Introduction: A married woman, no matter what the reason is, should not touch the bottom line of marriage. If she cannot continue, she can file a divorce with the other party. It is the stupidest way to cheat on other men on your back. Infidelity will not only ruin your reputation, but will also make your relatives lose face.
My surname is Chen, I am 38 years old this year, I have been married to my husband for 16 years, and we have a son and a daughter. A year ago, I cheated on a neighbor man and ended up like this after my husband discovered it.
My husband and I are in a free relationship, and my husband is 8 years older than me. We got married less than two years ago, mainly because I was 5 months pregnant at that time.
Plus my parents divorced when I was 5 years old, and I lived with my mother. Later, my mother took me to remarry, but the man was not good to me, and my mother divorced again for me, and my mother never remarried again after that.
I may have lacked fatherly love since I was a child. When I grew up, I was particularly eager to get fatherly love, so I chose a man who was 8 years older than me to live.
When I was with my husband, I didn’t understand what love was, I just knew that my husband was very nice to me and I wanted to live with him for the rest of my life.
Although my husband has no great ability, he would rather be hungry than let me be hungry after living with him.
After marriage, I gave birth to a son and a daughter for my husband. My husband also worked hard to make money for our family, but it was a bit difficult to support a family of four by working alone, and my husband's salary is only about 5,000 yuan a month.
My husband has an elderly mother who lives in the countryside and can’t help us take care of the children. So in order to have a better education for the children, when my son was 6 years old and my daughter was 5 years old, we moved to the city to rent a house. In order to take care of the two children, I couldn’t afford to find a job. All the expenses depended on my husband alone.
When my son was 10 years old, my husband planned to work in Africa with his friends. He heard from his friends that working in Africa is better than working in Africa for one month than working in the local area for three months.
At first I disagreed. I went to Africa too far and I might not be able to come back during the Chinese New Year, but the money I earned locally is only enough for living expenses.
My husband persuaded him that in order to have a good future, he will only come back for a few years, and he will definitely come back to spend the New Year with us every year during the New Year. My husband said this and I agreed to go to Africa.
After my husband and friends went to Africa, he would pay me 10,000 yuan every month, so that my children and I could live without worries.
In the first three years, my husband came back during the Chinese New Year. Later, the epidemic came, and my husband never came back during the Chinese New Year, but he would send me money every month and call me at a fixed time.
But after a long time, my husband is not around, there are some things in life that women can’t do, so they can only ask others for help.
Two children live on school when they go to junior high school, and I am the only one who lives alone in the rented house. Sometimes when the water pipe breaks, I ask my neighbors to help repair it, but when the light bulb breaks, I still ask my neighbors to help me. After a while, I get familiar with the neighbors and men.
The neighbor man heard that his wife took his son away, and he heard that his wife disliked him for being poor and incompetent, and earned about 2,000 yuan a month, which was not as much as his wife.
When I learned about the neighbor's man, I felt that this man was also very sad. Although the man didn't know how to make a lot of money, the man had a good character.
I live on the third floor. I remember one time I bought a large bucket of mineral water and moved from the first floor to the third floor. I happened to be seen by a man from the neighbor, so he helped me get the water to the third floor without saying a word.
Over time, we gradually became friends who could talk about everything. He told me about his past, and I told him about the incident that my husband had encountered the epidemic in Africa when he went to work in Africa.
We are all adults. Over time, things that shouldn’t have happened. I didn’t regret it at that time. Sometimes I thought maybe this is the love I want!
A man is two years younger than me. He is handsome and beautiful. Sometimes I will inadvertently compare him with my husband. When I am with a neighbor, I feel like I am in love, and I like this feeling very much. When I was with my husband, I felt like my father’s love for my daughter.
After a long time, my husband was not around, and slowly I got together with the neighbor man. When my children were not at home, I went to the neighbor man's house. Of course, when my son and my daughter were at home, my man and I were just neighbors.
We have been together for a year. When there is no one, we are each other's companions, and when there is someone, we are just ordinary neighbors.
As the saying goes: There is no reason to not wet your shoes when you walk by the river often.
My husband, who has not returned home for several years, did not tell me about the surprise. He went through various procedures for returning home half a year ago. Due to the epidemic, the way back was very difficult. He was quarantined many times along the way and took half a year to come back.
He didn't tell me and came back secretly. When he got home, it was not an exaggeration to say that he was my father.
The children were going to school at that time, and the neighbor was at my house. We hadn't gotten up yet. When my husband came back, he just happened to hit everything. I was so scared that I didn't know what to do.
My husband also knew what was going on. Seeing this, the neighbor man quickly left my house. My husband angrily smashed all the things in the house. The whole room was in a mess instantly, which scared me to tremble. I knew that nothing I said was useless.
I walked to my husband and knelt down, begging my husband to forgive me. My husband slapped me with his hand and shouted loudly, "I can't bear to eat, wear, and try my best to make money." You, do such shameless things, get out of here.
I held my husband's legs tightly and refused to let go, saying sorry, sorry, but my husband still kicked me away ruthlessly.
My husband filed for divorce and asked me to leave the house with nothing. I don’t know about the two children. Now a few days have passed, and my husband doesn’t want to see me, but I don’t want to get a divorce. Since my husband found out about our affairs, the neighbor man has disappeared. Now I regret it. What should I do next? I can't leave my husband.
(The story of this article happened in the street next to me, and the "I" in the article also wrote from Ms. Chen's perspective)
Conclusion: This incident made all neighbors know about it. At the beginning, I couldn't believe it because Ms. Chen's people did not look like that kind of person. It was really shocking that such a thing happened. Ms. Chen, who is usually gentle and elegant, could not tell that she had done such a thing.
I want to say to Ms. Chen, leave some dignity for your husband! Divorce is your only choice, it is that you have done something unforgivable. Even if you don’t divorce, you will not be able to go back to the past. Your husband can keep himself clean, why can’t you? Maybe as you said yourself, you just treat your husband as a father!
