With the improvement of social conditions and the improvement of living standards, many young people do not like to live with the elderly, especially young people who get married and get married. Why is this? After reading the following 4 points, you will know the reason!
First, different life concepts
People often say that there is always a generation gap between two generations when they get along with each other. This may be an objective thing. After all, the elderly have come from the hard days. They have many different opinions on consumption concepts, life attitudes, and ways to educate children. Even in common language, there are many lack of consistency in opinions. Young people have different views from the elderly. Their ideas are much more open, but the ideas of the elderly are different. They still have the old ideas of more traditional feudalism and will not be adaptable. It is difficult to communicate between the two, and if the communication is not good, it may affect family harmony.
Second, different living habits
means different work and rest time. Nowadays, young people are under great pressure in society, and their pace of life is relatively faster. Most young people are also used to this pace of life and habits. Some people stay up late until very late, and even rest every night near 12 o'clock, and hurried to work the next day. There are also some people who, when they are on holidays or on holidays, are even more inclined to day and night, and do not sleep at night and do not get up in the morning. The most important breakfast of the day is spared, and it’s time to have lunch when you wake up. Most elderly people have the habit of going to bed early and getting up early and eating on time. If they live under the same roof, they will never be able to match the young people. Sometimes they want to go to bed early at night, and young people are woken up as soon as they get home from get off work. After a long time, they can’t stand the energy.
Third, marriage issues
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been regarded as the most difficult relationship in the world, and the same is true for the relationship between father-in-law and son-in-law. Because when getting married, a person has to enter an originally unfamiliar family, and there are more strange "relatives" that cannot be close or far away. Marriage allows two unrelated families to form a new small family again. There is an old saying: "Since ancient times, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not in harmony." Young people want to live a two-person world after marriage, so that there is more freedom. If you live with both parties or the elderly, there is a big gap between them and the elderly, both habits and ideas, which can easily cause conflicts. For men, it is difficult to deal with it properly. It is okay for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to be more generous, but if you care about it, it is really troublesome, so it is not as rare as common.
Fourth, Parenting Different concepts
Some elderly people think that they have raised their sons to get married now and have a rich experience in raising their children. A large part of these novice parents are highly educated and feel that the parenting knowledge they have learned is definitely more scientific than traditional child raising, and of course their children need to be taken care of according to their own ideas, and there is no need for the elderly to take care of their children for them. Moreover, some elderly people are too close to their grandchildren and rely on "porn" to take care of their children, and they cannot beat or scold them, and give them whatever they want. It is easy to affect family harmony because of inconsistent parenting concepts.
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