I have heard this saying: We got married because we didn’t understand, but we divorced because we understood. This sentence is really true, because there are so many wives who come to me for consultation. The most they say is regretting getting married.
Maybe you love a man very much before marriage, and your eyes are full of his goodness, but in fact, any man will let you see his best side before falling in love.
If you want to see if a man is suitable for marriage, it depends not only on how he wants you, but more importantly, you need to understand his family, because the formation of his personality is brought by the family.
Marriage is not gambling. Now your neglect can only increase risks for your future marriage life and hurt yourself. So no matter what, you must read this article today. If you want to make your marriage happy, you must understand these 3 points of his original family!
1. What is the other family like in the eyes of others?
Most of the unhappiness after marriage comes from the helplessness in marriage. Some people may not necessarily understand the other person’s true personality after ten years of marriage. They can only ask themselves over and over again in pain, why marriage becomes like this.
The native family has a huge impact on a person's character and personality. Therefore, if you understand the status of his family in the eyes of others, you will most likely know what kind of person he is.
A student before me met his husband on a blind date. He was not happy after marriage, and let him recall the details of getting along with his family during love. She said: "Once I went to his house to play and they took me out for dinner.
Because it happened to be the meal time and there were many people, the serving speed was slow. After waiting for half an hour, the dish was not served, so he called the waiter to ask, "Can you hurry up? It's almost an hour, but there's not a single dish?"
The waiter patiently explained: "Sorry, there are many people at midday rush hour. Please wait patiently, I'll go urge the dishes! "As a result, his mother refused to give in: "What are you doing?" Such a big hotel is so serviceable? Call your manager for me! "
In fact, just this action can be seen that this man's family status is aggressive towards outsiders, has no empathy, and will only think about his own interests.
As expected, after understanding, after marriage, this student suffered from aggressiveness from her husband. Every time he had conflicts, he would only blame him, and would not think from the perspective of others, or even not want to listen to what she said. The two people's frustration By gradually cooling.
Other people's evaluation, the outside state can best reflect the situation of a family, and how good can people who grow up under such tutoring?
2. Understanding the economic status of the other party's family
This is really important, it is not It is material things, but you have to see clearly. If you get married, what kind of situation will you face after marriage.
Whether the other party’s family is in debt, whether he wants to help the family pay off the debt, and how much they are capable of getting married, you have to understand all these.
Understanding the family’s debt situation is to see the future. Whether your small family has to pay off the debt with hardships and understand the economic status of their family depends on what the other party’s concept of money is.
Families with poor economy naturally look very important for every economic expenditure, because they have to spend every money on the edge. Therefore, after marriage, you must live such a life with him. You can't buy things randomly, and you can't spend your own money.
How long can you last in such a state? Some people think that love is bigger than the sky, as long as this man is willing to make progress, the economy is almost okay.
There are indeed many men who have reversals after marriage, but the degree of attention to the economy will not change, and he is likely to not give you the romance you want after marriage. Consumption concepts will be different from you.
Therefore, it is still necessary to be of equal status in terms of economy, because consumption concepts will be similar, so naturally there will be no disputes over money.
3. Understand the other party’s family’s evaluation of you
Remember, don’t just read it to tell you the attitude and evaluation of his family towards you, because in order to marry you, he will only choose good things to tell you.
But there are many people, whose parents do not support this relationship, so most people will not have a good evaluation in the face of you, and it is just because they like you and want to be with you, so they will always be a good side in front of you.
To confirm whether his words are true, you can go to his house to see how his parents are in all aspects of their attitude towards you, how a person is dissatisfied with you, small details cannot deceive people.
For example, the details of the other party’s parents’ expressions, tone of speaking, and the way of entertaining you can all show how much they value you.
Someone said that I married him, but not his parents, so I don’t care. That's right, you are marrying him, but unless you don't interact with his parents after marriage, you can only let him contact his parents. Do you think you can?
The above three points, if you fail to understand clearly before marriage, marriage is destined to be problematic, not only the running-in between food, food, oil and salt, but also the pain and torture caused by personality differences, family differences, and thinking differences.
Marriage is not that easy and not that complicated. The key is that your choice is very important. I hope today's content can help you avoid pitfalls, and I also hope that if you are also suffering such pain, you can have the ability to stop losses in time! #No. 1 Jieyouguan#
There are indeed many men who have reversals after marriage, but the degree of attention to the economy will not change, and he is likely to not give you the romance you want after marriage. Consumption concepts will be different from you.
Therefore, it is still necessary to be of equal status in terms of economy, because consumption concepts will be similar, so naturally there will be no disputes over money.
3. Understand the other party’s family’s evaluation of you
Remember, don’t just read it to tell you the attitude and evaluation of his family towards you, because in order to marry you, he will only choose good things to tell you.
But there are many people, whose parents do not support this relationship, so most people will not have a good evaluation in the face of you, and it is just because they like you and want to be with you, so they will always be a good side in front of you.
To confirm whether his words are true, you can go to his house to see how his parents are in all aspects of their attitude towards you, how a person is dissatisfied with you, small details cannot deceive people.
For example, the details of the other party’s parents’ expressions, tone of speaking, and the way of entertaining you can all show how much they value you.
Someone said that I married him, but not his parents, so I don’t care. That's right, you are marrying him, but unless you don't interact with his parents after marriage, you can only let him contact his parents. Do you think you can?
The above three points, if you fail to understand clearly before marriage, marriage is destined to be problematic, not only the running-in between food, food, oil and salt, but also the pain and torture caused by personality differences, family differences, and thinking differences.
Marriage is not that easy and not that complicated. The key is that your choice is very important. I hope today's content can help you avoid pitfalls, and I also hope that if you are also suffering such pain, you can have the ability to stop losses in time! #No. 1 Jieyouguan#
