychology shows that people’s emotional sense of security is divided into two types: one is that they will not be violated, swallowed, and controlled; the other is that they will not be abandoned, stay away, and be disgusted.
The former is often a male demand, while the latter is often a female desire.
For a woman, it means having a reliable relationship and that she can always be seen, affirmed, and accepted.
Someone has said that what a woman is most proud of is not how many suitors she has, but how firmly she can be chosen by a person and never leave her no matter how long she has been together.
deeply agrees with it.
What women desire most is the feeling of "exclusive" and "unique".
They long for a relationship that is "not bad" and have a hug that can hold their own hard no matter how they make trouble.
Only when women are firmly chosen can they taste the taste of love and have the confidence to "make trouble" in front of the loved ones. What is the feeling that women desire most in love? Recently, in the popular variety show " Heart-warming Signal 5", Li Wanyi and Guo Haoran's date became a hot search.
The woman carefully prepared a date, but the boy was absent-minded throughout the whole process, without a trace of enjoyment, and did not care about the girl's mood at all.
In the comment section, netizens complained about the behavior of the male guest:
"You showed goodwill to me at the beginning, but why now you suddenly withdraw your feelings and turn to other girls?"
In fact, in real life, two people in the ambiguous or romantic stage will also encounter similar confusion.
What a woman cares most about in love is not the man’s appearance or talent, but whether he can give him the three feelings he wants most.
1
is firmly chosen, and is blatantly favored
sanmao said: "If what you give to others is the same as what you give to me, then I don't want it. After all, what we want more than love and being loved is preference."
Life is far and fast, and the world is unpredictable. I don't seek for a lifetime, but I just want to be firmly chosen and treated for the same end. What does it feel like to be favored by
?
There is an answer online, the words are rough and not rough:
"Preference is the person you can't call even if you make dozens of calls. I only need a punctuation mark to blow my phone up."
Preference does not mean that one party loves more than the other party, but that one person loves you more than others, and some things are done only for you.
Do you still remember Yang Kaiwen and Zhao Qijun in "Signal of Heartbeat 2"? This pair of "Single CP" has made many people see the preference in love, and it turns out that it is so fascinating.
Go to the zoo, Zhao Qijun made a bento for Yang Kaiwen and said, "If someone comes to date, you won't give it away";
In the hut, everyone celebrated their birthday for one of the girls. He quietly took out a small gift to Kaiwen, saying, "I don't want other girls to receive gifts but you don't have one";
When Kaiwen ran out to buy oil alone, Qijun did not avoid the eyes of everyone and chased her out to accompany her.
Their love has continued to this day and has been praised by netizens as the "love ceiling".
In love, "being good to you" is just a basic condition, but what really makes you sure of the other person's intentions is a firm choice and blatant preference.
This feeling comes from women's pursuit of a sense of security.
Psychology shows that people’s emotional sense of security is divided into two types: one is that they will not be violated, swallowed, and controlled; the other is that they will not be abandoned, stay away, and be disgusted.
The former is often a male demand, while the latter is often a female desire.
For a woman, it means having a reliable relationship and that she can always be seen, affirmed, and accepted.
Someone has said that what a woman is most proud of is not how many suitors she has, but how firmly she can be chosen by a person and never leave her no matter how long she has been together.
deeply agrees with it.
What women desire most is the feeling of "exclusive" and "unique".
They long for a relationship that is "not bad" and have a hug that can hold their own hard no matter how they make trouble.
Only when women are firmly chosen can they taste the taste of love and have the confidence to "make trouble" in front of the loved ones.
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carve the details into your heart and implement them in action
The difference between love and non-love, just like the difference between good and evil, there are objective standards. Love is action, not fantasy. —— "The Road of Few People"
Love does not have to be said, but it will definitely be reflected in action. In the TV series " Jiang Zhao Liming ", how perfunctory Su Rui's feelings for Li Xiaonan are, you can see from the details.
My wife was just discharged from the hospital after the operation. He only cared about his own chopsticks when eating, and complained that the food was too salty; his wife couldn't drink ice, so he took a drink with ice cubes and argued that he had forgotten it; his wife pulled a heavy cart out of the stall, but he lowered her head to play with her mobile phone from behind, and was too lazy to even make a move.
people will lie, but the details will not help him lie.
Love is the details, and not love is the same.
Miyazaki Hayao once said:
"Details, you only do it, it becomes cheap; I say you don't do it, I become very cheap."
My grandparents have never said "I love you" to each other, but they have engraved their love for each other into their real life.
Grandma knew that her grandfather liked to eat elbows, and she always made it for her grandfather every now and then; she knew that her grandfather liked to play mahjong, and she would make a big cup of tea every time, and then asked me to send it to her.
Although grandpa is not good at speaking, he always stays with grandma. They buy vegetables together, go to the park together, and make dumplings together... If one day finds that grandma is not here, grandpa will feel uncomfortable all over.
What can touch people's hearts is never language, but action.
What women really care about is not how much they have paid, but the attitude shown by men.
People who love you will not be able to make you feel wronged even if you are poor or destitute; people who don’t love you will not be willing to spend a penny on you even if they have a fortune in their family.
Hypocritical enthusiasm is fleeting, only sincere efforts are consistent.
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is unconditionally tolerated, and put it in the shoes of putting yourself in
Wang Xiaobo in a letter to Li Yinhe wrote:
"I give you my whole soul, along with its quirks, tantrums, flickering, and tantrums, and 1,800 bad habits. It really hates, only a little good, I love you."
What women desire most is that they are still unconditionally tolerated even though they know that they have many shortcomings.
Not long ago, my friend Shanshan told me that her boyfriend broke up with her.
During the entire communication, Shanshan has been "examining" what she did not do well enough:
She feels that she is not beautiful enough and does not grow up with her boyfriend's aesthetic point; she feels that her work is not stable enough and cannot be worthy of her boyfriend's excellence; she feels that she often throws a tantrum and disappoints her boyfriend, which will lead to a breakup.
I was not surprised at all after listening to her confession.
Because, You cannot wake up a person who pretends to be asleep, nor can you keep someone who doesn’t love you.
Love must be tolerant, understanding and affirmation, and definitely not disgust, harshness and pickiness.
If a woman is taken seriously, she will definitely exude a confident atmosphere, her eyes are full of tenderness, rather than worrying about gains and losses all day long and falling into deep self-doubt.
In the relationship between the two sides of the gender, women are not only eager to be tolerated, but also eager to be understood.
I watched a video and felt it deeply.
The husband complains about his wife and always cares about housework with himself. After get off work, his wife not only refused to let him rest, but also insisted on finding work for him, such as helping with laundry, getting some hands on it, and throwing garbage.
The husband has always been unable to understand his wife's behavior and feels that she is not considerate enough to herself. However, a family gathering changed his mind.
At the sister-in-law's house, her husband witnessed her sister working alone in the kitchen. On the way, the child cried and wanted to drink milk. She was in a hurry, greeting the guests and coaxing the child.
Although my sister is young, she shows her tired old look and full of hostility.
At this time, the husband asked his brother-in-law why he didn't come to help. The younger sister said:
"Don't mention it, it's the same whether he has him or not in this family. I only know how to use busyness and fatigue to scatter housework all day long. As soon as I ask, he will go to the bathroom to hide. It seems that I am the only one living in this family."
The couple looked at each other and smiled knowingly.
At this moment, the husband realized that his wife did not care about who did more housework, but hoped that the family would participate.
The small things he once thought were not worth mentioning are often the most heart-wrenching and the most emotional test
What really touches a woman is the tolerance of men to her without prerequisites and the consideration of putting herself in her shoes.
Time will save the person who treats you best for the end. He is the one who is willing to take care of your emotions and spend the joys and sorrows with you after seeing through your temper.
at the end:
Love or not, in fact, you can feel:
He will definitely leave all his preferences to you, no one else is you everywhere;
He will definitely break the love apart, blend it into a vegetable and a meal, and be confined to a day and a night;
He will definitely cherish the feelings between you from the bottom of his heart, tolerate everything about you, and love you is like loving life.
Please cherish this person.
Text丨Bai Xiaojing Little woman's perspective, interpreting the big world
The husband complains about his wife and always cares about housework with himself. After get off work, his wife not only refused to let him rest, but also insisted on finding work for him, such as helping with laundry, getting some hands on it, and throwing garbage.
The husband has always been unable to understand his wife's behavior and feels that she is not considerate enough to herself. However, a family gathering changed his mind.
At the sister-in-law's house, her husband witnessed her sister working alone in the kitchen. On the way, the child cried and wanted to drink milk. She was in a hurry, greeting the guests and coaxing the child.
Although my sister is young, she shows her tired old look and full of hostility.
At this time, the husband asked his brother-in-law why he didn't come to help. The younger sister said:
"Don't mention it, it's the same whether he has him or not in this family. I only know how to use busyness and fatigue to scatter housework all day long. As soon as I ask, he will go to the bathroom to hide. It seems that I am the only one living in this family."
The couple looked at each other and smiled knowingly.
At this moment, the husband realized that his wife did not care about who did more housework, but hoped that the family would participate.
The small things he once thought were not worth mentioning are often the most heart-wrenching and the most emotional test
What really touches a woman is the tolerance of men to her without prerequisites and the consideration of putting herself in her shoes.
Time will save the person who treats you best for the end. He is the one who is willing to take care of your emotions and spend the joys and sorrows with you after seeing through your temper.
at the end:
Love or not, in fact, you can feel:
He will definitely leave all his preferences to you, no one else is you everywhere;
He will definitely break the love apart, blend it into a vegetable and a meal, and be confined to a day and a night;
He will definitely cherish the feelings between you from the bottom of his heart, tolerate everything about you, and love you is like loving life.
Please cherish this person.
Text丨Bai Xiaojing Little woman's perspective, interpreting the big world
